creating depth a year after

[Guest Sarah]

Is it possible to still create some extra depth more than a year after SRS? Or is the depth I lost gone for good?

Even though I don't enjoy penetration at all, have a really low libido (borderline asexual) and am in a lesbian relationship, my GF thinks that with more depth I might enjoy it more.

So, can I ceate more depth a year and a half later with daily dilation (1 hour) or does it need to be more? Should I not even bother and stay at my twice a week?

at the moment i'm dilating 1 hour every day for 3 days now, but I haven't noticed any increase yet (it's probably too early to tell, and I'm not good at seeing progression ^_^').

Thanks in advance,

Sarah

[VickySGV]

A couple of things affect post op depth that can change it a very tiny bit. My depth has been reduced by maybe 1.5

cm due to the increase in the circumference of the dilator I use, which means I basically have the same volume the surgeon put in there, but it is in a different direction. I actually tried my smaller dilator a couple of days ago (my current one is 3 cm wide and inserts to 14.5 cm just inside my labia majora) and the 0.5 cm decrease in width did give me about an even 15 cm of depth. This may be where you think you lost some depth. I am at 15 months and only dilate for 15 minutes per day, and things are staying very stable. I cannot figure out why my depth would affect my libido, My sensations in the area are at the front edge of the vagina where my prostate gland exists in greatly reduced size, and finally beginning at 11 months, my labia minora, clitoris and clitoral hood nerves came into play in positive ways. I am not terribly interested in sex either, but the people who have interested me the most have been the ones who do not immediately go for the place between my legs. Good communication, cuddling and light, affecttionalte touch in many parts of my body can give me a lot of pleasure, but the idea of dilation has taken my focus off of my vaginal area. Maybe increase your dilation back to daily for a shorter time, and involve your SO so it becomes playful and you may not regain a full libido, but it will be fun. Relax on the worries too, the brain is the single largest sex organ, and if it is busy, you will not be able to use it for being happy.

If you must regain a higher libido, my suggestion is to see your endocrinologist and see if your T is too low and could be adjusted by using a prescribed medication. If you are happy though, just ask the Endo at your next regular appointment. We do not have the same type of erotic reactions to life that we did pre-Hrt and GCS.

[Guest NatashaJade]

I was actually talking with my new doctor about my hormone regimen and we got on the subject of progesterone, which I started taking after GRS. Where prior to it, my libido was very low (not surprising considering my near flatline t-level), afterwards, it has become quite...healthy. This is not an uncommon reaction.

As for depth, I'm right there with Vicky. If I use a narrower dilator, I get greater depth than #4, which is all the girth. What I have found, however, is that with your standard jackrabbit style vibrator, I have all the necessary depth for proper use. So really, I'm not all that concerned

Tasha

[VickySGV]

Tasha got it right about the toys making life more interesting.

[Drea]

If depth has been lost, I don't know how successful people have been at regaining it. I have heard of people achieving reasonable results fairly close to when they had surgery. A year, I don't know.

I suspect one question is if this is depth you are trying to re-gain that was lost, or more than what you had after surgery.

[Guest Sarah]

it's regaining the depth i lost.

oh, and having a low libido isn't a concern to me

[~Nova~]

I found that natural dilation works way better than the plastic. I have gained well over half an inch after I became sexually active. It does take a very patient partner in the beginning, but now sex seems just, well, normal? I suggest you call your surgeon and ask their advice on what to do. Dilation doesn't have to be a solo thing either. If you have a willing partner, you can make dilation much more pleasurable and therefore push a little harder if it is incorporated in natural ways. It's kinda hard to be G rated when talking about this subject.

Call your doc.

Talk with your partner about adding toys.

Best of luck

N

[Guest Sarah E]

In theory Sarah you can regain any depth that has been lost to you, but you'll have to work hard to do it and I guess it won't be a pain free experience either I'm 8 years post op now but half an inch shallower than I was to begin with despite regular dilation. Our vaginas have a natural tendency to atrophy over time as a result of what our bodies sense as an injury. I also lost depth because I too am fairly low in the libido stakes (despite having normal oestrogen levels and a boyfriend) and because I find penetration to be uncomfortable and dilation is sometimes quite painful too. Rather than a rock solid stick of plastic I find certain size and shaped vibrators are a lot easier for me to insert and they're pleasurable too As a woman, you can discover plenty of ways to find pleasure from your body without needing deep penetration. I would say that rather than worrying too much about lost depth, just find the right mood and then encourage your GF to explore your body and to have fun finding out what works nicely for the both of you