How Do You Express Your Femininity?

[Petra Jane]

I know a lot of girls achieve a certain contentment by wearing feminine things under their male clothing. I used to do this on occasion but now don't find it particularly satisfying. I now feel the need to express my feminine side by dressing fully as a woman. If I can't dress all the way I generally won't dress at all. I don't mean that I dress as a woman full time. It's just that when I dress I dress completely. My female persona has such a strong and individual personality I feel like I'm cheating her her right to full expression if I don't dress completely. Maybe I'm being way too Freudian here. Could it be that I just need more stimulus than most?

Hugs,

Sally

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by Dehanne (xs forums)

Hello Sally

No, I agree, I have such a content, relaxed feeling when I am fully dressed.

I used to just wear lacey things below my male clothes for excitement, but more and more it wasn't enough. Soon I started to wear a girls top of some description that could pass for male or female, then something with a daring bit of lace showing, then I added jeans, that were very obviously girls and then unisex shoes. Now I am just aching to go all the way in daylight instead of my 'heart racing' walks around my streets in the dead of night.

Often I wear completely girls outfits, including breast forms, perhaps hidden a little by a denim jacket or something, but have never got so brave as to wear a skirt!

Dehanne XX

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by smoking squirrel (xs forums)

"'heart racing' walks around my streets in the dead of night."

in my case id be dead AT night for sure.......folks arent tolerant around here unless you pass 100%

btw i didnt think CDs had an urge to go out dressed.......someone said not and now im confused

flying squirrel

[Petra Jane]

in my case i'd be dead AT night for sure.......folks arent tolerant around here unless you pass 100%

btw i didnt think CDs had an urge to go out dressed.......someone said not and now im confused

flying squirrel

Me too!

I sometimes dream of going out dressed, even if it was only into my own back garden to feel the movement of air under a skirt against my legs, or the wind pulling my hair around.

BUT where I live even that is unwise as so many of the houses around have all night security lights on, so it's pretty much as bright as day and there's usually someone wandering around their own back yards at all hours as they come on or off shifts.

Petra Jane

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by Sandy (xs forums)

Hi Sally...I know how you feel. I so wanted to wear a pair of panties to work. But I kept thinking, what if I have an accident. When I finally wore them to work, I felt wonderfull. Then I couldn't wait to wear a bra all day. But I work outside and many of my customers like to talk. So I pray for a day cold enough to wear a coat all day.I live in South Florida, so its really rare. But I believe if we were allowed to dress anyway we want to. I would wear womans clothes all the time. I think when I am dressed up, my female side comes out and makes me feel so much calmer. I dressed up as a Harley chick a couple of Halloweens ago. The wind blowing up my skirt was fantastic. I think my wife suspected I enjoyed dressing up a little to much.

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by Sandra (xs forums)

Hi all, I'm new here but I had to tell you my experience with this. I live alone so its fairly easy for me to spend most nights dressed in my dresses. I used to sneak out in the back yard sometimes(live near a main road),that got my heart going,lol. I still wanted more. After alot of thought, I decided that I wanted to go for a ride dressed up. To make it more exciting, I decided to do it in daylight. It was a snowy day,so it provided some cover. I dressed all the way, stockings,garter,black lace bra,white ruffel shirt, black velvet/lace skirt,black w/straps 4" heels and a brown wig.I also had all my nails painted pink. I snuck out to the car dressed like that carrying a bag with jeans and a shirt in it for in case I chickened out. I am proud to say that I didn't chicken out. I drove to a point 40 miles away and back. By the time I turned back it felt almost natural,drinking my soda,listening to the tunes and feeling pretty. I went from fear to calm on that ride. The feeling on the ride back made it worth it. I have done 2 other rides also. They get easier, still not ready to meet the public. We do have to be careful.

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by Racey Rachel (xs forums)

but have never got so brave as to wear a skirt!

I have well out side my house for a ciggarette it feels so good for some reason

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by danielle d (xs forum)

i used to just sit around inside dressed but in the last year i have taken a big step and i go outside all the time dressed up.i go to malls and try on outfits,i like to drive around all the time dressed.what i would really like to do is meet a woman while i'm dressed for tips.

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by dehanne (xs forums)

Hi Girls

I have been away for a while and see there has been some discussion here.

Well now it is 1.30am in Brisbane, and I want to tell you that I just spent the evening out as a girl. I drove around for a while and surprisingly the more I concerntrated on driving the less I thought about my appearance, until I eventually felt completly female...Naturally...

After a while I stopped a few times and got out of the car and did a little bit of window shopping in some stores I have been dying to spend time in and finally I drove into the busiest nightspot, part of Brisbane, parked up and went for a walk along the street.

Unfortunately, I had dressed a little bit tarty (well more than I would normally - short denim mini, black stockings and a tight, deep red top with flowing sleeves) and I think my make up was pretty good as no sooner had I walked 10 tiny paces, a car pulled up and I realised I was standing near the place where hookers hang out. Before long I was propositioned and found myself, nearly running back to my car to make a quick getaway!!! I am so dissapointed....he must have known I was in drag and I really should have gone just for the experience, but I just did not have the nerve!! I am still shaking now!!!

