Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

I'm giving up smoking cigarettes, need encouragement


Guest AllisonRae

Recommended Posts

Guest AllisonRae

The last few weeks have been a time of self discovery and hope for me. Think I've came further than I did 16 years ago when I was first wanted to begin my transition. Now comes a tough one for me, I'm going to do my best to quit smoking. I want this habit gone before I start HRT. Any prayers best wishes and encouraging words would be much appreciated!

Jimmy

Link to comment
  • Replies 86
  • Created
  • Last Reply

Top Posters In This Topic

  • Charlize

    8

  • tracy_j

    3

  • Alyssa Deutsch

    3

  • gennee

    2

I quit smoking when I started vaping, a year ago. Ecig is the way to go. I see several Drs each month and they all have said they are glad I'm vaping and not smoking. They even allow me to vape in their offices. Good luck with quitting, I know it can be hard.

Link to comment

That's really great. Goodluck! It's definitely a challenge. I tried to quit about a year ago with no luck. It's a disappointment to lose to chemicals time and time again. So, wishing you all the strength I didn't have!

You're kinda encouraging me to try again. ^^

The best advice I can give you is to ignore anyone who tells you anything like "it's okay to slip up and have a cigarette once in awhile". It's really not with addiction. -_-

You can do this, just gotta stay motivated.

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

That was one that took longer to quit than alcohol. I just couldn't get you can't have just one. A puff lead to a carton. I did almost the same thing i did with drinking i realized that i had to ask something bigger than myself of help. The initial hell passed sooner than i would have thought and just like drink i have to remember one will never be enough. I am an addict but today i haven't used.

We're behind you and you are amongst others who are sober and smoke free today.

Hugs,

Charlize

Link to comment
Guest AllisonRae

Thank all of you!

Getting closer to my first 24 hours, I've been this far before but stumbled and fell off the wagon. Like Rashaad and Charlize said, not even one puff. This time I'm going to do it, too much at stake now not too. Keep the support coming, I love you all!

Jimmy

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

You can do it!

From experience I would say just not to make a big thing of it. Just do it (easy to say I know but the less it's stressed the better). I never really stopped - I just did not want any more!

Tracy

Link to comment
Guest Carla_Davis

Hi Jimmy,

Congratulations, I know that it can be difficult, especially, in the beginning. :score:

Thankfully, I was never a smoker, but I do know how difficult it can be.

Think of all the money that you will save, and can apply to your transition.

I wish you Success and Happiness in your Journey, and Quitting Smoking :wub:

Hugs,

Carla

Link to comment
Guest AllisonRae

Well coming up on three days now, feeling much better. Also trying to get exercising again which is helping. I have a long challenging journey ahead, I want to be prepared the best that I can. Thanks again everyone and keep me in you thoughts and prayers.

Hugs,

Jimmy

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Well done !!!!! That is huge. Just hang in it gets better and the urges pass if we let them and get through another moment or day.

Keep up the good work it will keep you alive and healthy.

Hugs,

Charlize

Link to comment

Congratulations for the good work so far! Keep it up. I can tell you from my previous attempts that the worst part is over.

Just wanted to let you know that you ain't alone in this struggle. I set three goals for 2014 when the year began. Starting HRT has already a checkmark on it, conquering the world has been postponed again, and I won't settle for 1 out of 3 :P

I was planning to end the habit last Friday, but something came up and I couldn't deal with that and withdrawal at the same time. So I had to set it back for next weekend (I don't want to be at work when I go through the phisiological symptoms of withdrawal). By the turn of the year we will both be ex-smokers.

BTW, does anybody want to join the challenge? It will be fun! (No, it won't, but your health will improve :P )

Hugs,

Edu

Link to comment
  • Admin

Congratulations! I quit smoking just over a month ago using the vaping method, and it's the best thing that's ever happened to me. Don't know why I started in the first place now that I'm off cigarettes. Keep it up, you're doing great!

