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    • A. Dillon
      This might just be a tad too late, but have you ever heard of compression shirts? There are men's compression shirts which are meant to give your body a more masculine shape, and while it doesn't completely flatten your chest, it does greatly reduce your hips and if you wear a dark shirt no one can tell.
    • KathyLauren
      I agree with Jackie and Susan that you are not in the best situation right now, being dependent on your parents.  You might want to wait until you are more self-sufficient.    When the time comes, remember that confidence comes from experience.  Waiting until you are more confident, when you have no experience, you might end up doing what I did, and not coming out until you are in your 60s.  I don't recommend that.  At some point, you will have to step a bit outside your comfort zone.  That's how we make progress.   But right now might not be the time to do that.
    • Carolyn Marie
      First of all, Nolan, welcome to Trans Pulse.  I certainly empathize with your situation there; Poland and too many other European countries are getting to be terrible places to be in as an LGBT person.  I hope you can survive and thrive there, even if you have to stay more in the closet than you would like.   I don't have any experience related to what you are feeling, and what you fear.  I can't be much help.  One suggestion is that anyone you meet or want to date, please do so in a public place, like a coffee shop, where there are others around, and never go with more than one male.  Make sure someone knows who you are with and where you are going, and arrange a time to call them to tell them you're safe.  That will offer some protection.   I don't know if there are still LGBT centers in Poland, but if you can find one then maybe they can help with advice or help you find a therapist or counselor.  I wish you all the best, Nolan.   HUGS   Carolyn Marie
    • VickySGV
      Actual talk of sex and sex acts are beyond the things we can discuss here since we do have members under 18 years old here.  Relations to people in general are fair game to be talking about but not how you will have sex with them. None of us on staff or membership are licensed therapists, so my first thought for you is to find a therapist who is comfortable talking about both Gay Sex and Gender Dysphoria who can help work you through your anxieties, which are real. You are probably going to have to go our of Poland on the internet where you may be able to find counselors who can help you from Germany or Holland.  Short of leaving Poland I see no other avenues, so for now, let your LGBTQ issues take a back seat and work on finding a way to get into a surrounding culture where you can be accepted. Those are based on my best vibrations based on being a California USA person.
    • Dinaki
      I am glad you fancied watching Greyhound dear Susan.
    • Susan R
      I watched Greyhound too. Great flick but it seemed so much shorter than “Saving Private Ryan“. One thing I enjoyed was the sound effects/music used to create suspense. It was the same sound effect used in some of the Clint Eastwood spaghetti westerns which I absolutely love.😘   I then watched the first two episodes of “Visible Out On Television“. It was done so well and brought back so many memories. I remember watching almost every referenced TV episode that featured a trans character growing up. I completely related to these characters although like the theme of these episodes paraphrased...these characters were good for exposure of the LGBT community in most ways but they always had to give up something in order to get on public broadcasting. Most of the time they were unrealistic or shallow as compared to the cis characters.   I recall watching Robert Reed (the Brady Bunch dad) play an MtF back in the 70’s. My family watched Medical Center regularly and remember I was riveted to the couch when this first episode came on. The very next week part two was going to air and I had something planned that evening with a friend. I remember telling myself there is NO WAY that I’m going to miss that episode. Back then you might have to wait a few years before seeing a missed episode again. I cancelled the outing with my friend and stayed home to watch it. I watched as my favorite TV dad at that time became a woman he so desired to become. I was so jealous of him/her although it had a very somber ending. Oh! the memories.😂   Susan R🌷
    • Dinaki
      I watched the film last night and it was very good. I had to buy the movie since it was available to rent, now Downton Abbey is in my library and I can watch it again later. When you buy a movie from iTunes, it comes with some extras as well.
    • Susan R
      Welcome @K-pop. I think your counselor is wise. Doing this while living in a restricted time under the roof and control to a limited extent of your parents would be pushing it. These are hard enough times and this may create a very difficult situation if things went sideways. At 26 y.o., you have a little time to get your house in order and do this on your own terms.   Glad to have you on board.   Warmest Regards, Susan R🌷
    • Jackie C.
      Well that's unfortunate. You had a good plan going on there. I would be careful until you're out of the house. Depending on how your parents react, you could suddenly find yourself homeless in the middle of a global pandemic. That's not an ideal situation.   You should definitely have the conversation as soon as you're ready. It just gets harder with time, but you also need to be in a situation where their rejection, if it comes to that, doesn't leave you vulnerable and scrambling for a place to stay. You need to get this off your chest, but at the same time you need to keep yourself safe.   Hugs!