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by eileens spikeheels (xs forums)

as I mentioned in a post above one way i can express my feninine Eileen-side while maintaining the outward appearance for business-related reasons of being 'Jim' is to improve the appearance of my hands and nails and keep them in clear polish..anyone noticing need only be told that it is for the purpose of overcoming the habit of biting down my nails-and leaving it at that!!

..only you new dear friends and I will know "the rest of the story"

Eileen/Jim

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by miss chelle (xs forums)

Hi all, I'm new here but not to cross dressing. Don't know how long I have been doing it but it all started back when I was in junior high, borrowing my mom's make up when she and dad went shopping. Always had a BIG thing for make up, always was strongly attracted to girls that wore a lot of it. Now I'm the one who wears a lot of it but not to the gaudy extent. I have a couple things going for me as a guy that lets me express some of my feminity right under peoples noses and they don't even realize what I'm doing. Is that cool or what? First off I am American Indian-Lakota Souix. Considered to be a Warrior by my people due to 8 years military service. I tend to follow many of the traditional ways of my people, one being that I have very long hair-35 inches from the top of my head. Boy, does that feel nice blowing in the wind! Also both my ears are double pierced and I am never without something hanging there. So there's two things that help me feel somewhat feminine all the time. By profession I am an over-the-road truck driver away from home one to three weeks at a time. I drive very long distances so I seldom come into contact with people. This allows me to wear one of several sets of long finger nails that I carry with me and put on just before I hit the road. (Got a number of pics if anyone is interested) They stay on till I go home for a weekend. If I ever have to deal with people I just slip on a pair of thin gloves and no one knows any better. If anyone asks, once in a while someone does, I just say that I have this "thing" about not getting my hands dirty. Even got involved with the cops a couple of times and they never asked. To top it all off I put on a very feminine pair of sun glasses and some pale lipstick and get on with the job. Sometimes I get some funny looks from passers by, sometimes another trucker will honk and wave at the long haired girl and she waves back. I really love my life! All this keeps me feeling good till I can do a full dress up, which isn't very often. Guess that's all for now. Just love this site and the wonderful people on it.

Thanks Laura,

Michelle

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by Rhonda (xs forums)

I don't think I express it out to others but for my self I get dressed and do things i normaly do work on my harley or just go out back and do my yard work this was how my wife found out I was triming my roses when I noticed her I was mortified but she told me it explained away some of her fears and told me I was the most beutiful lover and was happy she married me. I still felt mortified but at least she knows and supports me but I will not come out I like it between the two of us.

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by gennee (xs forums)

I have been out dressed many time and I love it. I was out dressed yesterday afternoon and evening. Though I was read my a few people, I was kept on going. I wear panties all the time and I dress 1-3 times a week. I have only been dressing for over a year but I feel liberated and complete.

Gennee

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by michelle5161 (xs forums)

well i started to dress with a bra or panties when I was some where around 10 but then in the past 20 years i have recieved more love for the femine feel and touch of the fabric now. I now wear most every day female jeans and a thong and a bra and some times a top. But when I am alone I will dress all woman as I live on a large farm where nobody can see me so I walk out side alot and feel the fresh air blowing through my hair and under my skirt.

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by RaquelAR (xs forums)

MANY of these experiences remind me of the heart pounding times I have stepped out enfemme. Approx 5 times now...

I have been dressing up for about five years secretely. Started wearing lace underneath my male clothing, also did the panties and bra under my clothing while at work. I too felt "what if I had an accident."

Initially I started stuffing my c-cup bras with socks and eventually moved up to D-cup breastforms... WOW what a sexy feeling I had.... I want to move to a DD or Larger..

About a year ago I was daring and went for a drive... I would stop about three times to put gas in my car at different busy locations around town... and casually noticed men admiring me. I felt like a sexy, sultry Vixen.... It then became a passionate addiction I loved it! My clothing has gotten cuter and my style is alot more feminine then when I started... Even as a guy I've always loved shoes.. But as a Woman it is alot more intense... I love accesorizing too... I really enjoy applying lip liner and dark eyeliner to accentuate my green eyes....as well as preparing myself for the personna to take over my spirit!!! When that is complete I totally feel like a Femme Fatale...

When I am dressed I have a strong sense of spirit I see myself similar to Raquel Welch hence my name...

I bought a digital camera and have photgraphed myself like a Fashion Model, it is so much fun..

I will eventually go to a nite club and turn heads, I look forward to that!!!

I am slowly feeling very comfortable about this journey and would hope that everyone else enjoys their fantasies and fullfills them.

---Raquel---

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by Fancy (xs forums)

Well groomed nails, both finger and toe always makes me feel more feminine also. Smelling good is also primary for the sensation. Cooking and other nurturing activities provide the most soothing and contentment. Being a woman is as much a matter of heart as appearance. Keep in the mind, even natural females are a complex concoction of male and female hormones. To suppress either side would be an unnatural act.

