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Looking good @Niamh. I love the jacket, almost got one like that the other day, in dusty rose. Then I'm looking at you shoes thinking I should probably get a pair of heels but if I wear them with a skirt I'll also need some nylons or tights or something. More stuff to start thinking about.

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I'm loving seeing (+hearing about) everyone in their outfits. I'm normally a dresses and skirts girl, but occasionally I get into skinny jeans like today.  

Going down POCO memory lane..............      

Bitter sweet - a firned is dying - our love of music lives on.......................    

@Mmindy,         My ex was like that too but, when she went off, it was more like an explosion. Hardly any way to mend the broken pieces of my heart because the person that needed to do that didn't want to. I lived like that for fourteen years. I can't tell you how many times I wished she would have finished me off, rather than just leaving my heart broken and suffering the insecurities of what I did or didn't do right. It took so long to find some reason to want to be happier, to live better. Once I knew what that was, I knew she wouldn't be there with me. I miss the few good times we had but, those fleeting moments became scarce and felt more forced than genuine. I tried my best, gave it my all. In the end I realized I was blaming myself for something that was never about me or my actions. I had to face some hard truths and unfortunately, face them alone.     I have no miracle advice or inspiring words that will make it better. At least, not from my perspective. I can say one thing about people that is an absolute. We all change and grow at our own pace. While we can share some or all of this with a few special people, there are no guarantees about how long we'll get or willingly give. Cherish these moments but, don't ever lose sight of your feelings. They will be your best guide to a wonderful life.      

Welcome @I-think-im-a-girl1808 I worked through Kate Bornstein's  'My (new) Gender Workbook' when I was trying to figure myself out.  She has an unusual approach.  It was interesting, and kinda fun with the pirates and all.

Yeah, she wears these... shapeless tank-style things. I prefer underwire. The girls need all the help they can get.   Hugs!

I had to wear those for years at work. It was absolute torture. I still have almost all of them and they're in the closet I wanted to clean out last weekend. I feel like purging them is going to be a powerfully healing experience and will help me find the motivation I need to risk kicking up dust and finding years-old dead bugs or live spiders (or worse!) in the process.   Is it too late for breakfast? I'll bring coffee, I think I need some of that. Glad to hear you're home and on the path to recovery from your surgery yesterday. So sweet of your wife to try to surprise you!   I'm so glad it's Friday. This has felt like an excruciating long week and I need a weekend. I have to finish the grant application today, and not to mention, I've been thrown headlong into the disaster of a vaccine rollout here in NYC. The system is buckling from the extreme demand and yet the powers-that-be expect I have a magic wand to make appointments appear. It's been nonstop expectations management, and besides, if I had a magic wand, that's not what I'd use it to do.   Hoping everyone has a lovely day. @KymmieL I hope you get that call!   Love, ~Audrey.

Oh, she's a different size, hence needing me to buy her ones "like mine" but in her size  lol.  We have both been losing weight but she is staying ahead of me so I've been getting some hand me downs that don't fit her anymore.  We almost had a crisis when for about 2 weeks I caught up to her in dress sizes. She's very supportive but she doesn't want to be the same size as me. lol

This can be hard. In my case, my ex was also a stay-at-home mother, so when we split she had no income other than our SS and my unimpressive pension.  (The split happened before I came out - even to myself) We agreed to to split this evenly between us, although it is an "informal" arrangement.  I still feel obligated, since I have always viewed it as "our" money, and she had contributed as much as myself.  Fortunately, we did have 2 houses and no debts.  She stayed in the trailer, and I moved back into our old (very substandard) place. We each have enough to get by if we're frugal. She has a boyfriend now.   Personally, I think she has been able to move on pretty well.  As for myself, less so.  But that is a different subject.

Tragically, Susan has larger breasts than I do and a narrower chest, so we're not going to be swapping bras. Also, hers are boring. Bleah.   We're both an XL top though and a 16 pants so we're close enough that we can swap clothes. Honestly, I have a couple of tops that she bought for herself and didn't fit her right, so they became my tops. Yay!   Hugs!

Haha, I can relate!  My wife had one of those "Did I just say that" moments when she asked me to pick up a bra like I wear for her when I went to Ross