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I was finally able to quit smoking this past April. I was in bad shape from having smoked for 50 years. I'd developed COPD and became married to an oxy machine 24.7, not sexy at all. I started vaping and with that plus my wife's prayers I was able to quit. Now, I'm trying to get back some of the time that smoking stole from me .

No,I'm not going to scream nor preach at anyone. Eveyone must make their own decisions, I just wish that I had made that decision to quit smoking many years ago,

Mike

Link to comment
Guest Megan_Lynn

I quit over 6 years ago when my endo told me if you keep smoking no HRT for you. Quit cold turkey within a week. Was a 20 plus years two pack a day smoker when I quit. While I know this will upset some here , if you are vaping your still an addict plan and simple. Your still putting that poison nicotine in your body. Only difference is your not expelling second hand smoke. Trading smoke for vapor is in no way a victory of any kind as your still a slave to nicotine. If your on HRT and still smoking/vaping your playing Russian roulette with your health. For the life on me I just can not understand why one would not want to do everything possible to live long enough to enjoy your new life as the real you. It has been over 6 years and there are still times I desire a smoke but I refuse to let nicotine ever control my life ever again. I know all it will take it one single puff and I would be like a crack addict needing a fix. I will be a recovering nicotine addict the rest of my life but will never ever give in again ever. I beat it and was able to beat it because being the true me was way more important to me. Anyone can beat the addition of smokes/vaping you just have to decide what is truly important to you. Am rooting for ya to beat the poison nicotine habit..

Link to comment
Guest AllisonRae

You can do it Edu, after only 3 days I feel a major difference. Excercise is helping me in this too. A win win if you ask me!I understand what your saying about the physical withdrawal, that was me Sunday night and Monday. My main motivation here is the same as yous Megan_Lynn, I want more than anything to be and live as the real me. When I learned that nicotine could stand in the way of this I quit cold turkey. Thank you all so much for supporting and believing in me.

Hugs to all!

Jimmy

Link to comment
Guest Elyssia

Great news that you are trying to quit, i gave up over 7 yrs ago, i just decided i didn't want to be a smoker in my 40s. The thing that I did to help was read books or do something to break the habit in the times when you would usually be smoking. I found books easier because you needed both hands, so nowhere to hold a cig. Good luck with it, its not easy, but just keep trying

Link to comment
Guest Clair Dufour

Everything I have read is that hormones and smoking are a dangerous mix leading to blood clots and such? Some say smoking causes penile dysfunciton. It would be nice to see the data. Regardless, the choice of boobs or fags is an interesting one.

Link to comment
Guest AllisonRae

Well everyone just wanted to post a quick update, I'm now 1 week smoke free!

Thanks so much for the encouragement and support, still not done fighting this battle but now I got one victory behind me!

Hugs

Allison

Link to comment
  • 3 weeks later...
Guest AllisonRae

Hi!

Wanted to let everyone know I've crossed another milestone, 1 month smoke free!

I am so happy, been trying to spend 1/2hr a night on the treadmill too. Thanks again everyone for your encouragement. My next milestone has always been the toughest, 3 months. Keep me in you thoughts and prayers.

Love you all!

Allison

Link to comment

Great job Allison!

Just as a reminder (and hopefully encouragement): there is at least someone following your lead ;-) BTW, I stumbled a few times, but have remained (smoke) clean since the year began. So now I'm really following your trail.

Congratulations & warm hugs,

Edu

Link to comment
Guest AllisonRae

That's great Edu, I am so thrilled that I can help inspire others in this. If I can do this, I am certain you can! It's tough, I've tried quitting before but I have so much more at stake now. Also the treadmill helps a lot too. Keep me posted on your progress!

Hugs,

Allison

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   6 Members, 0 Anonymous, 114 Guests (See full list)

    • Elisheva
    • KathyLauren
    • MaeBe
    • Susie
    • Birdie
    • Abigail Genevieve
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.

