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Coming Out To My Mom


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Guest SouthernBelle

So I'm coming out to my Mom in a couple of days. For those that don't know, I came out to my Dad the other day, and now I've decided to tell my Mom too.

Soooo, I know this might sound crazy and I KNOW there will be some people on here that will want to warn me to beware, but I'm actually EXCITED! She has always been more accepting of this sort of thing than my Dad and we have been reconnecting a lot lately.

You see, we have a very special relationship. We have always said that. My parents have but three boys (or so it seems) and none but myself come even close to connecting in the way that I do with out Mom. What she doesn't realize, however, is that the kind of relationship we share is NOT a Mother-Son relationship, but it is a Mother-Daughter relationship. We just click. OK, we have had some HARD fights, but when it is over, we are best friends again. And we have always gone shopping, dyed hair, got our ears pierced, and done the sort of stuff that Moms do with their daughters (only we did the male-appropriate version...ish).

And my Mom has ALWAYS wanted a daughter. So much that whenever one of us has brought a girl home (one of our girlfriends OR one of my friends) she IMMEDIATELY flocked to them, buying them gifts and talking about boys. So I can't wait to tell her because she will (once she has come to accept me as female) be happy to know that she finally HAS a daughter (even though she really did have one all along).

On top of that, I know that she will be much more accepting of me than my Dad. Yes, my Dad was pretty cool (of course, I mean this ONLY in comparison to the experiences of others), but my Mom is far more accepting of gays and stuff like that than my Dad ever was. My Mom once asked my Dad what he would do if one of the kids turned out to be gay. His response was, "I'll just change their mind!"

Again, I know to expect the worst possible scenario and I am ready for anything. But even if she starts by telling me I'm crazy and she feels awkward being around me, I know that she will EVENTUALLY (at some point in time) come around. And when that happens, she will be happy to know that she has had a daughter all along (even if it weirds her out).

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Belle, your enthusiasm and optimism are a joy and a pleasure to see.

I hope you're right on all counts, and I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. It sounds like you and your mom have a very special relationship,

and I am glad that its so.

Please do let us know how it goes, and best wishes!

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest ChalenAustin

Quite the opposite, we are glad to see you're excited for it! We are excited for you, too!

Let us know how everything goes!

Fingers crossed!

Chal

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Guest Elizabeth K

Wow - excited? Not what I would expect - so good to have a positive posting on this!

PLEASE let us know what happens!

Lizzy

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Guest Girl Emily

Belle,

The kind of relationship with your mother you describe is very similar to my own with my mother. We didn't get ears pierced, but she taught me to sew and we would go to fabric stores together. We were two boys and she had a miscarriage at sometime after me. After that they never tried again. To make matters worse for her all of the grandchildren are boys. Yourr excitement is infectious and I am starting to feel my own growing as the days count down.

Your going to do alright hun. Please let us know how it goes.

Huggs,

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Guest Donna Jean

People on here are always asking "How will my coming out to my parents work out?"

And we always have to say.."No one knows them like you do!"

So, you feel pretty good about this and it shows...obviously you think that it should work out great...

Well, I'm hoping so, too....

Good Luck, Hon.....

Donna Jean

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Guest SouthernBelle
Belle,

The kind of relationship with your mother you describe is very similar to my own with my mother. We didn't get ears pierced, but she taught me to sew and we would go to fabric stores together. We were two boys and she had a miscarriage at sometime after me. After that they never tried again. To make matters worse for her all of the grandchildren are boys. Yourr excitement is infectious and I am starting to feel my own growing as the days count down.

Your going to do alright hun. Please let us know how it goes.

Huggs,

Well, my Mom doesn't really sew, but she has taught me how to cook a few things and she used to bring me to hobby lobby and walmart to get things for me to make jewelry. My Mom had a miscarriage right before I was born, so I was the "miracle baby".

...counting the days down for what?

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Guest SouthernBelle

Wow! I guess I was way wrong about expecting a bunch of warnings! Thx everyone for the love and support. I'm probably going to come out to her in a couple of days (haven't decided when). I'll let y'all know how it goes!

(fingers crossed)

HUGGS

Belle

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Guest Girl Emily

Belle,

Sorry, that was an incomplete thought. I am counting down the days till my trip home when I will be coming out to them. I am leaving for Minnesota on May 14. I will be attending the Transgender Health Conference Saturday before going to their house for the week. Depending on my Mom's work schedule I will have the conversation on Monday or Tuesday hopefully.

Huggs,

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Guest SouthernBelle
Belle,

Sorry, that was an incomplete thought. I am counting down the days till my trip home when I will be coming out to them. I am leaving for Minnesota on May 14. I will be attending the Transgender Health Conference Saturday before going to their house for the week. Depending on my Mom's work schedule I will have the conversation on Monday or Tuesday hopefully.

Huggs,

Good luck! Let me know how it goes!!

HUGS

Belle

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