Document: Transgender Inclusion In The Workplace

[Carolyn Marie]

My HR division has been incredibly supportive of my transition, and has sought advice and assistance

from, among others, the Human Rights Campaign Foundation.

The Foundation has a document available on-line called "Transgender Inclusion in the Workplace."

I haven't read the entire document yet, but my cursory review shows it to be extremely valuable,

and full of accurate information about the TG Community, applicable laws, and techniques for

assisting TG and TS employees to successfully transition at work, while protecting their rights.

It provides, among other things, a listing of all cities, by state, that have adopted laws protecting

the rights of TG people, as well as states that have done so.

I strongly urge anyone planning to transition at work to download this document and make it available

to your company or institution.

The document contains a statement allowing for its reproduction and re-printing, so long as it is made

available at no charge.

Here is the link: http://www.hrc.org/files/assets/resources/HRC_Foundation_-_Transgender_Inclusion_in_the_Workplace_2nd_Edition_-_2008.pdf

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Donna Jean]

I strongly urge anyone planning to transition at work to download this document and make it available

to your company or institution.

Carolyn Marie

That would be me, Dear girl.....

OMG, what a find. I certainly need this.

Where do you find these things?...you come up with a treasure trove of helpful stuff!

Thanks, GF!

LOVE

Donna Jean

[Guest Janis]

We took some of the suggestions from this to use as guidelines for my workplace transition. It was quite helpful.

Janis

[Guest viv]

Good on you Carolyn !!!! paving the path for others

who will follow on . Kudos, , , , , luv,viv

[Guest perlitarose]

I have not transition on fear of being fired. I am wating until ENDA comes to be law. Lately I have been so full of anxiety, guilt, shame. It seems what I am couse a great deal of pain to peole I love. I wonder if is better for the Lord to take me a way. So much pain and shame

[Carolyn Marie]

Lately I have been so full of anxiety, guilt, shame. It seems what I am couse a great deal of pain to peole I love. I wonder if is better for the Lord to take me a way. So much pain and shame

Oh, Honey, I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way. Believe me, I do understand those feelings, as

I've had them myself. Many of us, especially those with families, have felt that way. Guilt can eat

you alive if you let it.

Transition is such a hard thing, and to get through it successfully you have to have nerves of steel

and a heart that, if not made of stone, is a least made of something that can heal from any wound.

Transition is hard on loved ones, its true. But it is the only way to be true to yourself, and sometimes

it involves loss. But you don't have to lose your loved ones, hon. It is NOT inevitable. Wives and

children, especially children, do adapt and adjust to the new you. You don't have to lose that love.

Parents can adjust too. It just takes time, and patience, and much love and support.

You have to understand the pain of your loved ones as much as they have to understand your need to

be your true self. That is the path to succcess.

Please PM me if you would like to talk more. I do care about you.

(((BIG HUG)))

Carolyn Marie

[Paula ult]

Carolyn,

This was one of the documents i sent to my HR department and my manager last year when i was in the process of coming out to them.

Paula

[Carolyn Marie]

Carolyn,

This was one of the documents i sent to my HR department and my manager last year when i was in the process of coming out to them.

Paula

Hi, Paula. Did your HR find the doc helpful? Just curious. Thanks!

Carolyn Marie

[Guest perlitarose]

Oh, Honey, I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way. Believe me, I do understand those feelings, as

I've had them myself. Many of us, especially those with families, have felt that way. Guilt can eat

you alive if you let it.

Transition is such a hard thing, and to get through it successfully you have to have nerves of steel

and a heart that, if not made of stone, is a least made of something that can heal from any wound.

Transition is hard on loved ones, its true. But it is the only way to be true to yourself, and sometimes

it involves loss. But you don't have to lose your loved ones, hon. It is NOT inevitable. Wives and

children, especially children, do adapt and adjust to the new you. You don't have to lose that love.

Parents can adjust too. It just takes time, and patience, and much love and support.

You have to understand the pain of your loved ones as much as they have to understand your need to

be your true self. That is the path to succcess.

Please PM me if you would like to talk more. I do care about you.

(((BIG HUG)))

Carolyn Marie

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR KIND WORDS AND SUPPORT, YOU MAKE THE DIFFERNCE

[Guest angie]

I have not transition on fear of being fired. I am wating until ENDA comes to be law. Lately I have been so full of anxiety, guilt, shame. It seems what I am couse a great deal of pain to peole I love. I wonder if is better for the Lord to take me a way. So much pain and shame

Sweety,

I went through the same pain,guilt,and anxiety when I came out,for years.I didn't have shame,I had waited decades to follow the path I knew was mine from my early twenties.The guilt was from(lying) to my ex for all those years,when I knew in my heart that one day I would have to walk this path.Waiting on ENDA to pass to become yourself could be quite awhile in coming.Going through therapy will help assuage/alleviate these feelings,making it all right in your mind to become the woman you know you are.You will know when the time is right,your inner woman will tell you so.