  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.6k
    • Total Posts
      767.9k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,012
    • Most Online
      8,356

    Quillian
    Newest Member
    Quillian
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. 777fleetleader777
      777fleetleader777
      (21 years old)
    2. ArinHallm3
      ArinHallm3
      (18 years old)
    3. ITakMyTime
      ITakMyTime
      (70 years old)
    4. Jess31
      Jess31
      (40 years old)
    5. Natalie71645
      Natalie71645
      (39 years old)
  • Posts

    • Sally Stone
      Think positively, Ashley.  I have no doubt you'll find your king or queen at some point.   Hugs,   Sally
    • Abigail Genevieve
      Bob had the night off from teaching kara-tay and they planned to spend a lot of it at Cabaret.   Once in, Taylor waited for her man to park and looked around.  There was a sign "Mary, Paul and Peter LIVE tonight" and, sure enough, three microphones were standing in the open area.  A new hostess came up to her. "Are you alone?" "Oh, no.  He's coming." Taylor was led to a table. Bob was there in a minute and managed to get in there and seat her.  She smiled. "The act will be along in a few minutes. And Congratulations! I am SO EXCITED!!" Taylor responded to his look. "I got promoted." "To what?" "Head of Marketing." "You're kidding." "Nope.  It seems the Board finally woke up to the fact that the China cash cow may come to an end and they need to do something. Did you know that the VPs on up all get over a million dollars in compensation without really doing anything?" "No." "I am supposed to figure out how to re-energize over thirty acres of factory that have laid idle for forty years or more." "Why don't they do it?" She whispered,"the head of production is the son of the previous head of production. He has never produced anything."  She explained that everything was made in China and exported back to the US and sold under different brand names. "How am I going to find someone?" He smiled. "Congratulations. Sounds like a problem.  Hey, today we were talking about problems at our Philly plant.  One, it was built before World War 2. Second the city and state are tightening regulations and the tax structure is adverse.  Third, we get protestors every day, some of whom break into the factory.  People are talking about relocating." "We are forty miles from an interstate." "That is a plus.  Makes it harder for protestors to find us if we moved here." "You are really thinking that?" "I am, right now. I can't speak for the company.  I know there is a rail line." "Spur, actually, with several sidings.  The buildings are in good shape." "Do you have about five acres we could look at? How about if I take some pictures and send them off?" "Great.  And protestors would not be tolerated in Millville.  The factory area once upon a time was the main employer and people are very protective." Two weeks later she was in Philadelphia with Gibson and a few others.  The deal was signed and by end of summer ten acres, with an option on another ten, were being upgraded and equipment was coming in by rail. Not five, but ten.  She got a $20,000 bonus out of the blue.  The company was flush with Chinese cash that they didn't know what to do with. She was developing plans. But back to dinner.  "Did I tell you what they are paying me?" "No." She told him. "That is more than I am making." "You don't sound happy." "It takes some getting used to.  You are Management and Croesus combined." "Yeah. Is this a problem?" "No.  As I said, it takes some getting used to."  The musicians arrived and were introduced: three local teenagers in Peter Paul and Mary clothing and wigs like it was the 60s.  They began singing. "They are good," she said. "They are lip-synching." "They are good at lip-synching." They listened for a while. "Work is going to be intense for a while." "I'll bet." "I won't be able to talk to you about some of it." "I bet." They had a good evening.   The high point for Bob was that she let him put his hand on hers.  The high point for her was Bob did not seem threatened by her now being Management and making more than he did with a Masters. She didn't tell him she was likely to be in on the distribution of money the Chinese sent every year to keep them fat and happy.  But she had to finish up that report, so the evening ended early.  He drove her home, checked her apartment for people and again walked away hearing her lock the door three times.  She didn't say it, but he knew she was going to have a long talk with her therapist as well.   Her therapist was a night owl.  
    • Ashley0616
      envy: painful or resentful awareness of an advantage enjoyed by another joined with a desire to possess the same advantage obsolete : MALICE : an object of envious notice or feeling
    • MaeBe
      I sit back and think, am I this person? I definitely argue, but with the willingness to alter my opinion if I find that my information is lacking. So, no? I also don't go pointing fingers in faces like a crazed person, usually I am the one to argue with that kind of person; typically because they can't see past emotion and have little concern for actual facts. Sometimes it's sport that I do this (ENTP, baby!), but usually it comes from a place of trying to inform and shift opinion--or at least get them to actually obtain facts or get their facts from objective sources.
