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I am wanting to be able to live as a woman w/ all the nice clothing that a woman wears but the problem that I am constantly facing is that w/ any kind of breast forms there are certain tops that I can't wear 'cause it will make it obvious that I don't have real breasts & that is a real annoyance so my question is this, should I go & get breast implants I already know that they are expencive so there is no need to mention that & also I know that there is going to be some pain for a while from the recivery but I am just tiered of living as a man & I want to get this going ASAP so I am basically getting desperate can someone help me out here.

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Yes, ultimately the answer is "only you will know if its right" but since you already know the monetary cost involved and the pain/bodily cost then really what I have to offer are other possible questions that might make your deciding easier.

If you get the implants how will it affect the rest of your life; your life is not just transitioning. Are your friends/coworkers/landlord ready for you to "have breasts"? Have you prepped those other people in your life or do you feel you need to? Do you live full time 24/7? If you aren't, do you still ever venture in the mensroom and if so how are breasts going to play out for you there? The gym? A mens clothing store in the event you need to be measured/fitted for something? How is it going to fit into your dating process (assuming you're dating)? Will it limit you to seeking only certain "types" of dates certain places? The cosmetic surgeon to do the implants may be easy to find but how will you having breasts go over with your regular medical provider? Will he /she be uncomfortable? Doctors are people too. Have you ever found out?

You might have covered all these to yourself without hearing them. I dont know. I just was throwing out stuff in case you hadn't. Sometimes it helps to discern if something is a good idea or if its a good time for that idea.

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Hi,

I would say that other people opinion does not matter for your decision. I am wondering a bit that you only see the money problem but not the health problem. What type of body shape do you have? What is the size of breast looking good on you or what is the size you are happy with? Can your back handle this extra weight? Do you know the riscs of this type of implants? Do you get HRT? Will your breast grow in the future?

What would you do if you can not get implants?

Greetings

Nelly

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Guest Sofiadragon

Well my wife is fully supported of me in doing this 100% so I don't have to worry about her & I run my own business so I don't need to worry about the work aspect I am just short of money 'cause I recently opened up but no I'm not on HRT "yet" but I do want to start living as a woman ASAP & I will explain everything to my reg doc before I get them just so she doesn't freak out but I am just currious on what others opinions are 'cause I am currious on what others that have been on this battle ground before have done that is all 'cause it will help me make my decision.

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Well the one problem that you haven't mentioned and maybe haven't thought about is, what happens if you get the implants to the size you want and then while on HRT they begin to grow on thier own. The only way to know how much your breast will grow on HRT is to go on HRT and find out - genetics give a little bit of a guide, if every woman in your family has large breasts, you will probably develop pretty well (in theory about one cup size smaller) but there are a number of variables all controlled by your own body chemistry and genetic make up. I have a friend who developed very well starting on HRT at the age of 57 (supposidly the later you start the less they will grow - if that had been the case she would've turnned into Dolly Parton if she had done it at 30). The point is think about it carefully - if you are one of the lucky ones who develop well on HRT and you already have large implants you could be looking at having to have them removed and possibly replaced with smaller ones (another surgery - cost, pain and recovery) if you wait and still need implants after HRT it would only be one surgery. I would suggest that you think about it very carefully and be sure before you do anything.

Just cautious,

Sally

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I am wanting to be able to live as a woman w/ all the nice clothing that a woman wears but the problem that I am constantly facing is that w/ any kind of breast forms there are certain tops that I can't wear 'cause it will make it obvious that I don't have real breasts & that is a real annoyance so my question is this, should I go & get breast implants I already know that they are expencive so there is no need to mention that & also I know that there is going to be some pain for a while from the recivery but I am just tiered of living as a man & I want to get this going ASAP so I am basically getting desperate can someone help me out here.

A few factors. As always, get into therapy. You're going to need their help later anyway, you may as well start now.

Now....hormones will help with breasts. The younger you are when you start the more impact they'll have. If they have a good enough impact, you may not need implants.

Next, according to WPATH (World Professionals Assoc. Trangenered Health) they set the standards for what hoops we have to jump through along with way. According to them, you'll have to have been on hormones for 18 months before surgery is allowed.

I would start with that and go from there, AFTER that's done. See where you are.

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Well the biggest problem that I am having is that I don't have any customers for my store so I don't have any money to spend to be able to see a therapist & I know that medicaide won't cover it @ all so I am :banghead::banghead::banghead: all Gosh darned day (sorry if that is offense if so just delete it along w/ this if it isn't just take out this) 'cause I don't want to be JR any longer & I know that I need to see a therapist 'cause there are certain things that I can only do/get through them, so I am kinda out on a limb here, & as previously stated I was just looking for opinions on a yay or nay scenario 'cause I was looking to see what other persons like myself thought about them.

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Guest Sarah Dreams

I'm with Sally on this. Wait till you know how much you'll develop on HRT before going with implants. HRT will take you through a kind of female puberty and how many pre-pubescent girls do you know that have implants? ;)

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Guest Nekomata

If you ever plan on taking hormones then don't get implants until at least 1 or 2 years after hormones. If hormones start doing their work after implants are put in, things can get really messed up down there.

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Guest Chrissie
Well the biggest problem that I am having is that I don't have any customers for my store so I don't have any money to spend to be able to see a therapist & I know that medicaide won't cover it @ all so I am :banghead::banghead::banghead: all Gosh darned day (sorry if that is offense if so just delete it along w/ this if it isn't just take out this) 'cause I don't want to be JR any longer & I know that I need to see a therapist 'cause there are certain things that I can only do/get through them, so I am kinda out on a limb here, & as previously stated I was just looking for opinions on a yay or nay scenario 'cause I was looking to see what other persons like myself thought about them.

You have a few things wrong/Misinformed Medicaide and Medicare will cover HRT, But... Your doctor has to be willing to word it that you have a HORMONAL IMBALANCE... Some Doctors will not do this so don't expect this to be as big a loophole as you hope. Second Before Most Doctors will even consider doing HRT you do Have to see a therapist. Implants are considered cosmetic even for those have had breast cancer or other issues like that.

Most General Therapists are fairly easy to bully/lead/ or whatever term you want to use into saying that you are Trans because they don't know as much as they pretend to about this specialty, the Key is to know more than they do about it.

Most Girls get told that If they get implants before they start developing they'll have to get them done again because during the development stages they will start to make the breasts misshapen? (I think thats the right word...) Point is they won't look right and will cause more problems then not.

Breast Development from HRT is usually 2/3 to 3/4 of the nearest female relative, so if Mom or Sis had a D cup you can count on C to C+ cup in most cases. But is not unheard of to develop bigger than them.

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