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MCC is one of several churches that is very welcoming to Trans* people, This is a video of a talk given by a "41%er" in Toronto, Can. 41%er refers to those of us, myself included, who have seriously considered suicide and who have acted on it to some degree. The 41% refers to the number of people in a survey three years ago that asked how many TG people had contemplated suicide seriously, and the survey resulted in a book entitled Injustice At Every Turn. This woman and I found ourselves pulled back from our suicidal actions by a presence outside of ourselves who let us know "the time for death is not yet" and subsequently also "there is work to be done still".


Keep some Kleenex handy in the last 7 minutes of it.

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Guest Faith gibson

Thankyou Vicky, she is inspirational. I have never been able to find any comfort in any kind of religion. I think my struggle is not really shared by a higher power. It will work out or it won't.

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Faith -- I do attend a church, regularly, and am part of it but I am different in that I am looking for a oneness with creation as a totality, and a connection with life greater than just my own. We Trans* folk have battled with appearance being taken as of more importance than is a core of being that is not visible except in how we approach and live life, and when that core of creation is denied by others around us, life is terrible and we think of self destruction. We are actually more free than others but the freedom is in places that are unguided and thus somewhat scary, but still a source of our lives. We need to be our own guides, and also to trust ourselves as guides, or if looking to the broader spirit world, to be open and willing to follow good loving guides even though the way we need to go is like no other.

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If I understand you correctly, I believe I am trying to find a way to gulde myself. I am not part of an organized religion but I do seek the comfort of something I simply call my friend. Sometimes I feel a connection that is comforting and other times, just frustration. I am thankful for what comfort I get though.

I have talked to a number of people on this site over the last year or so. Before that, I waded through all my demons myself and I think overall, I did OK. I managed to not totally destroy myself. I have found ways to keep my marriage intact, though many are confused and saddened by how I do it, I have avoided causing self-harm through different means. For me, nusic has been like a drug. And I have been able to live with myself. I am alone. But, like I said, I have been able to live with myself. I think this is important. No matter my gender, I have been able to reach into a place that keeps me functioning. Maybe it is because of a connection with my friend. It is something way beyond my ability to understand. I suffer, and I cry, but I seek ways to survive.

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My experience with the "force" in the universe is that I found that I simply was tuned to the wrong frequency, rather that it wasn't there. Only through being around people that could help me dial to the correct frequency was I able to get in touch with something bigger than myself, upon which I can rely, and even draw strength when I need it. In an hour I will be on my way to a spiritual retreat to be with like minded people. MCC is hosting the event in a wooded retreat. My fear of being alone in my Transness did not happen because I overcame my fear and reached out to open minded people who accept each of us as uniquely loveable in the "creator's" eyes. We need not believe in a creator to be part of a larger reality comprised of fellow spiritual pilgrims on a journey through Life. There are many pitfalls and dark places on the journey that I would not want to travel by myself. I think we all know it can get scary out there... I respect that some prefer to go it alone, yet there are some who simply don't know that an alternative of spiritual community, exists. We all make our choices but it's good to know what's available to pick from on the Menu of Life, eh?

Best wishes on your journey


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Guest alissa16

All of the above in this threads are beautiful...The testimony compelling and found That I could relate to much

of her life's journey's and travails.

Perhaps I have been too harsh in my claims that christianity could no longer offer me anything.

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