8 years post op and my new life

[haileyj]

It has been 8 years since I had my SRS and no regrets at all.My adoptive parents were with me for support and I remember it all.My adoptive mother including my adoptive father were a little tearful saying good bye to a son.We hugged before I was rolled to the operatoring room and was ready when I was finally rolled in for the SRS.I was put out and and it all happened.Then when it was all done,doctor told my parents they have a daughter now and the operation went well.My adoptive parents saw me the next day,they let me rest.We hugged and I asked if the the defective part is gone,they said yes.When my new vagina was revealed to me,I fell right in love and the next steps were not easy at first.I was sore,went out for walks,had to stick a dialator down so it did not collapse.Finally it was final test,learning to urinate all over again sitting down.It stung a little bit and that went great.Then my new life happened and dating was not easy at first.I was attracted to men.Most of the men I dated rejected me after I told them.I did date one guy,he was great about it and his parents did not approve at all.We ended up breaking up.I have a great husband Ralph in my life and the great part his family is supportive.I met Ralph at a transgender support group,he is a genetic male and he goes there as a supporter.It was one day he approached me that he wanted to know me more and I said yes.I saw he was a very nice man and was very caring.My husband and I were married in 2008 and the marriage has been great for 5 years.We celebrate our 6th in January.

[Charlize]

Hailey, Thank you for your very positive story. It sounds like you are doing very well and have found what many have dreamed of. Positive posts do help us know they are not impossible dreams.

Hugs,

Charlie

[haileyj]

I am doing very well,I have learned there are hurdles you go through in life that you have to break through.I have done this and give back also.I help out families that have transgendered kids struggling through it and tell them to love and accept them.My husband's family has a heart of gold,love and accept people for who they are not judging or hurting them in a bad way.They welcomed me in right away when I first met them.My brother in law Roger is gay,he told me about another support group for GLBT people and said I was welcomed in when I first met him.I go with him to this support group to this day and he was right,I was welcomed in after introducing myself.

[Carolyn Marie]

Thanks very much for sharing your story, Hailey. It must have been great to have had such supportive parents during and after the surgery. You are very lucky in that regard. Congrats on your surgery and all that came after. I wish you continued good fortune and good health.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest]

Thank you for sharing, Hailey.

I wish you continued success on your Journey.

Huggs,

Joann

[haileyj]

My adoptive parents knew I was not happy about something,I was never happy with being male.My bio parents were ignorant,gave up on me.My adoptive parents made me smile the day after the SRS was done,a card and my adoptive mother wrote something in it and made me tear up.I was emotional when I read it:

To our new adoptive daughter,we still love you and know you are the same person now a woman.You are a great person thinking about your future.We watched you grow up and been good to us.Watched the hurdles you broke through that you felt that you are truelly female.Finally your adoptive father and I see you are finally happy and the old you is gone for good.Now we wish you the best for the rest of your future.

I looked at them and said thank you.My adoptive father even walked me down the aisle when I got married and I say this the best moment in my life and he agreed on this with me.I remember when Trantasia came out on dvd,my adoptive parents and I watched it after buying one.My adoptive mother was tearful hearing the the stories of 4 of the contestants went through and I comforted her.They give back too helping out parents of transgendered kids knowing they went through this.

[Guest lis8290]

thank you for sharing that.