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Guest *Charlotte P*

Have driven home from the office at night with bra and breastforms on..it was sooo much fun!!! i unbuttoned my shirt a couple of buttons to be able to enjoy the view of my own cleavage. It was a real blast. Have driven a few times with one of my favorite bras on and no forms. and it's nice to have that feeling while driving! Love it!!

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Guest MrMxyzptlk

Just wanted to add this to the thread.

Today I snuck down to the "Free Store" on my lunch break. It's a charity place like the Salvation Army but instead of putting prices on things and selling them they just have a can you put money in. I took a twenty with me and dropped in to see what they had. I found a nice cotton skirt, a top that fits perfect and SHOES!!! Two pair that are close enough to my size to fit. An adorable closed toe sling back in black with a three inch heel and a pair of four inch stillettos in a zebra pattern! I got out to the van with my bag of goodies and switched into the black slingbacks for the drive home. It felt strange at first but I got the swing of it real quick and made it with no problems. Aparently heels make me a bit of a lead foot though. I kept finding myself speeding and needing to brake.

Rochelle/Scott

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Guest Chrissy6455

I have driven dressed, I have a letter from GT that I have to present to an officer IF I get pulled over that pretty much says that I am undergoing therapy and treatment and I am not doing or attempting anything illegal or malicious. But I have drivin without the letter. Even during daylight about 20 miles to go see my Therapist.

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Guest AshSkittles

Don't get pulled over.

I know its a stupid think to say but its the truth. Wait why would you be pulled over? I mean besides if your driving badly which I'm guessing you don't do. not sure if there is another reason they pull people over.

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Guest ~Phoebe~

Don't get pulled over.

I know its a stupid think to say but its the truth. Wait why would you be pulled over? I mean besides if your driving badly which I'm guessing you don't do. not sure if there is another reason they pull people over.

I was stopped for a headlight being burnt out. The bulb burnt out when I went over a large crack between driveway and street. Must have been a little water in the reflector holder and splashed on the bulb that night. So didn't stop to have the bulb replaced. Police in the area sometimes use equipment violation as a way to check for DUI drivers. I was on they way back from a bar but didn’t have any thing to drink other than a soft drink. I was courteous to the officer and provided my drivers license and insurance card when asked. The officer asked where I was coming from. I told him the name of the bar. He then asked if I had anything to drink at the bar. I told him a soft drink and no beer or liquor. He said something like I guess that won’t effect your driving ability. Then he said he would issue a verbal warring and to have the headlight repaired as soon as possible. Said to drive safely and said I was free to continue on my way.
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I live in an area where there are a number of high schools with a ripe reputation for drinking in the parking lots after school dances and stuff, sooooo -- we have sobriety check points set up frequently during April - June, and October through New Years. Since I have nearly four years of sobriety again, showing my DL and registration which has a proof of insurance mark on it, is no trouble at all.

The last ticket I got was 15 years ago, and I was "in drag", I had been flirting with a guy in the next car over and did not see a no left turn sign!! OOPS No problem with just saying I had been to a drag club and not had any alcohol, and I took the citation and promised to drive safely. I did the traffic school in male mode, but I keep my eyes on the road better now. In 20 years it was my only ticket.

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Since I'm full time I just do it and only occasionally wonder if I got pulled over by a State P what his reaction would be when he got to gender.

I used to be scared though because my driver's license pic showed a fat redheaded (moment of bad judgment shortly before the lic pic was due) old lady with three chins. Since I got a new pic in male mode 200lbs lighter-even our super conservative DL people saw the need and made an exception to the no new pics rule-I figure at least I won't end up at the station trying to prove I am myself now.

Johnny

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Guest southerngirl

Allison,

Do not worry about what the officer thinks.

Just be careful and have your drivers license and registration with you. Make sure they are valid.

You don't want to give the officer any more reason to give you any more citations.

Southerngirl

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Guest MsGsptlsnz

I think one has to take the area of the nation into account here as well. Here in South Dakota the officer would be just as likley to give you a pass as give you a ticket. They seem to have had an overdoase of sensitivity training here. In Colorado you'd have equal chances of a ticket or a night in jail just because they thought you were doing something illegal. In Colorado the police seemed to have been given anti-sensitivity training.

