@VidanjaliWhen it comes to employment, follow your inner guidance. You know when it is is time to move on and it can be such a rewarding time when choose to move on.   I would get some legal advice about your grievances and how to document them. The HR department is there to protect the organization more so than the employee. A sympathetic HR employee may support you but HR is NOT your advocate. Whether you intend it or not, leaving an organization may burn bridges. That is part of life. You have succeeded in your employment because of your efforts and what you bring much more so than anything the employer provides. When it comes to jobs, the only thing I regret was not leaving as soon as I knew it was time.

@VidanjaliI'm not certain what changed from what I was originally told. My new employer is contracted to providing security services for a wide range of companies. My first few days last week were with the HR manager at the local branch office. She originally said she wasn't sure if I could have Hannah on my badge. She subsequently informed me that I could. When I got my ID photo taken yesterday on site, I was told I had to wait until legal name change. I don't know if it's an internal company about face, a policy of the host company, or what. I am going to try to find out what.

Way to go, @Vidanjali. I support your choice. When I quit my last full-time job long ago, it was very scary. But looking back, it was the best thing I ever did. I stood up for myself and left what people said was a secure job. It also was toxic and abusive (not for your reasons) and it took the right few friends to support my change and to work towards a creative direction for my life. I know you're a fine writer and we have a lot of support here on TgP. Good luck. Believe in yourself. God's speed. —  Davie

Ooh, I love this one, too!     Thanks for saying so! And for the advice!

Coming out is a cathartic experience. For me, it really reduced a lot of built-up stress and worry. May you find clarity in expressing all the things you wish to say. This is an important milestone, but it's also a point that you are soon past, and then other important things will be there for the two of you to work on, hopefully together.   As @Susan R mentioned, may you have a distraction-free evening to begin this new chapter in your lives.   Hugs and reassurance,   Astrid

Luck sweetie! May he be understanding and happy to come on this journey with you, no matter where it may lead.   Hugs!

Update to everyone:    I'll be coming out to my husband once he gets home from work. I cant hide from him anymore, i feel too guilty. I've had the worst anxiety I've ever felt today. I keep crying and shaking and it just feels awful. I've never felt more afraid in my life. Wish me luck. 

It is sad to hear of  Alan Price's death. His death made me think about one of my best friends from college who has also passed. She was a huge fan of Yes and Rick Wakeman. I'm listening to a few song with my happiest memories, I miss her.        

I don't feel like I'm watching, more getting carried away by the tide that is life. Wish I could enjoy it more. Sadly there was never a guarantee things would work out nicely.

@Heather Shaymy heart hurts reading this. I hope good news and blessings head your way. ❤️

Can you do some sort of harm reduction if you bind for years , the reason am I asking i am unsure if i can have Surgery due to the fact ill not  get approved for it?

@WillbeAlice that's great news!  Glad it has been going well!  Sounds like they did a good job of helping you come up with a plan of attack as well and that's nice to hear!  Kudos!   I've been back to the office a few times and generally everyone has been fine over the last month.  Some people have a hard time remembering my correct name (which is now legal BTW) and once in a while I'll get misgendered but they have been honest mistakes so I haven't pushed back too hard.  There are still the couple people who seem to really avoid me now, but honestly that's OK.

Thanks to Jeanette West's Electrolysis Report.  I just started reading through it and I'm learning a lot.  Almost even feeling a lot.  The mind is a terrible thing : )

Hi Everyone, I apologize if I'm repeating a topic.  I will work my way through the topic posts.  But I was wondering if anyone has advice on Pre op electrolysis for vaginoplasty?  Pain management ?  Would it be less painful after an orchiectomy ?  How many sessions did it take ?  I heard about numbing cream.  And it could take a year to be ready for surgery ?  Thank you, Vini

Lots of good music ideas, girls!  I may be repeating myself, but classic rock was my escape in my previous life form, so its hard to listen to without bad memories.  Then I heard that Diane Keeton doesn't listen to much music either because of the memories.  But some how, I Want It That Way by Backstreet Boys grabbed me today, then the Theme from Out of Africa, Go figure. Thanks, Vini