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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

Because we, as woman-identified, have so many options!

This isn't new information by any means, and I didn't realize it over time, it kind of snuck up on me and then beaned me in the head out of the blue today. To build a proper wardrobe, first you need some basic items. Then from there you add more clothes based on what you have that you can pair it with, OR, you buy an outfit or two that works by itself or that you can pair up with other pieces you already have. Then you find accessories that work with one outfit, or several outfits, or a bunch of outfits depending on the situation.

Then when you're getting dressed, it's a matter of thinking about what you're getting dressed for, and then thinking about what you're in the mood to wear that day. Do I feel like wearing slacks at work today? Do I feel like wearing a skirt? Did I shave recently? Slacks it is, I guess. Do I want something a little more dressy? Something chic? Something classic?

So no wonder it takes us ladies so long to get dressed every day: we have so many choices of outfit combinations that it takes forever to narrow down what would be appropriate for where we're going.

...and don't even get me started on deciding what shoes to wear.

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Both a nuisance and a joy. Working at the farm i can also need more than one outfit in a day to further complicate matters. This AM i was in a skirt to get a load of hay. The guys load it for me if i'm looking good. Then it is into an old T and jeans to unload and stack in the barn. Shower...it's in the 90's and the barn is hotter and dusty and then a nice outfit for the rest of the day. Glad i didn't have to go out tonight.

What fun?

It used to be a t and jeans for the day.

Hugs,

Charlize

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I would love to see your walk-in closet. I can imagine it to be a very full 55' van trailer. Giggle. No complaining until you need turnpike doubles... Hug. JodyAnn

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I'd love to have a walk in closet but then again i'd need a bigger budget and would still have trouble finding just the right outfit. Oh how hard life is.

Oh yes i must admit i'm glad not to be in the closet any more.

Hugs,

Charlize

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Having only been up a short while and already changed outfit once and later expecting to do so at least twice more before the day is out I can relate to things! And makup lol - I was recently comparing makeup with a cis woman (she said mine was better than hers :) ) and mentioned it took me quite a while which she was surprised at (around an hour but that includes dressing etc and I love my pampering time). After that I have speeded up a bit and can get dressed plus makeup in half the time but I don't think I will ever get to (say) ten minutes :D

On the other hand I have found that without makeup and just undies and throwing a dress over my head takes less than a minute so for round the house wear in summer it can be far quicker than previous menswear but as you say Lizzie - its the decisions that take the time.

I do really love the greater choice of outfits though - menswear is so boring!

Tracy

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Because we, as woman-identified, have so many options!

This isn't new information by any means, and I didn't realize it over time, it kind of snuck up on me and then beaned me in the head out of the blue today. To build a proper wardrobe, first you need some basic items. Then from there you add more clothes based on what you have that you can pair it with, OR, you buy an outfit or two that works by itself or that you can pair up with other pieces you already have. Then you find accessories that work with one outfit, or several outfits, or a bunch of outfits depending on the situation.

Then when you're getting dressed, it's a matter of thinking about what you're getting dressed for, and then thinking about what you're in the mood to wear that day. Do I feel like wearing slacks at work today? Do I feel like wearing a skirt? Did I shave recently? Slacks it is, I guess. Do I want something a little more dressy? Something chic? Something classic?

So no wonder it takes us ladies so long to get dressed every day: we have so many choices of outfit combinations that it takes forever to narrow down what would be appropriate for where we're going.

...and don't even get me started on deciding what shoes to wear.

Don't even know what you're talking about..

When I get dressed it usually comes down to one of two things..

1. Do I care enough, am in the mood for, or doing something that warrants more than a pair of jeans and a tee? -- If Yes move to 2.

2. What is the general aura I am wanting to put out for the day? Nice average girl? (hah never) Rocker? Punk? Touch of Victorian Goth? Touch of Geek

Seeing as most of my clothes are dark and range from slightly trashy, to very twisted, to geeky.. and I usually have a general idea of what I want to wear for the day, the day before.. It doesn't really take me very long to figure out what I want to wear for the day. It helps that I have a very specific look I am typically going for though.

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Watching women get ready is fun, always changing their minds about a shirt or a pair of shoes. I recently devoted a few pages of my sketchbook to that cute thing girls with long hair do while putting on makeup- Putting their hair in a bun, clipping it back or using headbands.

But ya know, it's funny. Back when I was still trying to be a girl, it took all of maybe 5 minutes to get dressed- if even that. I didn't think too hard about it. Shirt, pants, converse, ready. But NOW I'm like: Where am I headed? Who's gonna be there? What mood am I in? Does this watch go with this ring? Should wax my hair? How? Should I part this way or that way or?? UGH, I can't find the shoes I wanted to wear! Heheh.

Maybe I finally care about myself. And if you care about yourself, you need awhile to get ready! ^^

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