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This may prove a singular point-of-view rather than the view of the majority. Perhaps most CDers didn't need a bridge to a road of self-discovery. I did. I don't think I would be a crossdresser today but for the courage and determination of those transsexuals who shared their own considerably more brave walks of fulfillment on the internet. The videos and blogs of these courageous individuals inspired me to have the courage to go beyond curiosity. They pushed aside the curtain of fear that been preventing me from acting upon this latent desire. Our paths may be quite different, but for me the transsexual community blazed a trail of discovery for me. Three cheers!

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I don't know whether things would change in general with me but my state of mind is much improved by the personal stories of people here. It is one thing to read the facts but far better to learn from the experience of others!

I think everyone's path is different and each will learn from others - We all help each other!

Tracy

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I certainly know that if it weren't for the internet i would have had a much more difficult time in my transition. I was never comfortable as a cross dresser because it was always portrayed as a perversion or a joke as i grew up. For years i felt guilty about being a cross dresser. I found that hard enough and the internet when it started seemed to only contain porn which made it even harder to accept myself. Meeting several trans* people and then being honest about the extent and direction of my journey almost sent me back to the bottle. That would have equalled suicide for me as an alcoholic. Fortunately the support i found in the rooms of AA kept me from drinking and the folks who i met here helped me to accept myself.

Each time i faced a new hurdle i was reassured that others had been there before.

I do think posting here helps all of us regardless of our path. Thanks for reminding me.

Hugs,

Charlize

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This may prove a singular point-of-view rather than the view of the majority. Perhaps most CDers didn't need a bridge to a road of self-discovery. I did. I don't think I would be a crossdresser today but for the courage and determination of those transsexuals who shared their own considerably more brave walks of fulfillment on the internet. The videos and blogs of these courageous individuals inspired me to have the courage to go beyond curiosity. They pushed aside the curtain of fear that been preventing me from acting upon this latent desire. Our paths may be quite different, but for me the transsexual community blazed a trail of discovery for me. Three cheers!

You mean that transition is the right path for CD too?

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This may prove a singular point-of-view rather than the view of the majority. Perhaps most CDers didn't need a bridge to a road of self-discovery. I did. I don't think I would be a crossdresser today but for the courage and determination of those transsexuals who shared their own considerably more brave walks of fulfillment on the internet. The videos and blogs of these courageous individuals inspired me to have the courage to go beyond curiosity. They pushed aside the curtain of fear that been preventing me from acting upon this latent desire. Our paths may be quite different, but for me the transsexual community blazed a trail of discovery for me. Three cheers!

You mean that transition is the right path for CD too?

Inspiration does not equate to transition, although the 2 words both end in "tion"..... :unsure:

I'm glad Kati that you have found inspiration and can be yourself.

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Cyndi -

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I am not here to tell anyone what to do as far as transition goes, but I have done nothing impossible, and my stories only show what is possible, but not what must be done to live with GD in any of its forms. Every one of us does transition though, in the sense that we move from one point to another across a broad horizon, transition when it means simply change, and hopefully change to make their lives better is something that is good.

I am glad that Kati and others like her feel in good company and feel they can be their full true selves.

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This may prove a singular point-of-view rather than the view of the majority. Perhaps most CDers didn't need a bridge to a road of self-discovery. I did. I don't think I would be a crossdresser today but for the courage and determination of those transsexuals who shared their own considerably more brave walks of fulfillment on the internet. The videos and blogs of these courageous individuals inspired me to have the courage to go beyond curiosity. They pushed aside the curtain of fear that been preventing me from acting upon this latent desire. Our paths may be quite different, but for me the transsexual community blazed a trail of discovery for me. Three cheers!

I think we all can be inspirations to one another in different ways. I am glad that some in the trans community, via their openness and visibility, have helped you find your path even as that path differs from their own.

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Guest KatyDesire

Hear! Hear! Interestingly, on Friday in the local on-line news service, there was a feature on 6 models who are trans-women! And stunning they were too. So a big thank you to all of you out there who have blazed the trail.

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Guest So-kool

I can totally understand how Transgender people actually changing their Real Life Gender is inspirational and can give someone confidence to cross dress.

To me cross dressing is like a hobby or a thrill. It may feel like cross dressing is so far off of what people accept (that is how I felt in my early days) and it may feel like it is something you can not do.

Until you learn about the world of Real Life Transition, and suddenly cross dressing doesn't seem too far out at all ! Its like "Transition Light" I had actually hoped that Cross dressing was all I needed. I could keep it a secret and it is more of a game. It would be nice to skip all the other crud it takes to transition full time. Sadly I know I need to transition and walk the walk. but I too am thankful for all the trail blazers which have come before myself. The best part is Everyone this day has the opportunity to blaze a trail for future generations. We are in many way pioneers thanks to the global consciousness provided rather recently by the invention of the INTERNET !

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Guest Amber L.

I agree with you all. Thank you to everyone who has traveled this long road before me, and Thank you for this wonderful site. I have grown in so many ways. Words alone cant say how I feel now since I have learned so much from all of you. God Bless you all Amber L.

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Guest sweetcharlene41

I also would like to thank all of you, for years I never even discussed my cross dressing, now that I found Laura's Playground, where I can openly discuss this, without being ridiculed, I think it's a great place, thank you all again for being here love and hugs sweet charlene

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Guest Eve Caillard

Everyone...and that is EVERYONE on Laura's helped me through the confusion of my late arrival into cross-dressing and understanding the transgender world. Without you all I would be stuck. With you, I have peace, calm and tranquillity and a sense of identity I would not otherwise have. I know you don't hear from me much, but I'd just like to say this to you all. I still remember Brenda's wonderful response to my first question that made everything all right for me. Brenda, thanks!

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Eve

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I know I definitely owe a lot to the transgender movement. And when I think about it the transgender movement is in some ways built upon the gay, lesbian and bisexual rights movement. Which built upon the Civil Rights movement. Which was in some ways inspired by Gandhi's methods of nonviolent protest. It's inspiring to think of the chain that connects the courageous, compassionate and morally strong people throughout history to one another. Perhaps some day some oppressed group of people will be able to draw strength from those who were part of the crossdressing movement.

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