Corporate and Office Environments

Welcome @I-think-im-a-girl1808 I worked through Kate Bornstein's  'My (new) Gender Workbook' when I was trying to figure myself out.  She has an unusual approach.  It was interesting, and kinda fun with the pirates and all.

Yeah, she wears these... shapeless tank-style things. I prefer underwire. The girls need all the help they can get.   Hugs!

I had to wear those for years at work. It was absolute torture. I still have almost all of them and they're in the closet I wanted to clean out last weekend. I feel like purging them is going to be a powerfully healing experience and will help me find the motivation I need to risk kicking up dust and finding years-old dead bugs or live spiders (or worse!) in the process.   Is it too late for breakfast? I'll bring coffee, I think I need some of that. Glad to hear you're home and on the path to recovery from your surgery yesterday. So sweet of your wife to try to surprise you!   I'm so glad it's Friday. This has felt like an excruciating long week and I need a weekend. I have to finish the grant application today, and not to mention, I've been thrown headlong into the disaster of a vaccine rollout here in NYC. The system is buckling from the extreme demand and yet the powers-that-be expect I have a magic wand to make appointments appear. It's been nonstop expectations management, and besides, if I had a magic wand, that's not what I'd use it to do.   Hoping everyone has a lovely day. @KymmieL I hope you get that call!   Love, ~Audrey.

Oh, she's a different size, hence needing me to buy her ones "like mine" but in her size  lol.  We have both been losing weight but she is staying ahead of me so I've been getting some hand me downs that don't fit her anymore.  We almost had a crisis when for about 2 weeks I caught up to her in dress sizes. She's very supportive but she doesn't want to be the same size as me. lol

This can be hard. In my case, my ex was also a stay-at-home mother, so when we split she had no income other than our SS and my unimpressive pension.  (The split happened before I came out - even to myself) We agreed to to split this evenly between us, although it is an "informal" arrangement.  I still feel obligated, since I have always viewed it as "our" money, and she had contributed as much as myself.  Fortunately, we did have 2 houses and no debts.  She stayed in the trailer, and I moved back into our old (very substandard) place. We each have enough to get by if we're frugal. She has a boyfriend now.   Personally, I think she has been able to move on pretty well.  As for myself, less so.  But that is a different subject.

Tragically, Susan has larger breasts than I do and a narrower chest, so we're not going to be swapping bras. Also, hers are boring. Bleah.   We're both an XL top though and a 16 pants so we're close enough that we can swap clothes. Honestly, I have a couple of tops that she bought for herself and didn't fit her right, so they became my tops. Yay!   Hugs!

Haha, I can relate!  My wife had one of those "Did I just say that" moments when she asked me to pick up a bra like I wear for her when I went to Ross

Everyone is looking fabulous lately! ❤️ Today I'm just wearing my "some of us evolve differently" transition t-shirt that I picked up from Etsy and some black leggings. The thing about working from home (still!) is that I have to find reasons to put myself together in a real outfit. And failing that, feeling good about myself is reason enough sometimes... or really, always!   In no universe would I ever fit into any of my partner's stuff. It's probably better that way anyway - after I came out, that was still one of her very first questions whether I'd worn any of her things.   Love, ~Audrey.

You should absolutely not operate your spear gun in your current state. 🦊   That breakfast sounds delicious though. WAY too much sugar for my diet right now, but I want some.   Hugs!

I'm impressed that you asked. My spouse and I are more, "Is that my top?"   I'm not really sure why we have separate dressers to be honest.   Hugs!

Hi everyone    if I start slurring my speargun, it’s the drugs.  OMG what a mess Siri can make.  Or did I slur that.  Hmm we’ll never know.    @Mmindy thanks for the digital hug.  Here is a hug back.   I know I’m not thinking strate. No strite. Oh gee wiz straight.  Lol just having a little fun.     My wife is being very good to me.  Tried to make a secret breakfast for me but unfortunately I was awake and needed meds and coffee.  I ruined her surprise.  But it was very good.  Pillsbury cinnamon rolls mixed with scrambled eggs and cook it in a crockpot. Add apple slices to taste. When done serve with maple or other syrup to your liking.   hugs   Willow    

Welcome, @I-think-im-a-girl1808, it's nice to meet you and I'm happy you've joined the community here at Trans Pulse. As the others have already said, this is an amazingly supportive community and you'll be in wonderful company here while you are at this stage in your journey. I also agree with everyone that connecting with a gender therapist is a great thing to do. That person can help you process your thoughts and feelings around your identity and expression and be an essential ally if you do take steps to transition medically or legally. I also wanted to share that I relate very much to those feelings of envy, and the elation when I took steps to express my femininity. I look forward to getting to know you better!   Love, ~Audrey.

I love your confidence, it makes you shine and it's inspiring.  Nothing like a comfy hoodie!