Follow your heart Perlitarose.

Big Warm Soft Hugs,

Angie

[Guest Cynthia Of Creation]

lol not all work places. yet,

I heard in the military they probably going to be doing a away with the no Transgender's (LBT)sandwhiches in the military and no (G) in the military. so darn I hope thats true.

[Guest OutOfSorts180]

My HR division has been incredibly supportive of my transition, and has sought advice and assistance

from, among others, the Human Rights Campaign Foundation.

The Foundation has a document available on-line called "Transgender Inclusion in the Workplace."

I haven't read the entire document yet, but my cursory review shows it to be extremely valuable,

and full of accurate information about the TG Community, applicable laws, and techniques for

assisting TG and TS employees to successfully transition at work, while protecting their rights.

It provides, among other things, a listing of all cities, by state, that have adopted laws protecting

the rights of TG people, as well as states that have done so.

I strongly urge anyone planning to transition at work to download this document and make it available

to your company or institution.

The document contains a statement allowing for its reproduction and re-printing, so long as it is made

available at no charge.

Here is the link: http://www.hrc.org/documents/HRC_Foundatio...tion_-_2008.pdf

Carolyn Marie

Hi Carolyn Marie: The link didn't work for me. It took me to the HRC site, but there was no document.

[Carolyn Marie]

Hi Carolyn Marie: The link didn't work for me. It took me to the HRC site, but there was no document.

Thanks for pointing that out. I tried several different links on their site and couldn't find it. I'll contact them and find out if the HRC has an alternate way of retrieving it.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest KimberlyF]

This link worked for me if it's the same:

http://www.hrc.org/files/assets/resources/HRC_Foundation_-_Transgender_Inclusion_in_the_Workplace_2nd_Edition_-_2008.pdf

[Carolyn Marie]

Thank you, Kimberly. I've replaced the link in the original post.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest OutOfSorts180]

This link worked for me if it's the same:

http://www.hrc.org/f...tion_-_2008.pdf

Hi KimberlyF, I clicked on "your" link and this time it worked for me as well. Thanks.

[Guest JessicaDDD]

Awesome link, thanks.

[KathrynJulia]

Thanks Carolyn, you are truely awesome. I'm in for some reading this weekend it seems, but that is alright. There are a bunch of things that need doing that I was looking for a good reason to put off for awhile. Reading this is a priority as I live in Missouri and other than here in Columbia, we are surrounded by a sea of intollerance. Many thanks Kathryn

[Carolyn Marie]

Thanks,KJ. I'm glad this thread is still alive and kicking.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[jo_g]

Very nice document. I'm still sooo far away from going full time, but I have downloaded that pdf and I'm sure it will be very useful when I tell my boss at work. We don't have an HR department, but I fully trust my boss to be as helpful and encouraging as one could hope. Can't wait for the magical day when my passport comes through with my new name and showing female, but there's so much to do before then.

 

Anyway, thanks for sharing that document!

[ChristinaDryadstar]

I got hired by a Janitorial Company not knowing if I would still have a job after I came out.  But surprisingly enough, I not only have my job still, but I an fully treated as a female (which also consists of people using the correct pronouns, etc) with all the rights given to a female, no work that a male is supposed to do.

 

The company has a non discrimination policy which includes gender identity, which is so cool.

 

 

[Carolyn Marie]

It's nice to know that this thread is still bearing fruit.  But there is also pain associated with it, as one of the posters, a dear friend, passed away several years ago.  I miss her still. 

 

Carolyn Marie

[Tariane90]

I was too afraid to come out at work, the only person I initially felt comfortable enough to tell was the HR person at my job. I eventually told my boss and few then trusted co workers and although I'm fortunate enough to have moved to a state where people are generally more accepting I soon realized that a lot of people aren't and or they don't have a clue and at my old job they to my knowledge had never dealt with having someone come out as trans so it was really awkward at first but over time most of the people there had somewhat caught on but it still kind of sucked in my opinion because there were so many direct and indirect co workers who placed me in awkward and uncomfortable positions when dealing with them despite having the knowledge in regard to what was implied and in the end the previously unknown toxicity in that place became so apparent that it was time to make a work place change. 

[Charlize]

I'm sorry you went through that kind of experience Tariane.  Unfortunately many do not know or simply don't care how their actions hurt others.  Worse yet a few folks are simply nasty.  Hopefully you have found a better work situation.  

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Audrey]

Hi everyone, this is a great resource! Unfortunately, the older links above are broken.

I'd like to make sure everyone has the most current link to this on HRC's website:

https://assets2.hrc.org/files/assets/resources/Transgender_Inclusion_in_the_Workplace_A_Toolkit_for_Employers_Version_10_14_2016.pdf

 

Love,

~Audrey.