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I have became Muslim and because of this i have dressed mostly female where before i have dressed more mixed sex.

Am unsure weather i should dress female than male i do believe how ever that i am about 70% female 30% male( unsure if i should really be on this forum ) i do like to dress in a mix sex way.

But when am praying or about in town ( i don't go to the mosque because my husband isnt Muslim and i would have to explain things to the other women there and i dont want to go into that )

At the moment am not wearing the hajab because my mother was upset at me wearing it ( my father died on the 17th and she don't want me to wear it at the funeral )

IS there anyone who can advise me with this



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I'm sorry Alexx, but I have no advice to offer, other than to seek the advice of a local Mullah or Mujtahid if you attend a mosque. Perhaps someone with better knowledge will see this thread.

Carolyn Marie

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Hi Alexx, Im happy to see a muslim here.

Im a muslim too, but I am not a strict muslim. I know most part of Islam rules and I have red rules about transsexuals and transgenders.

If you tell me what is your case (Gay, Lesbian, Transsexual, Transgender, Or what) and what is your current gender and what is your desired gender I can tell you every thing about rules of islam about you. Cause I live in Iran and Iran is islamic republic of Iran. then I must know every thing :)

but about hejab: You can look at this with diffrent angles. but your mother order or your father order doesn't make sense, cause they are forcing you not to do an order of god and your are permitted not to do what they want. then Its your case. you must choose what to do. If you are currently man (as genitals) there is no need of hejab. but if you are woman then we have some cases. here are some of them:

1st: If you are unsafe when using Hejab, then you are not permitted to do hejab. Its a rule named Taghie. because hejab may be dangerous for you. cause I've heared about some anti religious mads in england.

2nd: If you are safe, but you feel very bad in Hejab, you should not wear hejab. cause transsexual's face is not like face of a woman and it can change the rules about hejab. hejab is because of women's beauty but when you have lost it, then you are not forced to follow it. its so simple.

BUT: not following the Hejab doesn't mean to become sexy. means you must make your self some how that is a normal appearance of women in your country. means you cannot Come in Sexy, Gay, Lesbian, etc fashions. thats because it makes you look like a member of that group and its prohibited in Islam.

I hope it was use full for you.

Please feel FREE to ask me any question you had about Islam, I can help you with 99% of the questions. I am here to help my family members and you are a part of my family.

Best Wishes. congrats about becoming a muslim, Hoping the bests.

Kim Orbit

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Thank you kimorbit for your reply I was born female , it is safe for me to wear the hajab where i live it not a good idea to at the moment because of my mums wishes about my dad funeral but after the funeral i will be back wearing it again.

hopefully there isnt an issue with my mother after that,

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well If there is no danger for you wearing hejab there is no major reason not to wear it. Im sorry about your father. im really sorry. God bless him.

If you are not wearing hejab because of your mother's situation, then I think its ok. she has lots of problems to face with. then I think its ok not to make her sad. But every thing is depended on you in this case. :)

and.... If you want to be a boy, and you wear boyish clothes, and your appearance became masculine, then hejab is not needed any more. cause you are a boy in that case. then if you try to be a man, you should omit the hejab.

please pray for me, today is the turning point of my life.

thank you, your sister, Kim Orbit

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I have stopped wearing the hajab as i feel like am in the middle of female and male unsure what to think of myself really its something i have been struggling with for a while part of me wants to be female including wearing the hajab yet the other part of me wants to be male and not wear the hajab

its confusing.

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I am so happy that you have made up your mind and you have made a choice for your life.

you know, Life is hard for us. I mean transgenders by telling us. and you are a part of our community. well we cant stand the side problems. well I have read :"transgenders must do rules between rules of boys and girls." from a book written by Imam Khomeini. Imam Khomeini was the great leader of Islam in the past century. He had written a book and he had explained every thing about us in that book. well, in gender based rules, we must do some thing in the middle. for example saying prayers. men must do it with high voice and women must do it silently. but we must do something in middle. something like silent. well I think hajab is like these rules. we are something in middle. then we are not 100% boy and not 100% girl. then we dont need to do all the rules for females, must we?? I think its not base on logic that all the rules come in middle and only one of them stands alone. based on logic I can say you have choose the right idea. I will do that when I leave Iran too, cause Hejab is some thing in rules of Iran and even foreign people must use that.

then dont let any thing bother you.

And to tell the truth, you are so beautiful :) I just wanted to tell you and nothing more.

your sister, with best wishes, Kim

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