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What do I do about my bulemia?


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So almost everyday before my mom gets home from work I just pig out, eatiing ANYTHING that taste yummy, then I cry for 20 minutes then make myself throw up. This has been going on for about a year now.

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Wow.

I'm not a therapist or anything, and I am certainly not judging. But from what I know, I'd say you really really need to try to discuss this with a therapist or a Doctor. Purging (making yourself throw up) on a regular basis can damage your digestive system and can/will actually dissolve your teeth (stomach acid is quite strong). So Its potentially quite dangerous.

I know its not your fault, and it certainly doesn't make you a bad person, but if you don't get help for this and you find you continue doing it, it will end up harming you.

Take care,

Kay

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What to do about Bulemia== Run, do not walk to your Parent(s) or your school counselor and let them know what you are doing, and that you see it ruining your life. Address this condition BEFORE you even have to worry about your gender issues. If your parents can get you into an Adolescent Medicine program with their health insurance provider, they will have ways to help you with it, since it is a known teenage problem. You have learned that food makes up for something you are missing and that you need. Probably one of the things you need is other people you can talk with or even just be with so you are not lonely.

At your point in life, the GD can be ferocious, but your critical mission is to keep yourself healthy in order to live long enough to fulfill your dreams.

Learn how to prepare nutritious snacks for yourself using fresh fruits and vegetables, fixing the snacks can become fun and a skill that will help you in other ways.

Bulemia is a sufficient medical issue to merit its own treatment, and if you are afraid of your parents in regard to your GD, you can wait until a counselor for the bulemia can talk with you and spill it there. Counselors DO NOT tell your parents everything you have said to them, young teenagers do have medical privacy in just about every US state, so trust the adults around you a little bit, and you may find they don't bite as hard as legend plays it up to be.

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What to do about Bulemia== Run, do not walk to your Parent(s) or your school counselor and let them know what you are doing, and that you see it ruining your life. Address this condition BEFORE you even have to worry about your gender issues. If your parents can get you into an Adolescent Medicine program with their health insurance provider, they will have ways to help you with it, since it is a known teenage problem. You have learned that food makes up for something you are missing and that you need. Probably one of the things you need is other people you can talk with or even just be with so you are not lonely.

At your point in life, the GD can be ferocious, but your critical mission is to keep yourself healthy in order to live long enough to fulfill your dreams.

Learn how to prepare nutritious snacks for yourself using fresh fruits and vegetables, fixing the snacks can become fun and a skill that will help you in other ways.

Bulemia is a sufficient medical issue to merit its own treatment, and if you are afraid of your parents in regard to your GD, you can wait until a counselor for the bulemia can talk with you and spill it there. Counselors DO NOT tell your parents everything you have said to them, young teenagers do have medical privacy in just about every US state, so trust the adults around you a little bit, and you may find they don't bite as hard as legend plays it up to be.

...Im seeing a therapist for my GD, im just not transitioning yet.

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Guest Juniper Blue

I struggled with Bulimia in my teens until my early twenties. I felt a lot of pressure, especially from my Mom to be "petite." At first, my problem was mild and the occasional binging and purging seemed harmless. But things quickly spiraled out of control. I started to restrict my diet more seriously and began running daily. Over time, my eating was reduced to protein powder only and I began running twice per day at least 10 miles daily. I was starving myself and I would eventually end up binging and purging when I just couldn't control myself any longer. Over time, I began binging more frequently until I was binging once or twice per day. I was dreaming about food, it was all that I could think of because my body was starving.

A friend of mine ended up dying from Bulimia due to heart damage caused by the disease ... and by this, I realized that I need help. Unfortunately, when I told my mother

( I was 15 and had been doing this for just over 2 years) she said "At least you are not FAT." I realized that I was on my own. I continue to run but binged only on healthy foods (when I absolutely felt that I had to binge.) I promised myself to give up purging. I did have relapses and this tended to happen when I was stressed. I did not give up. I resolved that i would start again and not let set-backs keep me down. Eventually, I had eliminated purging and had reduced binging significantly. By my twenties , I was no longer binging and was able to eat more normally. I still struggle with overeating but it is not a serious problem in my life today and I am in good health. I do believe that my height was stunted and that the malnutrition caused me to stop growing but other than this, I was able to keep my heart etc. stable. Not everyone is this lucky.

My advice to you:

Think carefully about WHY you are binging and purging ... what is it doing for you? How does it make you feel? Is it worth it? Is there something else that you can do that would satisfy this need that is a healthier alternative?

Ask Yourself:

Do you feel like a worth while human being? Are you willing to learn to love yourself?

Try to set goals for yourself to help in your recovery. Bay steps are fine. Y9ou have taken a step just by posting this topic. Perhaps the next step will be to find a support group? DO NOT GIVE UP ON YOURSELF. Every day is a new day. You deserve better than this.

Today there are support groups and ways to get help. You do not have to go through this alone. You will be able to find help and you will be able to help others. You CAN overcome this.

I wish you the best,

- J

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