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Clothing And The Tiping Point Of Transition


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Guest AndreaSC

One of the greatest mysteries to men is why clothing is such a big deal to woman. As a guy, I'm pretty much indifferent towards clothes. While I'm not yet that far enough along in my transition to be able to talk about this with any authority, I can begin to understand a woman's feeling towards clothing. So was there any clothing acquisition with which you would mark your transition from one gender to the other?

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I never cared much about clothes while I was living as a guy, but nowadays I absolutely love buying new clothes and keeping track of the latest trends. My first time shopping in a woman's clothing store was probably a major step in my transition... so was getting rid of all my old male clothes. :)

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Guest SuzanneF

my first skirt/top purchase. Navy blue skirt with a pink stripped t-shirt that ties around the neck. As soon as I saw it..I knew I wanted to have it as it shows the type of casual woman I want to be.

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Guest geek_girl

i don't have any of my girl cloths anymore, i lost some weight so they didn't fit. sadly i haven't had the money to buy more stuff, and since my parents don't know about me yet, i still get boy cloths from them :(

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Guest Dr.Metropolis

I just went shopping yesterday for women's clothes for the first time, and let me tell you, it was a totally new experience. Just like you, I didn't care about boy clothes at all, but buying my first outfits and trying on different women's clothes with my gg friend really opened me up. I got lots of cute stuff for decent prices especially in the clearance sections - a few tops, a pair of leg warmers, shoes, jeans, leggings, and a skirt. Just having an entire female outfit with shoes, a purse, etc, really made me feel so much more myself and happy/content.

I would say yesterday was a huge step and turning point that I was rather afraid of (afraid it wouldn't be natural) and it really opened me up to my own transgendered self.

Dr M

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I just went shopping yesterday for women's clothes for the first time, and let me tell you, it was a totally new experience. Just like you, I didn't care about boy clothes at all, but buying my first outfits and trying on different women's clothes with my gg friend really opened me up. I got lots of cute stuff for decent prices especially in the clearance sections - a few tops, a pair of leg warmers, shoes, jeans, leggings, and a skirt. Just having an entire female outfit with shoes, a purse, etc, really made me feel so much more myself and happy/content.

I would say yesterday was a huge step and turning point that I was rather afraid of (afraid it wouldn't be natural) and it really opened me up to my own transgendered self.

Dr M

Cool! (I have to admit I'm envious!)

But analytically, is there anything that you can recognize as making you dig women's clothing, or was I just a matter of "hey, I'm a chick now. What outfit do you think looks best on me?":)

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Guest SuzanneF

good question....I think as males we are limited in our options as far as clothing goes...but now there is a whole other level to it now New colours, new styles,

The display of feminity of the clothes I've purchased is liberating for me.. wearing pink or lavender tops feels nice as it reflects how feminine I am feeling inside.

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Guest Sarah Dreams

For a guy, there are really not many choices in clothing: shirts, pants or shorts. For a girl, there is a whole universe of choices which includes everything guys can wear. Girl's clothes are colorful and come in an endless variety of shapes and sizes. You can dress conservatively or slutty or anywhere in between.

I am a girl (T-girl) but even in boy mode I'm a clothes horse. I own just as many shoes as my GG wife and my side of the closet is as full as hers. But the variety of clothing options in boy mode is still very limited. It still comes down to Shirts, pants and shorts. In girl mode, I can easily dress to fit my mood and to communicate that mood to the world. I am very creative and enjoy the freedom of expression that women's clothing options gives me.

As for a particular clothing aquisition, it would have to be my first bra and panties. A bra is intrinsically female and to wear undies without a slit in front was mentally correct.

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One of the greatest mysteries to men is why clothing is such a big deal to woman. As a guy, I'm pretty much indifferent towards clothes. While I'm not yet that far enough along in my transition to be able to talk about this with any authority, I can begin to understand a woman's feeling towards clothing. So was there any clothing acquisition with which you would mark your transition from one gender to the other?

For a woman, clothing makes a statement.

When a woman get's dressed up she's not doing it for the guy she's with - she's doing it for herself. Women love to be the center of attention and a good outfit accomplishes that.

Personally, I went with stuff I can mix and match. Get more out of what I have instead of being a clothes horse.

Passing is about blending and I'd advise you to wear whatever most of the women in your area wear. Don't be a horse amoung zebras. I'm in Wyoming so that means a casual/western/dress look.

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Guest Dr.Metropolis
Cool! (I have to admit I'm envious!)

But analytically, is there anything that you can recognize as making you dig women's clothing, or was I just a matter of "hey, I'm a chick now. What outfit do you think looks best on me?":)

Hmm, that's an interesting question. I think I've always found women's clothing more interesting than men's. Before I was even aware of my transgenderedness, I would compliment girls on outfits I thought were cute. I love the different ways that it can bring out the shape and the look you are looking for. I've never felt sexy in men's clothing, but I definitely can feel that way when I dress as a woman. I am not 100% sure of my own "style" yet, but I could instantly pick out what definitely was NOT what I wanted to wear :D and I did find things I really liked.

Hope that helps,

Dr M

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