I've come to the conclusion that normal is a concept best left as a control on the washing machine. It seemingly rarely truly exists in this world.
I do my best to simply let the fact that i wasn't born with a woman's body simply slide away. I am what i am and accept it. My wife once complained that i had never had a period or given birth. I looked cat her with a smile and mentioned how cute and perky my breasts were in my 70's. I don't have to be biological to be real.
Thank you so much for sharing this, Allie!
My favorite quote:
"People are under no obligation to make sense to you."
@MaeBe I started to tear up when he said that these poor kids are being treated like perverts and freaks just because they're trying to exist.
I'm trying to grapple with a conversation a very dear and supportive cis woman had earlier this week where she felt it necessary to "educate" my on what natal cis women experience in this world, as I if I had never thought about it and was drifting in some sort of pink cotton candy fantasy.
It just hit home to me days later that she just doesn't know or can't imagine what it's like to be me. That I've thought of my unwanted dilemma from every angle possible for every day of my life, including those long stretches of life where my sustaining practices were denial, avoidance, conformance, and when all else failed, some sort of mind-numbing substance use or abuse.
Sorry for the overflow of words and emotions. What you wrote. Yes. I don't need to be "reminded" either.
Thank you @awkward-yet-sweet
Hi @Rishaya. Thanks for writing on this thread--it's been a long time since. It's good to take stock and see the progress I've made these last three years. It's not so much as to "figure out" my past or even to "understand" it, but merely to accept it and move ahead. Just to read all the stories of folks here tells me that Transgender is a very wide tent and that I'm glad to be under it. My father's family lived in Utica and then Rochester, so I know a bit of that country, I accept it anyway. —Davie
T shirts that are marketed as unisex or men's don't fit me. They ride up my hips!
I can avoid the problem in two ways. Buying a couple sizes too big, or simply buying women's T's (I'm wearing one now).
My T's from Torrid are cut different and of different material. They just don't ride up my curves.
Please don't judge me......but I actually bought one a few years back.😱
I used a Norelco to trim myself down there for years and needed to replace it so I tried the Man-scape. I wouldn't trust it everywhere, though. Actually, I began shaving that area completely several years ago with a razor.
I put a new set of blades on the Man-scape and use it to trim my eyebrows, now. 🙃😁🌈
I'm so embarrassed.