    • Ashley0616
    • Ashley0616
    • Ashley0616
    • MaeBe
      How exciting! Have a glorious evening!
    • Adrianna Danielle
      I will be meeting her wife tonight
    • Betty K
      Thank you Vidanjali that is so great to hear. I'm glad the joy comes across even though the subjects are dark, and especially that my voice is pretty! This was really a breakthrough for me, and I revelled in the entire process. Never had creating music been so effortless from start to finish.
    • Charlize
      The thoughts and suggestions above are certainly excellent!  I might also suggest that you continue to reach out to the trans community where your feelings are understood through experience.  I have found that helpful.  The is especially true when i try to help another in distress, not to look for a fellow sufferer but to help another find a path to self acceptance and peace.  Funny how helping another can pull me out of my own funk. We are here to help as we can.  Remember you are not alone in your feelings.   Hugs,   Charlize
    • Vidanjali
      This is great, Betty. Your voice is so pretty and soothing. I listened to both tracks on your channel. The messages are clear and there is a very effective tone for the content you are portraying as it neither sounds antagonistic nor overtly facetious, but rather empowered and joyful. 
    • Vidanjali
      @FinnyFinsterHH I am sorry to hear you're struggling so much. I'll start by saying I understand how this feels because I too have had episodes where I've gotten very upset about my chest to the point of panic or depression. So, I will offer what advice I can, but understand I know it's not easily done, though there are ways through it. Gradually think about whether someone you know can help get you a binder. Until then, because you feel this way when you realize your chest is there, you can work on developing mental techniques to get your mind off dwelling on your chest. You'll realize your chest is there throughout the day, of course, because the chest is a prominent part of the body.   First, think about addressing the physical reaction. Drink a glass of water and take several deep breaths. This can help to calm your body.   I strongly recommend mindfulness and meditation practices. You can practice techniques throughout the day, wherever you are. For example, say you catch a glimpse of yourself in a reflective surface and begin to feel sick, seeing the chest. Take a moment and instead cast your glance on anything around you, preferably something in nature like looking up at the sky or at a tree. Describe the object you're viewing in neutral terms meaning describe the color, texture, shape, borders, patterns, etc.; but avoid personal or emotional description such as, "It makes me feel..." or "It reminds me of...". This will redirect your mind away from dwelling on your body shape and calm the nervous system. There are many more mindfulness practices you can find online.   You can also try using a CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) journal app. In such an app will guide you to describe what upset you, the feelings, thoughts, and beliefs involved, analyzing and reframing them.    Finally, consider developing a regular meditation practice. This will strengthen your mind and gradually you will find yourself less prone to feeling consumed by upsetting events.    I should also mention, if you are artistic, consider channeling your experience into artistic expression. This has worked for me before - I've created a few art pieces addressing my experience of gender dysphoria. in such a way that felt empowering - like I owned it instead of it owning me.   None of these things is a quick fix. Nor should they be because what you're dealing with is a deep issue. But will sustained effort you can find your way to living with more peace and comfort.
    • VickySGV
      I am a little different in my angle of approach on this one, but my skepticism on the "Phishing Trips" the AG's are taking is that they have gone into these investigations with the idea that illegal actions are occurring regularly.  They are going in on the information of unharmed third parties who have imagined fantastic "theories and plots of harm".  What is going to happen when the institutions turn over information that has NONE of this fantasy outcome in it.  Proof of a negative is impossible under standard logic and even most Laws of Evidence.  Just because the records do not show it happened will not in their minds equate to harm not having happened, just that someone is lying to them or covering up something that they know from their personal fantasies.  The problem is that they have made a public face of wisdom and social courage against the fantastic, they have their "glorious Quest"" and like Don Quixote will be tearing up windmills looking to justify their private images.
    • Ivy
      This sounds really good.  Good luck with it.
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...