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Guest carolynn2fem

I suspected that going to my therapest dressed would come at some point. I love the thought of it too. many obsticales to overcome first.

Ellen are You saying your the state a fem picture and a AKA? is it a ID card or a DL?

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Guest Scarlett London

I decided for my second time out in public en femme I would just go for a drive. The first being an outdoor shopping area in the city. I was enjoying the drive until I decided to pull into a parking lot to turn around and head home. I was driving through the lanes in the parking lot and some idiot wasn't looking as he backed out of his space. Well, he backed right into my car. Oh, the feeling that came down on me realizing I was going to have to get out of my car and interact with someone (while in a wig, skirt, heels and make up) who just hit me. I got out and all I could do was try to be confident. I think he was a tad shocked and didn't really say much. Eventually he just got back in his car and let his wife deal with the situation, meanwhile, his kids were watching. His wife was respectable and spoke to me as if I was just in my regular male clothing. I got a little nervous when she called her insurance co. and they said if either of us wanted to file a claim an officer would have to come out. Not wanting to deal with further embarrassment I said forget it. Anyway, I laughed about it later and have since gone out in public en femme and had a blast. Moral of the story...drive safe en femme.

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Guest degenet

Hi all i love being dressed when driving when i have to leave for work I am always in a skirt or dress i have to drive 125 km to work and cover up till i pick up my truck them i change back. I drive truck for a living and am always dressed when driving and have been checked by the cops at road blocks they say nothing they send me on my way. I have been dresssing for over 30 years almost full time at home and driving. When i go out i have on girly jeans and a top with a drab shirt on to cover up my bra and top. I feel so good when dressed and out.

Dee

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Thanks for sharing Dee. A car or truck is a great way to be in a safe place while we are getting over the fear of turning into a pumpkin if we are seen. We have a dump truck on our farm and i love to drive it and waves and smile at the women who are obviously happy to see a woman at the wheel of a truck. I also love the help i get at the service station if i'm in shorts and sandals.

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Charlie

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Guest JBPerry

I have done it twice already....both times with no makeup though. My wife, a friend of mine and I went to wal mart and one time i was in one of my white/multicolor dresses with my white sandals.....only person who said something was one of the stockers.....we passed it off as i had lost a bet that night in football do i had to dress up (even though the real reason was because i wanted to wear my dress and sandals out)..no big deal afterwards.....i drove back to base and then i was worried that even though i wasn't in makeup they were still going to see my dress and was going to cause a big scene especially with it being so late at night....well got to the gate, asked for all of our IDs, took a look and waved us through.....relief off of my shoulders....only part i hate about living on base.....even if i lived off base, the wife and I still come on base for various things so it isn't like i can just avoid the base at all costs besides working....theres Marines I know out in town too so cant exactly avoid them either

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Ive drove while en femme for over 30 years. There is nothing better to take a quick peek down and see that wonderful cleevage or those beautiful nylons or those new high heals. Ive never been pulled over and if I do I'll just go with the flow. Try to interact the best I can. Love Amber L.

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Guest CDCorinne

I have the luxury of working from home (when I am not traveling) and, therefore dress on a daily basis. While I do not think of myself as passable, I often will go out and run through the bank drive-through, fast food drive-through, etc. and I have never had a problem.

Most people are focused on their lives and do not have time to worry about me. The key is to be careful and avoid being flamboyant.

When I have been "outed" I just acknowledge it and act like it is what it is....which is, in fact, the case.

