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Been thinking it over lately


KoreyA

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I have been thinking it over lately,dressing fulltime as Korey and always wanted to do this.Been in my mind for 6 years now.My wife and I had the talk about this last night,we are on the same page.She knows I always have the talk with her on things instead of making the decision myself without her knowing.Also had the talk with my family today,on the same page too.They have always seen me as the feminine son/brother and want to see what is best for me.My daughter and two sons were talked to this morning,said they will accept the changes and love me as their dad still.Plans to dress fulltime as Korey are going to start in August and not going back.

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It is quite a decision, but if you have been dressing part time for a while and people have seen you then it won't be quite a big step. In most ways I find it easier being dressed female full time easier than when it was part. The neighbours locally are now used to it and I don't worry like I used to. Just beware of unexpected reactions though. It is one thing for people to say they would be happy with something, and yet another when it happens.

 

I hope things go well. It will likely have a calming effect on your outlook in the long run.

 

Tracy

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Been crossdressing part time for 17 years since the age of 12.I am going to be more comfortable dressed as Korey

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I’m always impressed when people share everything with their family and do all the right things, I’m a very bad example of doing it very wrong... I commend you for being honest with your wife and your kids, and letting them have time to adjust, you definitely are an admirable person and deserve to live the life you wish with the support of the ones you love.

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Jackie

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My family,they always seen me more as a sister/daughter.Plus having feminine charecteristics,one is my legs.The other is my moves.

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I came out to my wife fourteen years ago.When had the talk with her she was shocked and things got brushed under the carpet.Hoeever,two years ago dressed as Roberta ostensibly to test her reaction.She fled into the other room but the next day she started to slowly come around.She said she woulc launder my clothes and my tights for me.She also said she would buy all my femme cllthes for me.She didn't want me to be seen buying womens stuff by myself just in csse I saw people I know.Her cordial attitude came on in leaps and bounds after that.She actively encouraged me by offering to treat me to lots of skirts,dresses,hosiery,shoes.As we are both rdtired I am dressed en femme nearly every day these days.She constantly tells me how nicd I look dressed,sometimes saying I look better than some natural born women.Tbe other great thing is we have pretty much the same taste in clothes and there is only four years age difference.If she ever runs out of tights,I gave her some of my multipacks and she then buys more for me.I like to think that we are good girly pals.She does say that she prefers me as a man but deep down I think she regards me as her best girly pal.I have told her that if I had been born a woman she would bd my closest woman buddy.We are more or less like that nlw.But I think there are times that I should asert my masculine side and perform my husbandly duties,which is only fair

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