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  2. Here's the latest update from the Pentagon: http://www.latimes.com/politics/washington/la-na-essential-washington-updates-top-u-s-general-tells-military-leaders-1501171360-htmlstory.html With POTUS' short attention span, he may not remember to issue any guidelines, and the whole thing will be dropped. We'll see if this is just another brain fart from the Idiot-In-Chief. Carolyn Marie
  3. Birth sex = gender, back when I grew up (60,70's) they were considered one in the same, with no options, no variances. I was socialized as a boy, I got along as best I could. I had major social issues growing up, my first day of school my mother was summoned for discussions with the teacher. I was taken to many counselors as a young person. I was put in "special classes" in school. I worried about why I liked girls and girl things so much, this produced anxiety and fear of being discovered. The prevailing messages of the day, told me that it was simply unacceptable for boys to be feminine. So all my desires and thoughts went underground (sometimes surfacing at the oddest times). In 1976 I read the story about Rene Richards in a magazine, I did not let anyone see me read this. I knew then I wanted to live as female and her story was hugely inspirational to me at the time. The pictures of her in her tennis dress on the court competing in Women's tennis, was unbelievable, I was jaw dropped. I knew I wanted a sex change then. I dreamed of having a female body, I dreamed of living as a woman, it was overwhelming. Much of my adult life was spent keeping these desires suppressed. I remember when I proposed to my wife to be, I was thinking this would fix me. I created an external facade so that no one would suspect me. I could only last so long, before I had to face my truth, and my being. Today my early dreams have largely come true, while it's not all roses, and nothing is perfect, I live a far more authentic life and my overall well being is the best ever. Cynthia -
  4. Transgender People Banned From Military By Trump!!

    Costs? I've read the military spent $84M on viagra last year. And the Military Bands cost $437M. I think $2.4M to $8.4M estimated cost is a bargain. Jani
  5. Study: HRT Poses Cardiovascular Risks In Adult Trans Folk

    Good info, yes there are risks, and I take steps to help mitigate them. My Dr helps keep me running in top form here later in life. I get blood work done every 6 months, and I have my hormone regimen fine tuned post op. Exercise, diet, and regular monitoring helps keep my overall well being far better than before. My BP / glucose readings are substantially better these days. I have annual mammograms performed as well. Heath and happiness C -
  6. Study: HRT Poses Cardiovascular Risks In Adult Trans Folk

    Thank you for posting this Carolyn Marie. HRT as we call it is quite risky for many of us. I have severe coronary artery disease(CVD). Some forms of E could prove very injurious and all might have the potential of danger especially if i was foolish enough to self medicate. This passage points to my prescribed path: "Compared with high-dose oral ethinyl estradiol formulations, lower-dose transdermal and oral bioidentical estrogen formulations are superior. It is crucial to reduce CV risk factors, such as increased BP, diabetes and tobacco use, for the prevention of CVD in transgender populations, especially older transgender women with higher CV risks, regardless of the age of initiation or duration of CSHT, according to the authors." I'm grateful to a great team of doctors who supervise and keep this old gal moving. Hugs, Charlize
  7. Transgender People Banned From Military By Trump!!

    I wonder if there is going to be a massive boycottt of the trump brand.
  8. Happy Birthday's

    Good morning!ūüźē Happy Birthday chlorine!ūüéā Happy Birthday Gretchen!ūüéā Happy Birthday hoojee15!ūüéā Happy Birthday Perky Jackie!ūüéā Hope your day is special! Lots of love, Timber Wolfūüźĺ
  9. A lot of assorted bad experiences from people, so sad I never thought and just accepted things in my early years although do remember playing with my sister's toys as well as my own. Personally I didn't really feel the differences in attitude toward male and female until I started school. I grew up as me although have never accepted being 'just male'. My first assertion, at least privately to me, was in first school when I heard one boy telling another that he shouldn't do something as only girls did it (I am not sure what that was, or ever knew). I did not agree and even remember not undestanding why not. I was never strongly female, and never greatly male either as far as I remember. I did do very feminine things at times, and didn't really get on with male things or groups. I was picked on a lot. I did occasionally request very feminine clothing but I did realise that going too far would result in grief so was cautious. It was only in my late teens when I more openly wore feminine clothing / colours and in the last few years dresses and skirts. Tracy
  10. Transgender People Banned From Military By Trump!!

