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Guest mystery

I dress when it feels right... sometimes i go for weeks without it, but sooner or later i'm all dressed up again, even if its only for a sneaky minute!

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Guest rachel38

I dress as often as I can some times once or twice a week. Often for for weeks at a time not at all . But the urge is always there .Would like to dress more often if I could.

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Guest KatyDesire

I can identify with you. I sometimes don't feel the need for a few days, but then the "itch" starts and I have to "scratch". I am comfortable as a male, but I haven't as yet gone fully en femme. My work does not allow me to do it every day, but I have adopted a lot of things which are perhaps feminine, but close enough to avoid it being too obvious - for example, I wear my wedding ring on my left hand as well as another quite large ring on my right hand - a bit like the continental fashion, My shirts are perhaps not quite what a hypermasculine male would choose, and so on. But I suspect it is going to become more frequent in the near future.

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Guest alexiaannalise

i dont get to dress all that much cuz my gf doesnt really like it when i do and shes told me i cant dress when our kids are home so my window of dressing is limited to 2 to 3 times a month i wish it was more and i wish i had more clothes

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Guest MrMxyzptlk

Right now it's only at lunch time and on weekends when my wife works and my son goes to a freinds house for the day. A few years ago my wife went to a wedding and took our son with her. That left me alone for a whole week! I wish I'd had the collection I have now back then. That would have been nice.

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Guest Willow35

At the moment I can only (under) dress 3 days a week as my SO is still coming to terms with things. However, I am able to wear quite padded bras and nail vanish.

Just I am slowly beginning to find myself looking forward to these 3 days more and more. Each time feeling more and more relaxed and content. Which seems almost odd at times, as I don't feel like many MtoF's have expressed. Yet for a long time I've wanted to feel fully female, which makes me feel a little confused at times.

Hugs thanks for reading

Sarah :)

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Guest MrMxyzptlk

I used to be like that Peta. But I ntoiced the more I supressed the fem side the less I was interested in intimacy with my wife. Things got pretty bad for us and finaly I accepted what the truth was, Rochelle needs to come out to play if I wans Scott to be interested in intimacy. It seems the two are linked somehow and separating them is all but imposible.

Now that I have my own clothes for dressing I feel a lot less guilt over it. Let yourself go more often and you will feel a lot better about you.

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I used to be like that Peta. But I ntoiced the more I supressed the fem side the less I was interested in intimacy with my wife. Things got pretty bad for us and finaly I accepted what the truth was, Rochelle needs to come out to play if I wans Scott to be interested in intimacy. It seems the two are linked somehow and separating them is all but imposible.

Now that I have my own clothes for dressing I feel a lot less guilt over it. Let yourself go more often and you will feel a lot better about you.

Thanks for sharing! But I'm not quite there yet. I haven't even started thinking about a name for my (other) self.

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Guest MsGsptlsnz

Peta, right now I am doing a teleconferance from home for work. I snuck home early and got dressed. I'm wearing a white long sleved v neck streatchy shirt (shows off the girls real nice) a brown pencil skirt, suntan hose and a pair of medium heel brown pumps. I've got makeup on and some of my jewlery. I get 2 hours of bliss while learning about Alarmlocks latest product. Very neat.

Find your moments and let yourself fell the pleasure of your fem side. We spend too much time lying to ourselves and others. A hour or two of honesty with yourself is priceless.

I may change the shoes though, I just got them yesterday and I think they are a bit too tight. Even though they look fabulous with the skirt.

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MsGsptlsnz, it sounds like you're having fun. I just came out to my gf a few days ago, so I'm taking it slow. I'm guessing that we, both my gf and I, will have to figure out how often I'm going to dress, as we get used to the idea. It's all new to us.

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Guest MsGsptlsnz

I hope you two can make it work. It will give me hope that my wife and I can make it work. She wants me to grow all my hair back... Ick. I like being smooth. She wants her fuzzy guy back...

But then we've got 13 years togather the I suddenly changed on her.

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hi hon,

I know that I am very late to this topic. I only just saw this now. Hon, whenever you feel the need to crossdress is OK :)

I crossdress every day, but that is just my need, not yours. If you crossdress occasionally that is OK!

Don't doubt yourself hon, just know that you are OK and just be yourself.

Love.

Brenda

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Guest Allie Bye

I dress when I feel like it or when I feel like going out. I do it for fun and when it doesn't feel like fun, I don't bother with it. I can do it daily (outside of the work office) or not bother with it for months.

