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    • Jackie C.
      We actually have one on the main page. It's a bit out of date though.   Hugs!
    • Laura76
      Will there be a page with a glossary of terms?  With terms and meanings changing, it is a challenge to keep up on the latest jargon.
    • Jackie C.
      A lot of that depends on where you live. Some states have protections for trans people (mine does not). Some cities might also have specific ordinances to prevent discrimination (again, none of that here). In the rest of the US, it's totally OK to discriminate against us in jobs, housing, etc...   Personally, I'd wait until the interview instead of putting it on my resume. A sort of, "Hey, my legal name is X, but I'd prefer if you called me Michelle. I'm trans and will be transitioning on the job."   Hugs!
    • Rowan
      Hi Michelle! Welcome! Around here, you'll find that there are tons of us with similar stories as yours. You aren't alone. My therapist was absolutely essential to my journey, and coming out. Hopefully, yours will be just as helpful. I hope to see you around more. Once again, welcome.😊😊😊
    • Jackie C.
      Salutations Michelle! It's good to meet you.   Congratulations on the superficially kind and loving family! Mine is spiders all the way down. A lot of us hit a wall where we can't hold down the need to be our true selves anymore. Coming out to your family, especially when you think one or more members might be hostile, is one of the biggest hurdles we get to face early on. Usually. We still haven't told my father in law. I've been myself in front of him, gone shopping with him, slept on his couch and made him breakfast for Father's Day, but we haven't told him. I have no idea what he thinks. Sorry about the hair. I got alopecia for my 39th birthday. If nothing else we cal talk about wigs. 😁   Welcome to the site! We're a friendly bunch. Poke around and don't be afraid to ask questions. Mind the rules of the site. You'll find us to be accepting and supportive community.   Hugs!
    • secondlook
      I don't know that my employer is anti-trans, but I know that management is right-of-center. I don't believe they'd be foolish enough to fire me once I reveal that I am transitioning, but I also can't see how I can have any future in a company that is never going to be comfortable with me. So I'm going to apply to some LGBT-friendly companies now, in the hopes that I can find a welcoming work environment. Most of my waking hours are spent at work, after all!   My question is, do I use my current professional name on my application materials, even knowing these are LGBT-friendly jobs I'm applying for, or do I use my soon-to-be-real-name? All of my work history is publicly available under the old name. I'm applying for the kinds of jobs where employers are going to look me up, and if they can't find me, that's a problem.   I had one idea, which is to offhandedly mention that I'm transitioning in the cover letter, not making a big deal of it, and then sign at the bottom with my old name, followed by "(aka Michelle)." Or is that too weird and convoluted?
    • secondlook
      As of today, the only person who knows that I am transgender is the therapist I'm going to speak with two days from now. Oh, and now you, whoever you are, reading this post right now.   To the eye and to everyone who knows me, I'm as masculine as any red-blooded American male could ever hope to be. I'm burly, broad-shouldered, bald and goateed. I have a deep voice and was historically a big sports fan (although in recent years that interest has waned). On top of all this, I belong to a family that is superficially loving and sweet, but that harbors a deep intolerance of any kind of societal nonconformity. I can easily summon to mind the looks of disgust on their faces anytime an LGBT topic arises.   And yet, I know that my true self is female. When I finally, fully embraced it just a short time ago, I realized that I always knew this, I was just afraid to confront it. The truth is that the parts of my personality that I have always liked are my feminine aspects, and the parts of me that appear masculine have always been forced on me by outside influences. And as I've gotten older and more and more comfortable with who I am, I've become more and more connected to my feminine side.   My wife is the one person in my life who MIGHT accept me. She's a gentle soul and accepting of life in all its wondrous variety. I only fear that the revelation of my true gender will feel like a betrayal to her, like I've been keeping something from her. I hope that my therapist can help me communicate this important life change to her in a way that is respectful and kind. We always make big life decisions together, she and I, and this feels like I've made a huge decision unilaterally. It's got my stomach in knots, thinking about how this might hurt her.   And yet, I've got to do it. I know now who I am. I'm just at the very beginning of my transition journey. I know I'm going to lose 99% of my family members' love, but then again, if they never really knew me, and if they choose not to know the real me, did they really love me?   My name is Michelle, and I'm delighted to meet you all.
    • Jackie C.
      Significant Other.   Hugs!
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    • ShawnaLeigh
      I've got one you can borrow. Its a new Benelli Ventri 12 ga.  Very smooth. I prefer my Big Bertha LD 5* custom driver and Callaway clubs though.  LOL
    • ShawnaLeigh
      Actually he is my brother.  Twin brothers.  one is good one is still absorbing the news.  They both are really kind hearted men so I am not worried.  He just needs some time.
    • KymmieL
      TammyAnn, We need to get together once I get that position in Springfield I am wanting. Same with you Shawna. I do want to travel more. I do want to go to new england. Maybe shoot some golfs as long as I can bring my shotgun.  LOL.   You are lucky to even have friends, my only one is my wife. You all know that story. So I may be losing that friend too. My two best friends are in Memphis and New Jersey. Neither one knows of me being trans. Well really now one knows that I am but a select few.   I do keep thinking of coming out to my friend in Jersey but am scared to.   Kymmie
    • Miseria
      Red I see it boiling in my head Leaving my vision crimson red Hot irons pause eternal poking Lungs are full, on soot I’m choking Far from numb I’ll eat it all Just close my eyes and feel the fall Now I taste a little sulfer All she was he did engulf her I smell it now charred and ash Every moment will not last Hear them stalking they are lurking All this talk it isn’t working Under my bed I lay and hide Who I am is all a lie Unfurl my wings and sink below Hell’s the only place to go Piercing light it burns right through My heaven used to be you Now I’m left without my treasure Every day it brings no pleasure Take a bite then spit it out This shadow casting every doubt No chains can keep me from my mission Even if no ears will listen See my lips I will not speak Too many tears rolled down my cheek Buckle up and take a leap Left bloody in broken heap Stand and limp my breath abrupt Walk and wince but I won’t give up Weeks pass I might wear a frown Life sucks but can’t keep me down Closet, I hopped right out Ignored til I scream and shout Now hear and it’s all beware Should have seen when I did declare Won’t be the one who fled Curtain call and it’s all red
    • SaraAW
      Oh wow! So happy for you Shawna. Sounds like you’ve got a ton of support and only one brother-in-law to digest and come around. *hugs*
    • Miseria
      In short, self loathing and denial its a poison i have become comfortable with for a number of years i recently stopped drinking that particular poison.
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