    Panic, NO. but indignation and frustration are up there for consideration. Having Twitter block him is high in the national interest to be sure.
  11. https://www.healio.com/internal-medicine/practice-management/news/online/{6336790c-d970-426a-8f07-ed7898903fc1}/hormone-therapy-for-transgender-adults-pose-potential-cvd-risks Carolyn Marie
  12. http://wtop.com/montgomery-county/2017/07/conviction-death-md-transgender-woman-21/ Carolyn Marie
  13. Transgender People Banned From Military By Trump!!

    Lots of analysis today, and opinions from law school types, military types and political types. What seems clear is that nothing about this is clear, despite Trump's seeming definitive pronouncement. The military wasn't on board with this, and the latest I heard is that they are currently saying that currently serving and out service members are not going to be forced out. The problem is that the only person who gave this any thought is Trump, and we all know how little he actually does of that on any given subject. So its best to just wait and see what the follow-up is, what the military brass says in a week or two. Even the ACLU isn't going to do anything until and unless they see an actual written policy. Bottom line is, this is not the time to panic. Carolyn Marie
  14. I am hoping to re-start the substance abuse meeting at the chatrooms on Sundays at 9:00 eastern. That part of Trans?Pulse no longer requires Java which my machine had difficulties dealing with. Hope you can join us there if you feel you have an issue with using alcohol or other substances.
  15. Transgender People Banned From Military By Trump!!

    I'm confident that this is a bump in the road. It's just like what happened with Civil Rights and Gay Rights. Some jerk(s) come along after the conversation gets started and try to derail the whole thing with their bigotry. This is why I'm all about being public. I feel like we are hitting tip over. It's time to push forward harder than ever now. I refuse to go back into the closet! Just remember, nobody can make us feel small unless we let them! Go watch Wonder Woman and get inspired! Love and Light!!
  16. Transgender People Banned From Military By Trump!!

    I'm glad your feeling better. These things do hurt my feeling of self worth. You are not alone in your feelings. Hugs, Charlize
  17. the urges are too strong

    I hope your still hanging in there Joshua! I know the power of need that self harm can create. I am an addict in recovery and can say that the urges pass. It sometimes feels like they won't but if i reach out and take my mind away from them they do. I have to remember as well that if (in my case) i use it never seems to really help. It just makes me want more. As i remember that and get help i'm able to continue and over time i've discovered that the urges lessen and at this point they are rare but only if i'm honest and get the help i need. Your certainly doing the right thing by communicating here and at chat. Hugs, Charlize
  18. Getting over a hurt

    Sorry to hear the comment made you feel bad. Hopping things get better for you. Thanks for all you do on this forum. We will probably never gain the acceptance that we hope for. Best wishes.
  19. the urges are too strong

    Thanks for telling me your age Joshua, you are a very brave and courageous young man, and I admire your strength, as I do my son's. The very fact that you are here in this forum and use the chat tells me you want to get better, feel better. I hope I am right. I wish I had a solution for you (and for my son) to start feeling better... unfortunately I don't, but please keep coming back here for support when you need it. i have suffered for years from anxiety, and it has gradually gotten better with age... and i also learned to focus on the moment, to push away any guilt or shame or regrets from the past, and to also push away worries about the future. Whenever I am in a bad state I stop everything I am doing and try to focus on each second at a time. That helps me, but my son doesn't use mindfulness as a coping skill, so not sure if you've tried it or if you're interested in trying it. There is a lot online about it. I think you must have amazing strength of character and determination that few people even come close to having. As you continue through your journey, you will become even stronger and will be an inspiration to many who will follow in your path. Please keep checking in. Big hug. Johanne
  20. Transgender People Banned From Military By Trump!!

