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im just wondering i match almost all the catagories to identify as trans but i don't ever remembering wanting to be a girl until about 5th grade and ever since then i always wanted to be. i don't remember much about my childhood and my parents never mentioned anything about me wanting to be a girl. does it really matter?

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Guest The Adam Epidemic

I don't think it matters. There are a lot of trans who discover their real identities at a young age and then there are some who don't discover it until later.

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Guest o0tg0o

yeah, i'm learning that i'm a reaaaaaaaaaaaaal early bloomer when I assumed I was late....I think I acknowledge what it was at age 7....but there are people who won't fully figure it out until ...for example....they are 23, and in the navy.

so yeah, it doesn't matter :] ...just as long as you understand the risks you might go through, and if you can hold the responsibility in the actions...

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Guest CharlieRose
It doesn't matter. Actually, 5th grade is pretty early to figure it out. If anything, you're an early bloomer.

Most definitely. I didn't admit it until I was fifteen. I had been having mild gender issues since I was twelve or thirteen, but pretty much NO childhood symptoms.

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Guest shimmeringkristal

Joanna,

I don't remember much about my childhood but the few things that I do remember happened at around the age of about 4 or so. I was caught in my Aunt's playroom at her house by my Mom. The main thing that I remember about it was that my Mom laughed at the whole situation and though I knew that I was different and knew the reason why I felt that I was different I did nothing about those feelings. I didn't come out of the closset till about 13 years later. When one "finds themself" there is no set standard as to when, where, or how it happens. The only thing that I can tell you that is an unmistakable truth is this; be true to yourself. Don't make half-truths on what others may think about you. Only you can tell how and what you feel. With that said I do not in any way, shape, or form think that a proffesional therapist should not be used. In other words find help with a therapist that you feel confortable with. I personally could not do without the help that my therapist has given me. She has become one of my best friends that I will cherish for the rest of my life.

With all that said; I know that no matter what path you may follow you will always have friends here that will care and support any decisions that you make.

I wish you nothing but peace and joy where ever your path may lead.

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Guest SilverArrow

It seems everyone's got different methods of realizing themselves. I didn't start getting into my habits until puberty, and then poof! It's like a switch turned on and I had to do something about it, kinda like how regular kids get the attraction to the opposite sex, I wound up grabbing the girls' clothes instead. :o

Are there studies about why certain people get these realizations or revelations earlier than others? I've noticed that there are large differences in peoples' age groupings, from small children to teens to late adult. There must be some correlation to age and something else.

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Guest mandy05

I guess I have all of you beat, I didn't have a realization of wanting to be a woman until I was 34 years old. I'm 37 now.

Due to my families religious beliefs and my upbringing, I didn't know anything about the TS Subject until I got older. I knew that there were people out there who had gender changes done, however I never knew why some people chose to do so.

Now that I know what I know, when I look back over the past 25 years of my life, I now recognize that there were some signs of being TS that go all the way back to my teenage years. Back then the thought of wanting to be a woman was the furthest thing from my mind. It wasn't even part of the equation back then. Even though it was the furthest thing from my mind, I do know that I was always different from most biological males, I just didn't know what it was that made me different.

Sometimes I wonder if I had known about the subject back when I was younger that I might have came to the realization many years ago.

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Guest KellyGirl

I'm new to the whole thing granted. but I only really considered my self trans and had a serous explosion of trans feelings a little after my 18th birthday....which was in January. (although had more mild and vueage feelings growing up some which I never took seriously)

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Guest Andrea-M

I found out pretty much I was female at 21 and only just begun to do something about it at 39 , soo strong is society to force you into denial.

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Guest Kelly

my school counselor is all toward me transitioning she support GLBT's (she has the sticker on her door ... see other post for details)

im 14 right now and my friends, and family are all for it (but they need time to get ued to the idea) oh and my counselor said she would se what she could do about getti enrolled as female next year

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Guest Keiichi-kun
im just wondering i match almost all the catagories to identify as trans but i don't ever remembering wanting to be a girl until about 5th grade and ever since then i always wanted to be. i don't remember much about my childhood and my parents never mentioned anything about me wanting to be a girl. does it really matter?

I'm the same. I just came out at 17 and as a kid at most I was a tomboy. I remember almost nothing about my childhood and my parents say they never saw any signs of it. None of this should matter though. Plenty of trans people don't learn until later on

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Guest mandy05
Mandy05 yor story is similar to mine in many ways , but i kept trying to hide it till i felt like it was killing me inside.

Hi April, and welcome. :)

I sent you an email.

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I was 3 when I told my mom I'd never wear a dress again.

Soon after, I started presenting myself as male, telling everyone I was a little boy.

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Guest babyboy

same i was about 8-9 when i started wearing womens things around the house is started with eyeliner and mascara then went to lipstick powder then i got into bras panties and dresses it didnt really bother my parents(they are clueless most of the time :D .)

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Guest Kelly
same i was about 8-9 when i started wearing womens things around the house is started with eyeliner and mascara then went to lipstick powder then i got into bras panties and dresses it didnt really bother my parents(they are clueless most of the time :D .)

how did you get away with that one lol

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Guest OctoberMermaid

I think I first really gave it some thought when I was six or seven and saw some movie about a guy dying and coming back to earth as a girl and I thought "I wish that would happen to me."

But I only actually realized what I was until I was maybe thirteen or fourteen.

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