    • K-pop
      Thank you everyone for the kind welcome and support!   To respond to Kathy and Jackie, I guess what I want, for the moment at least, is to become more comfortable expressing myself as female and exploring my femininity. I want to be able to be open with my family about all of this, but I have so little experience with actually seeing myself as a transwoman, let alone actually presenting myself as such, that I'm afraid I'll come across as disingenuous or that I won't be able to speak with confidence to them that this is what I really want.   Between my currently living with my parents and brother, all of whom I haven't told about this, and the covid situation, finding opportunities to explore this side of myself has been difficult to say the least. I just don't know if I would be better off waiting until after I have more confidence in myself or if I'm overcomplicating things and should just bite the bullet and have the conversation.   I had recently talked this over with my counselor, and she agreed that if I was uncomfortable with the idea, I'd be better off waiting until I felt more confident; but when had talked about it, I had plans to move out and rent a place with some friends (who I have told) at the end of the summer, so I'd have some space to myself and could, at the very least, live as a woman full time at home and maybe gain the confidence I needed to be able to tell my family. Unfortunately, my friend decided to bail a few days ago, so it looks like I won't be going anywhere for a while. So I guess right now I'm feeling both physically and metaphorically stuck and I'm not really sure what my best move is...  
    • Susan R
      Hello and welcome Billy. Coming out is a good step toward self acceptance. I’m glad it went ok for everyone.  It’s a difficult step. Your wife has a lot to take in and the detachment you are experiencing could may be a temporary thing but be cautious at this point. She is likely in a state of uncertainly with both your futures in several aspects of your lives and is processing what this all means. A good solution, imho, is love, compassion and communication.  Talking is very important in this early stage. Let her know you’re aware of all her concerns and want to work with her through this. She also needs reassurance that you are inside, the same person at your core you’ve always been. It’s does sound like there is real hope for your relationship. Give her time.   While this can be true, I have met several in this category that have developed an understanding through education, training, and experience over time helping the trans community. The also gain compassion through others means...a best friend, a neighbor and/or family member coming out to them. If you are looking for a therapist with a specialty in gender issues, don’t count on easily finding one that is trans although it is possible. Depending on your area, that may be limiting your choices and there are many good therapists with this specialization that aren’t trans.   @Billy I’m glad you joined us and hope to read more. Thanks for sharing today.   Warmest Regards, Susan R🌷  
    • shelly_koleva83
      A Taurus here! 
    • Dinaki
      I watched Greyhound and I liked it.   Last night, I bought the movie Downton Abbey and it was simply amazing.   Tonight, I will binge watching on Hulu The Great
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      Absolutely Beginners Space Oddity The prettiest star  
    • Nolan
      Hi! It is my first post so hello everybody I hope I'm doing everything just right 😁 I guess I have some issue with my sexual life that I wasn't aware of for many years and I need to share it with someone.    I am bisexual, more gay, and I was in close intimacy and/or relationships only with women and ftm men, never with cis men (I had romances and kissing but never an intercourse because of just random reasons, like I hadn't found anyone with whom I could enter into a deeper intimacy or reasons like there were no place for doing it, idk 👹). I was for about 9 years in toxic relationship with ftm man and we recently broke up, so I just naturally started looking around 🙃🙂🙃 But then, when I was talking with some guys I realized that I am so afraid of meeting them because ... what if I won't know what to do?? I am almost 30 and at this point I am afraid of trying and exploring. I am scared to death that other men would treat me as a women because what if I cann't pleasure them or I wil act like a female or too feminine or someone would try to hook up with me just to check what I am and what is like with ftm, and then just use me and start talking to / about me as 'she', and laughing at me that I have no rights to think I am a man, or not even talking about this, just thinking about it and looking at me with contempt... 😟   Have you ever had these kind of thinking or situations? How to handle them if they would happened?   I think it is possible that my fears are related with my past experiences because most of men that knew about my ts was harrasing me or laughing at me, or wanted to beat me up. They were disgusted with me to the point I started hiding. 😞 Once one guy was pretending to meet with me on a date and it turned out he wanted to beat me with his friends but luckily someone warned me sooner - but all of these kind of situations was like 10 years ago and I was hiding for 10 years of who I am (also my ftm ex, who was at the same time homophobic so it was really tough times for me because he was pretending that we are just friends etc and I wasn't supposed to hand out with lgbt people because he was afraid that everybody would know about us, so now I don't have any lgbt friends, at least not in real life).  Now I don't want to be ashamed of myself anymore but I just don't know what to do if someone will be trying to humiliate me. I don't know if I could handle it because I feel alone and I have only hetero conservative friends that for example don't know the difference between ts and drag queen. I have no one to talk to. 🙁 I am not accepting that I am trans because most of the time, most of the people didn't accept me to the point I started to hate myself and even now I understand this kind point of view.    Recently I was chatting with some cis gays and some of them reject me when I told them who I am, also one of them started asking when I will have OP because other way there is no option that he will be treating me like I want to be treaten. It was very devastating for me and now I just don't know how to deal with my paranoia.  What if someone want to meet me just to attack me? Current LGBT situation in Poland is just adding a fuel to the fire.   What would you do? ☹️  
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