Kinda embarrassing...

[Guest Akarri]

Hello,
Its been awhile since I've logged into LP and well I've kinda had a burning question in my mind that I was hoping that someone on here could quell. A little background first, I am (about to be in 4 days) 22, I've been living full time transgender for almost a year, I came out Jan. of this year. I have yet to actually change my name due to lack of money, I saw a therapist for a few months, but had to stop *cough* due to lack of money, I've gone blonde and have my nose pierced (will upload a photo tomorrow, all the ones i have are in a format that is too big) anyways enough getting distracted my question is, can someone PM me about post-op vaginas? I am extremely curious but I can't really find much info online so I was hoping that someone on here could help -_-'


THANKS!!!!
-Alora <3

[Charlize]

Hi Alora, You might want to read through the post op forum where many have posted about their experiences and results. I have no first hand knowledge but perhaps you will also get some PMed answers to your question. Also different surgeons will give you a good bit of information if you request it.

Hugs,

Charlie

[Paula ult]

Some surgeons have a before and after section on their website, here is Dr. Mcginns website, scroll down in the vaginoplasty section.

http://www.drchristinemcginn.com/

Paula

[Guest Leah1026]

You said: "I have yet to actually change my name due to lack of money"

Then you are not living full-time. Full-time means just that, that you've legally changed your name and living in your identified gender (not as "transgender") 24/7/365, no exceptions. Instead of worry about surgery, I would worry about finding a job and saving money so you can do a legal name change and get back to seeing your therapist.

[Guest Akarri]

By full time I mean that, I introduce myself as Alora to everyone I meet,then at MY JOB they call me Alora. because I don't have $400 to drop for a name change dosent mean I dont have a job, I pay my bills and make ends me, with a recent break up between me and my fiancee fiances have been hard. So unless I'm getting this all wrong where I am 100% Alora 100% of the time 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks of the year, I'm not full time unless my ID doesn't say Alora? Thank you everyone else for the helpful answers.

[Charlize]

I certainly have to agree that somehow the legal change of name doesn't make a person suddenly change gender. I can have reassignment surgery and still have my legal male name. "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet". I do my best to be that rose while I wait the judge's decision to call me a rose.

Hugs,

Charlie

[Guest Leah1026]

Let me try this again.

There are many therapists out there who are sticklers for the rules.

They will not consider you full-time until the legal name change is done.

They are they ones who won't write you letters of recommendation for surgery.

[Guest Gwendolyn Elizabeth]

Conversely there are therapists out there who do not have that oldntime gatekeeper mentality. Since it is your choice as to who you go to, then pick therapists that have less restrictive views. Those kind of views only matter if we let them.

In my case I had to hold off on getting the legal name and gender marker change done until after my divorce was final. That was almost a year after I went full time. And then it took about another 10 months before my lawyer was able to get my case in front of a friendly judge.

[Guest Sarah E]

It's a bit hazy now after 12 years but I seem to remember that Charing Cross GIC in London said without exception, hormone therapy and counselling toward SRS would not even be considered for anyone unless they held a permanent full time job in the new gender role and undergone a legal change of name. And once my RLT began, I had to continue in permanent full time employment as a woman in order to stay on track for surgery. I agree with some of the posts on here that it is imperative to cover the bases regarding employment and name change first, before worrying about things that will happen in a year or two.

As far as post op results go, well that very much depends on how good your surgeon is, what pre-op "material" he/she has to work with and how well your recovery goes. Generally it would seem that most are happy with what they end up with. I'm happy with my result but I'd be a liar if I said it was spot on perfect because it isn't but I don't think you'll ever find a woman (natural or trans) with a "perfect" vagina because we are all different and we are all unique