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@Sally Stone I have come to the general opinion that it is inappropriate to judge anybody's fashion choices, regardless of how 'inappropriate' they are.  They might not be my choices, but who am I to judge somebody else's? I have seen many cis-women (at least I assume they are cis-women?) who dress way too risque for the venue/event/appointment, OR in most cases they are just so frumpy and androgenous ... and I wonder?  have they just given up?  But again, it's their choice. So was it inappripriate because she was Trans? or just because? .... and, I guess I would have to ask "what marked this woman as Transgender?" vs a manly woman?  vs a crossdresser?  I think the only inappropriate behavior in this incident is the woman who passed Judgement and chose to take/share her photo.   You look WONDERFUL, Vicky!!

Hi, thanks. Yes I'm scared to look into someone's eyes and admit I'm a transgender woman. I've had this macho persona for a long time and I'm afraid of being in a vulnerable place. Pretty sure I'll be OK admitting to someone who themself identifies as LGBTQIA2S+

@emeraldmountain2 I'd stick it out with what you know unless you're a very experienced independent traveller (I don't mean vacations).    It's a huge risk, even if you could do it, and in your place I'd try to do my tiny bit to get a decent Opponent for the next one, and work like hell to get the Republicans out.  But I wouldn't move to a foreign country unless he 'does a Putin' and locks up all his opponents or cancels the next election or something.  Which sounds far fetched but which I recognise as unlikely, but possible.      

Trust me, hon, you would not be the first person with a male voice that has told them that they are a transgender woman.  I did shave off my beard before I saw my therapist for the first time, but I presented as a male, with my masculine name, and masculine voice for the first few times.   I realize it is scary to talk about this with a stranger for the first time, but you can do it.  All the better if you have already been practising a female voice.   I am sorry that things are not working out on the marriage front.  Hopefully, if you part, it can be on good terms.

My treating doctors from long ago, couldn't figure out why I was menstruating. Things at home got to the point my parents couldn't no longer afford the medical expenses of keep driving me back to the hospital emergency room for more physical exams. 

Hi, all 3 of you have given me good sound advice.Thank you!! I won't take anymore of those pills. Thank you for caring about my well-being!! I got cold feet about calling the therapist today. I've been practicing finding my feminine voice and when i hit the right timbre i feel so happy hearing Heather speak. I still need alot more practice before i feel comfortable speaking. I feel odd calling a therapist telling them I'm transgender in a male's voice.  I guess I need to get over my fear and make the call. I had the number up and ready to dial but didn't do it. But I know I need to see one and get all this stuff I've been suppressing for so long out. I'm assuming it will be a huge relief. I really feel that our marriage is over. Like I said before she won't accept me as Heather. 

Officially we had 4-5 inches of white crap.  Then some sleet which made it crusted in ice.  Tonight the temperature is dropping into the teens so everything is refreezing.  Global warming?  Or just a periodic weather change?

What is happening to us is only one part of what is going on here.  We are watching a right-wing takeover of the government.  All of this has been thought out and planned for the last few years, probably longer.  They even wrote a book about it, going into detail of how to implement it.  They have a blueprint to follow, and they will.   Even any mention of us is being removed from government documents.  Books removed from libraries, teachers forbidden to even mention us.  Why?     I'm going to stop now because this is not only a trans issue.  We're mostly collateral damage for these people.

@EasyE   This video explains injection angles fairly well.   And this video provides a demonstration of subcutaneous injections.    

I like that. In my case I would say I'm too old to wait for another person's life to end by natural causes to give up my transition.   Regardless of what orange man does or how many executive orders he signs, this is happening. I will be the person I've always felt deep down that I truly am. That said, I'm not even on HRT yet so I present cis, I know I'm a trans woman, but I would never go into a woman's restroom at this stage in my transition... heck, I don't even know if I'll ever pass to a point where I'd feel comfortable doing that. When I look at myself in the mirror, I think it'd be a tough sell but time and treatment will tell, but even then... I still might hold it until I can find a unisex restroom or make my way home.   Also, why aren't all restrooms unisex? I've been to Europe, almost all of them are there. It's so simple, get rid of the urinals and just put stalls everywhere. When I was in Germany, I was like yeah, this is how to do a restroom, stalls had doors, real doors that came down to the floor that closed with no gaps that creepy people can peak through. In a situation like that it doesn't matter who's in the stall next to you or who's waiting in line, it's just a restroom...    Anyway, I kinda digressed there. My point is I've never felt that I've had trans people forced upon me, ever, and I'm bleeping OLD yo. I also don't think this EO is really a result of others feeling like that as much as it is a result of this inertia on the right to go further and further right, on all things. Be it trans issues, gay marriage, abortion, religion, immigration, economics, geopolitics, everything, the right has become more and more bigoted, transphobic, homophobic, xenophobic, isolationist and I'll say it, racist over the last decade and a half and it's sad. As to why? Well, I hate to say it but I think it all starts with the racism. This country is at a tipping point where we will soon become a white minority country and the creaky old men in DC and their creaky old constitutes around the country are freaking the eff out. They're scared, they feel like this country belongs to them and them only, so yeah, that fear and hatred grows and expands so here we are. Start hating one group, start blaming one group for your personal misfortune and sooner or later you'll start adding more. Give it enough time on this path and we'll be back to the French, Irish, and Italians hating each other so much they'll try and pass laws to limit immigration from each other's country which has happened before.   IDK, that's my hypothesis on how we got here. I could be wrong, probably am.              

Well, I think you miss my point a bit, I should have said "perceived ramroddedness". That's the label we have now. 

Heather, as others have said please don't take anything without professional clinical advice, that's not the way to go.   Also please persist with seeking some therapy or counselling.  It seems to me that you need to separate your intense emotional state about your marriage from your (doubtless equally intense) emotional state about your gender identity.  But you need to do that with someone qualified.   Talk to someone, sweetheart, and don't make decisions in this state.  Your distress is obvious and heartrending - but you presumably came here for the site's support and advice, so please listen to what @Carolyn Marie and @KathyLauren say.        

Hi, Heather.  I hope that you and your wife can find your way forward with the minimum of pain.     You are wise to consider whether or not it is smart to do that.  I would say not, for a couple of reasons.  First of all, hormones are serious, strong medications, and should only be used under the supervision of a doctor.  You need to have your blood hormone levels monitored regularly so that the dosage can be adjusted to what is right for you.  Secondly, Premarin is an outdated form of estrogen, with some serious health risks of its own.  There are better forms of bio-identical estrogen that are much safer to take.  

Heather, I'm sorry that you are going through this stressful, emotional turmoil with your wife.  I hope that the two of you can find some level of understanding so that things don't escalate.  I can see that you are ready to start your journey, but I urge you not to take any HRT medications without advice of an experienced endocrinologist or other physician.  I also urge you to find a good gender therapist to help you through this period of time.   HUGS   Carolyn Marie

Welcome to Transgender Pulse, Troi.  I hope that you find a lot of useful information in these forums.  I know you'll find a lot of great people here.  Please let us know how we can help.   HUGS   Carolyn Marie