Religious Objections

[Guest roni]

My family is very religious. If I tell them about my crossdressing and my pleasure in feeling feminine, they will reject me.

They do not understand. I am tired of hiding my true feeling. What should I do??

roni

[MaryEllen]

Hi Roni,

It depends on how badly you need to come out to them. If you do decide to come out to them, be prepared for the worst. Be prepared to lose everything and everyone you hold dear. Unfortunately, that's the reality in cases like this. If you don't think you could handle the rejection, it would be best to keep it to yourself. For now, at least.

MaryEllen

[Guest roni]

Hi Roni,

It depends on how badly you need to come out to them. If you do decide to come out to them, be prepared for the worst. Be prepared to lose everything and everyone you hold dear. Unfortunately, that's the reality in cases like this. If you don't think you could handle the rejection, it would be best to keep it to yourself. For now, at least.

MaryEllen

Thanks for your wisdom and insight. I suppose I knew that the worst of reactions from the family would occur. But I am so tired of having to play a role in lieu of simple being myself (who I really am on the inside). I love my family, but they would not understand this or how to respond to me. I don't want to lose them, but I look so forward to the private moments when I can to dress up and feel like the real me. This is the first time in my (48 yrs.) of life that I have had the courage to tell someone. I have longed to share and to relate my feminine side with someone who could identify with my heart and my feelings. I simply did not know to whom to turn. Being able to discuss my feelings (here) is priceless to me. Thank you!!

roni

[MaryEllen]

Hi Roni,

Laura's Playground is a good place to make friends with others who are going through the same things that you are. You can share your hopes, dreams, fustrations, etc. here. We understand and we care.

Hugs,

MaryEllen

[Guest o0tg0o]

yeah....i'm so sorry that you have such a difficult situation.

My mom was very accepting, but I do have to admit I made sure I had a home I can run to just in case I got thrown out... not much more to say except "prepare for the worst, and hope for the best"

[Guest KellyGirl]

that's more common then you think...I have to face the same problem very soon.

[Guest shimmeringkristal]

I am not sure if this will be of any help but I gave my mom a book and told her to read it and it helped her understand a bit of what was going on. The book is "She's Not There - A Life In Two Genders" by Jennifer Finney Boylan. I think that it was a wonderfull help. I wish you hope and faith that everything will turn out right.

[Guest raydub]

hey.

I dont know where youre located exactly, but have you looked into what some of the affirming or accepting places of faith have to say about the subject? Maybe educating yourself around that will help you to deal with or counter the religious reaction of persecution you are expecting from you family. It may at least give them something to consider - whether it be now or in the long run.

Have faith.

Ray

[Guest Ashley Hun]

I know a site that you can show your parents that will argue that homosexuality and transgenderism is OK with the Bible.

http://www.soulforce.org/

If you do decide to come out, show them this site. Also, check more into the video For the Bible Tells Me So. It's primarily for homosexuals/bisexuals, but it's also aimed toward all GLBT's.

If your parents truly love you, they won't disown you just because you wear woman's clothes. That's silly and idiotic to disown someone over something so small. They're just clothes! They should empathize that it is self-expression and not some Hell-sent Demonic Sorcery or whatever they believe it is. lol

I hope that helps!

~Ashley