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by Jeanne (xs forums)

If I can wear panties, nylons & a lacey silky slip I,m a Happy Camper. I like to dress in full when i can but thing is so wonderful as panties, nylons & a lacey silky slip!!!!!

Jeanne

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by kathyann5ts (xs forums)

I love to wear all manner of feminine clothing and I have an extensive wardrobe of sexy & feminine clothing. But what I love the most is bras. And the ones I love the best & I found out that I enjoy wearing the most are seamless underwire bras.

Even when I can't dress all the way enfem I wear a bra & my breast forms, which by the way I get on ebay. These aren't those foam rubber types that I used to wear. But are silicon types & they have the natural heft of a real breast.

[Guest Sophie Jean]

BUT where I live even that is unwise as so many of the houses around have all night security lights on, so it's pretty much as bright as day and there's usually someone wandering around their own back yards at all hours as they come on or off shifts.

Petra Jane

We have bright lights all over the neighborhood too, and an apartment complex across the street from our cul-de-sac. I don't know. For me, there's a racy feeling that I have to take the chance at times. I don't know if it's a cry for help or what. Just a chance to do something out "in the world" as a woman. I think it's actually more risky at night with the streetlights in our neighborhood, because that's the hour most people are home and about. Distance is key for me in feeling safe. On the way home from meetings en femme, I like to stop and walk around the deserted park a few blocks from our house before driving home. But that's just me. I love communing with nature, even better so en femme. When I have the opportunity to work from home, I usually take at least 3 breaks to "check the mail." I figure I dress close enough to pass at a distance, and I get such a rush. Also, most people work at that hour, and the rest are busy with their children. Most people don't spy on their neighbors. If you are being spied on, it's probably safer to move, no matter how you present. Me, I don't care. If they take the chance to invade my privacy, they deserve whatever shock they get.

Love,

- Sophie Jean

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by kaelin (xs forums)

For me, expression is sort of just doing what comes naturally. I suppose it entails many so-called male characteristics and and female characteristics, and I show some of each, but they don't really define gender, I think. They're just society's assumed tendencies.

The way I'd like to dress (and not just indoors or under clothes) ought to reflect whatever comes naturally at the time. Yet my case may be a little unique in that I see myself as "male" throughout. I just don't see "male" (as a gender) meaning more than identity, and putting on a dress doesn't change that for me, but it can be something I feel I should do.

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by kathyann5ts (xs forums)

For me, I love wearing bras. But, only seamless & underwire. I also use silicon forms in the cups that I bought from E-bay. They are real nice & make me feel even more feminine. When I get the chance I get dressed completely, enfem. From the bottom of my toesies to the top of my head. Make-up included. I go to the local mall, later in the day and shop. I've had some guys really stare at me & smile. I sometimes smile back or wink at them. One time when I was in a crowd I felt some one pinch my derrierre. I felt insulted but proud at the same time.

Other times, I can only wear a bra & my forms under a tee shirt. I do this when I am working out in my yard or my wood shop. And, sometimes I say the heck with the tee shirt & work outside with my bra showing. Wow, what a feeling I get doing this.

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by Christina (xs forums)

Dear Sally

For me the best way to express feminity is behave like a woman. By this I mean wearing makeup, clothes and jewellery appropriate for a particular venue. This means having a bigger wardrobe for your 'fem' side!

In addition I study the way women behave i.e. how they point differently to men (hand horizontal not vertical, it looks much more graceful), sitting with legs together or crossed at the ankles, taking smaller steps but walking more rapidly,etc. Also women talk diffentely (not just in a higher pitch but they use more words and phrase things as enquiries not statements (i.e. 'would you like to?' not ''will you?'.

However do remember that people cross dress for a number of reasons and if you want to wear sexy clothes to feelfeminine thats fine but you will get looked at if you wear them to the supermart!

Hugs - Christina

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by RaquelAR (xs forums)

I am Dressed in panties and breast forms right now.. feeling sexy and invincible. I Live in L.A. and I will visit San Fran soon to be able to be myself in a free self... Here to many people are not aware of a Trans gendered lyfestyle... I love to be free in SF........ I feel free now,,, not if I stepped out around here. I can't wait to be in SF...

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by FeliciaSNJ (xs forums)

well i got rid of all my male underwear and only wear womans, i feel more comfortable in them anyways. i always have my toe nails painted as well as wear toe rings and anklets. right now that's pretty much what i do in public. still tryin to gather the guts to live full time though i am going to see a psych in soon to start my transition

[Petra Jane]

Original reply posted by Dagmar (xs forums)

I right there with you smoking_squirrel. I recently moved here from a large city where others di not pay much mind. And I really dont pass well. If I were to go out en femme I fear I'd have the crap beaten out of me. This is a small, VERY conservative town. So I dress only at home. This is sad. Oh well, maybe one day I'll..........