    I am ok now. But I feel like things will just get worse...
  21. the urges are too strong

    Joshua, i just read your post. Wow, I can so feel your pain through your words. And my son had a very difficult day today too. From the little I know about you, I already feel like you and him are so alike. I don't know your age, but my son just turned 18 yesterday and that was very difficult for him, as there were no friends to celebrate with. I hope you are able to distract yourself tonight. You matter to all of us, and most importantly you matter to your mom. I am here to help and support you. This community is here for you. I am so thankful that you are using it, using the chat and forums. One little minute at a time. Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts and strength your way. Johanne
  22. Transgender People Banned From Military By Trump!!

    It really makes me want to sit and cry..I almost called the suicide hotline..
  23. Thanks Ravin, that's true, and he's willingly seeing a general therapist who has worked with transgender individuals before, and I think they have a good connection. I am doing the best I can, I just always wonder if there is anything else, anything more I could or should be doing. I'll keep checking in here for advice and support. Johanne ps HUGE hugs to all on a difficult news day ūüėĘ
  24. Johanne, it sounds like that particular therapist was a bad fit for your son. How frustrating! I agree with others that you are doing what you can. It sounds like at this point gender isn't his main issue right now--having that sorted doesn't necessarily automatically solve other problems.
  25. Netflix is good, chat is good. If you have anything in the room you can use to harm, I would ask that you gather it up and put it as far away from you in the house as you can. Let Netflix and chat be the only thing in front of you.
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    • Carolyn Marie
      Here's the latest update from the Pentagon: http://www.latimes.com/politics/washington/la-na-essential-washington-updates-top-u-s-general-tells-military-leaders-1501171360-htmlstory.html With POTUS' short attention span, he may not remember to issue any guidelines, and the whole thing will be dropped.  We'll see if this is just another brain fart from the Idiot-In-Chief. Carolyn Marie
    • CyndiRae
        Birth sex = gender, back when I grew up (60,70's) they were considered one in the same, with no options, no variances. I was socialized as a boy, I got along as best I could. I had major social issues growing up, my first day of school my mother was summoned for discussions with the teacher. I was taken to many counselors as a young person. I was put in "special classes" in school. I worried about why I liked girls and girl things so much, this produced anxiety and fear of being discovered. The prevailing messages of the day, told me that it was simply unacceptable for boys to be feminine. So all my desires and thoughts went underground (sometimes surfacing at the oddest times). In 1976 I read the story about Rene Richards in a magazine, I did not let anyone see me read this. I knew then I wanted to live as female and her story was hugely inspirational to me at the time. The pictures of her in her tennis dress on the court competing in Women's tennis, was unbelievable, I was jaw dropped. I knew I wanted a sex change then. I dreamed of having a female body, I dreamed of living as a woman, it was overwhelming. Much of my adult life was spent keeping these desires suppressed. I remember when I proposed to my wife to be, I was thinking this would fix me. I created an external facade so that no one would suspect me. I could only last so long, before I had to face my truth, and my being. Today my early dreams have largely come true, while it's not all roses, and nothing is perfect, I live a far more authentic life and my overall well being is the best ever.  Cynthia -
    • Jani423
      Costs?  I've read the military spent $84M on viagra last year.  And the Military Bands cost $437M.  I think $2.4M to $8.4M estimated cost is a bargain. Jani
    • CyndiRae
      Good info, yes there are risks, and I take steps to help mitigate them. My Dr helps keep me running in top form here later in life. I get blood work done every 6 months, and I have my hormone regimen fine tuned post op. Exercise, diet, and regular monitoring helps keep my overall well being far better than before. My BP / glucose readings are substantially better these days. I have annual mammograms performed as well.  Heath and happiness C -
    • Charlize
      Thank you for posting this Carolyn Marie.  HRT as we call it is quite risky for many of us.  I have severe coronary artery disease(CVD).  Some forms of E could prove very injurious and all might have the potential of danger especially if i was foolish enough to self medicate.  This passage points to my prescribed path:  "Compared with high-dose oral ethinyl estradiol formulations, lower-dose transdermal and oral bioidentical estrogen formulations are superior. It is crucial to reduce CV risk factors, such as increased BP, diabetes and tobacco use, for the prevention of CVD in transgender populations, especially older transgender women with higher CV risks, regardless of the age of initiation or duration of CSHT, according to the authors." I'm grateful to a great team of doctors who supervise and keep this old gal moving.   Hugs,   Charlize  
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