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Guest cdallison36

Hello ladies

I am just sitting here reading these posts wearing a bra and panties and thigh highs

I dress everytime I get a chance I just like the feel of lingerie and other female apparrel when dressed I am a closet dresser

I have gone out to stores every once in a while and got mixed results

I am looking for the nerve and guidance to go out fully dresed

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Guest MsGsptlsnz

I dress everytime I get a chance I just like the feel of lingerie and other female apparrel when dressed I am a closet dresser

Welcome to the closet! As I've said on other threads,we need to get a contractor in here to knock out a few walls and make it a walk in closet because there are so many of us here.

I have gone out to stores every once in a while and got mixed results

I am looking for the nerve and guidance to go out fully dresed

I shop in male mode for fem garments all the time. Mostly second hand and consignment stores. I don't want to spend a lot on clothes I wear in private. Having said that Walmart is a wonderful place with the self checkout lanes. I get most of my undergarments there because it's hard to find them in my size at Salvation Army.

I'm working up the nerve too. I think Halloween will be my first time out. I am practicing with makeup to get it down to where I odn't look like I was mugged by clowns. I think I am getting close. Eye makeup and the proper tint of blush is all that I need to figure out. I've got a victorian outfit all togather that rocks. Well, I need boots for it still. My size ten boots are ripping at the seams so I need some 11's in something Victorian or at least timeless...

I have been studying the way we identify gender and I think the most important thing is the first impression. If a person tags you as female from across the room then when they get close they will likley keep that tag unless something painfully obvious gives you away and forces them to re-assess their initial decison. I think the two most important things to get down are hair and clothes. A feminine hairdoo followed by a well put togather outfit along with the right bling will get the all important first impression of female. Then as long as your makeup doesn't look like a 3 year old put it on you, facial hair is properly dealt with, your hands don't look rough and the adams apple isn't bobbing in their face you will stay female in their mind. Voice needs to be worked on if you plan on interacting with people much, not sure how to advise you on that. I can pull off a passable female voice but I can't explain how I do it. Lastly body language is important. You can't sit with your legs spread wide, grunting and farting if you want to keep them seeing you as female.

Three things to start doing now. Skin care. Exfoliate EVERYWHERE you expect to show skin. Then lotion with a good moisturizing formula. After a short while your skin will be soft and smooth which is vital. Second practice makeup. It's a lot harder than it looks. Pay attention to womens faces and get an idea of how they do it. Thirdly get the body language down. How women walk, move, sit, laugh, etc...

Once you have those down then start thinking about the outfit to wear in public. I've got a black cotton skirt and white cotton top with long sleves that will be the base of my mall walk outfit when I get the courage up. Still not sure if I will go with a patterned stocking or simple sheer hose. Also not sure on heels for outings. I am six foot one so my prefered 4 inch stillettos for home use may not be a great idea in public. I'm looking for the perfect black pump in a two inch heel to complete the outfit. Maybe I will go with a wedge. I've got some bling but I need more, earings being a gap in my collection.

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Guest Scarlett London

I would dress every couple of days if I could. Unfortunately I'm just not able. The amount you feel like you need to dress is the correct amount. There is no wrong answer.

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No set time intervals for me for dressing.

Currently once a month but I have dressed daily when the feeling has struck.

It depends on what I'm doing around the house.

Also depends on the time of year, for some reason. Winters are usually cold and dark so I tend to spend more time dressing then and relaxing in front of a fire. :thumbsup:

Joann

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Guest Rosabella

On most days for a few minutes at least, when my wife is not at home; at least tights and heels. It is still novel for me, so as often as possible. But it is affecting my sleep since I think about the next morning before I go to sleep the night before.

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Guest Roberta-Belinda

My dressing varies in recent months it been every three weeks on days my wife is out of the house, but I have recently started buying some new clothes, I have purged a lot over the years, but I have managed to rein it and not throw clothes away. . I would really like to build up my wardrobe but its a bit awkward as I dont want my wife to know I am dressing up again. She caught me once, she was a bit upset but not as bad as I thought she did listen to me and was understanding under the cirumstances.

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Guest degenet

Hi all

I am always dressed when i am at home i have more girl cloths than drab my wife is ok with me dressing. When i go out in my male mode i am always underdressed in panties, bra. top nice girl jeans and a man's shirt or coat on so you can say i am always dressed.

My job has me in male mode most if the time I drive long hall trucking. But most of the time driving i am in a skirt or dress it only when i am loading or unloading i am in full male mode. I would love to live 24/7 but i live in a small town and people in town would hassle my wife so i am in half male mode when i go to town.

Dee.

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