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Guest Jenny Lou

Just to let everyone know, I love driving around when dressed. The first time wearing heels though I hit the gas pedal to hard and my car took off kind of fast. So just be careful when heels are on. I just love the look of my knees with my skirt sliding up. Also when getting out of car, like wow! Jenny Lou likes Y--

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Guest DianeATL

a few years ago i was dressed up. i looked pretty good to. i was driving around at like 11:30pm and i got pulled over. my heart was racing. i was so scared. but i shouldn't have been cuz really i didn't do anything wrong. they said they pulled me over cuz late at night only cops and crooks are driving around. well i guess i proved their theory wrong. they completely embarrased me. told me to get out of the car and stand behind it, meanwhile cars kept going by of course looking to see what was happening. they asked me stupid questions like was i gay? did my family know what i was doing? who cares it was none of their business. they looked me up and down for about 10 minutes after then let me go. after going through that, I got more and more brave when i went out dressed up.i do it all the time now.bottom line is, if you are not doing anything illegal the cops can't do ANYTHING but maybe try to embarass you. i would be more worried about cars loaded with young guys they are the ones who usually start something.

Those officers should be fired. Not that you want the hassle but you have a strong civil rights case against them.

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Guest DianeATL

I think others have stated it pretty well regarding getting pulled over. First, nothing illegal in dressing so don't accept any hassle or nonsense from the officer. If they start in as one poster said, asking if you were gay or making other remarks about you, politely say that you would like a supervisor present before you continue the dialog. The right to freedom of movement is granted in our constitution, they can ticket you for traffic violations but you are not obligated to answer any questions about where you have been or where you are going or what you are doing. That is your business and unless they have probable cause to believe it is illegal, politely changing the subject back to the purpose of the stop is appropriate. Remember most of the time these stops are video recorded so remain polite and respectful and honest, but you don't have to answer or volunteer anything personal or private not related to the traffic infraction.

And another tip from an officer, regardless of whether you are dressed when you get pulled over. Approaching a stopped vehicle is potentially dangerous for an officer so their adrenaline kicks up and their mind is on alert status. The best thing you can do is to put them as ease and the best way to do that, is to keep your hands in sight, usually on top of the steering wheel, until they have an opportunity to greet you and assess the situation. Don't start to scramble around in your glove box for the registration and insurance until they ask you for it and they can watch your hands and what you are doing. That reduces their stress and is likely to end up with a better result for you.

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Guest LauraJen

Just to let everyone know, I love driving around when dressed. The first time wearing heels though I hit the gas pedal to hard and my car took off kind of fast. So just be careful when heels are on. I just love the look of my knees with my skirt sliding up. Also when getting out of car, like wow! Jenny Lou likes Y--

I went out dressed up once and I actually had a pair of flats with me to do the actual driving in. I changed to heels when I got out. I wasn't brave enough to do it in heels even though I only drove a few hundred metres just to get past some houses. I have actually heard stories of women being told off by police officers for driving in heels - not something I want to experience. If I ever get reprimanded for something like that, it stays in my head for ages and I dwell on it. There's this book that I studied when I reached driving age that gives you advice on everything to do with driving and one of the things it advised against was wearing heels. It wasn't something I was prepared to risk, especially because at the time I shared my car with someone else!

I live in a rural area where there is a long road that doesn't actually go anywhere and it's perfectly safe to go there dressed after dark (one of the few good things about living in such an area, there are plenty of disadvantages, such as feeling isolated because there aren't any support groups round here). Once when my folks went out and I stayed at home, I decided to go out dressed up. The outfit I wore wasn't that feminine, but it was still a good step to take. I wore a black coat, a black and white T shirt, womens' jeans and black pumps (and flats, as mentioned above). I only used the car to get myself clear of the surrounding houses as I didn't want to walk past them. It was a night in October and it had been dark for a while. I then got out and walked down the road for a bit before heading back.

Unfortunately due to a very large purge last year I don't have any of this stuff anymore. It was quite a historic moment for me because it was the first time I was out of the confines of the house in female mode. Maybe I should do it again sometime. I am not quite as brave as I once was though and the thought of my parents turning around and coming back home, for whatever reason, terrifies me. I am hoping to move away as soon as possible after I am in work, because I can't really do anything here. I obviously wouldn't recommend going out alone at night anywhere else though and I wouldn't repeat the above in the middle of a city, for example, no matter how well I pass.

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Guest joan eden

I love driving while dressed,once I get out of my neighbobhood.I shave my legs and, I just love to feel the breeze.I love short skirts and have a mirror I clip to my sunvisor to see that I'm showing enough leg but, not to much.It feels very free.

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