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@Linda Marie any hole with no ball lost is a birdie. With one is par, two or more lost on the same hole is two shots added at the 19 hole.  lol. I took lessons from an excellent pro once. Was actually doing pretty good but I haven’t played in several years so forget that.  At least I can play from the ladies tee now. ?

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20 hours ago, KymmieL said:

I wouldn't own some vehicles if they paid me. The 5th and 6th  generation of the Explorer Any of the new gm SUVs and Gm trucks are ugly too. Wouldn't own any of the electric  vehicles.  The mach e is a disgrace to the Mustang name. Same with the new Cherokee. 

 

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I really like what I see in the 2022 Maverick but why are they resurrecting these names and putting them on vehicles that have no buz sporting that legacy name? (I had a 77 maverick- what a POS that was) I've been waiting for a suburbanite compact truck that's a hybrid for years.  I miss my old f-150 but never utilized it's true capabilities.  I just need something that's better in the winter than my Mustang Convertible and can carry gardening and yard work types of stuff . Maybe a deer or two in the back during hunting season.

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I have a ford 150 super cab, 4X4 with all the bells and whistles. 2015. 5.0 8 cylinder, 6 speed auto, power is super great. 

And color matched nails to go!

LM.

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5 hours ago, Erica Gabriel said:

Name change filed with the County Court!!!!! Now just the long wait for my certified copy via mail. 
 

Great pic, Torrance. Have fun this Summer. PE takes up only a tiny fraction of the incredible life that’s in front of you.

Congrats !!! 

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Glad I have supportive co workers and boss.I go to work dressed as Kimberly on Mondays,Wendsdays and Fridays.Been there for 5 years after I was let go from my previous job.They have seen I love my life as male and dressed as Kimberly.

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Today will be the first time since May 30th when I can have my morning tea (sorry, coffee fans) at home, have a second cuppa later, and it was very weird to go from barely going far from home since last March to never being there for half a month with no notice. 

 

Anyway, I did have an occasional discussion of transgender issues and also gender roles while away with a mix of people who know about me and those that don't. 

 

Couple highlights...having one of my mother's newer friends accidentally refer to me as my mother's daughter, that was nice to hear at least once if it was quickly apologized. 

 

And then my son-in-law (who I 'came out to' by telling my daughter that she could tell him everything she wanted to, just that I was emotionally spent to do it right after her) dropping in a proper pronoun of me that I almost missed it and actually asked if he did so the next day. (yes).

 

 

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For some random reason I got the idea, yesterday, to call my wife's BFF. Mostly to give her an update on my wife's health issues. I though it was going a be 5, maybe 10 minute conversation. It went on for 45 minutes. We ended up talking about everything. one of the big things we covered was violence towards the trans community. In particular, I mentioned the conversation I had with my neighbor.  The one where He thinks we're lesbians. I mean we are but..... Wife doesn't think it's a big deal to out me to people. I had to oversimplify things in the conversation. That lesbians are pretty high on the list of acceptance, trans people not much and just because my neighbor is OK with us being gay doesn't mean he wouldn't hurt a trans person. Her friend seemed to get it. I also brought up my name change next week and would she start using my new name? She's going to legitimately try. I think it would really help with my wife's reluctance to accept change. We talked about the complete 180 in my attitude and outlook on life. I didn't talk to her to complain about my wife or try to institute change but I'm sure she'll mention a few things the next time they talk.
 

There was a lot more things we talked about regarding me but lucky for everyone here, I have to get ready for work?

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Last day (morning of vacation)  Checking out of the hotel in a few so took advantage of the wifi to catch up.  Congrats to everyone getting their name changes dealt with (or soon to be).  That is such a huge step and takes such a load off. Especially once you can then get your IDs /credit cards changed so you don't out yourselves.  

Friday I get to spend an hour at the plastic surgeon's office trying out different size boobs.  It sounds like a "bra fitting". I'm very excited!  I don't have my BA until Sept though.  My wife is happy they don't let anyone but the patient in, she's still processing this first surgical intervention.  Luckily, she's happy for me and supportive but I love that she can also say "I'm still working through that and not quite ready to go to the fitting with you". She sees the pain I'm in and struggles, so she can't wait for the whole medical intervention thing be done for me.  She really got to see the struggle on this trip to Florida where I'm not hiding myself, wearing bathing suits and beach wear and it's obvious I'm trans.  The people haven't been outright rude or anything but the constant stares and faces and those whispers to their friends......    She hasn't seen this in such obvious and constant ways before since we live in a very liberal and accepting town.  I'm sure people notice, they just don't care or make it obvious up where we are.  On the flip side, all the biz people, dive operators, bartenders, waitress etc etc have been very courteous and I wasn't misgendered once.  Basically, in a tourist area, the people who rely on tips and tourist biz know to be more accepting and courteous, the other tourists on the other hand.....  

Well, have a wonderful day peeps.

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Bri

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@Bri2020 congrats on appointment and your wife moving in right direction. I always get misgendered so nothing new on this end but one thing at a time I guess - I'm staying low key so that's ok. As they say Rome wasn't built in a day nor are we.

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5 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

For some random reason I got the idea, yesterday, to call my wife's BFF. Mostly to give her an update on my wife's health issues. I though it was going a be 5, maybe 10 minute conversation. It went on for 45 minutes. We ended up talking about everything. one of the big things we covered was violence towards the trans community. In particular, I mentioned the conversation I had with my neighbor.  The one where He thinks we're lesbians. I mean we are but..... Wife doesn't think it's a big deal to out me to people. I had to oversimplify things in the conversation. That lesbians are pretty high on the list of acceptance, trans people not much and just because my neighbor is OK with us being gay doesn't mean he wouldn't hurt a trans person. Her friend seemed to get it. I also brought up my name change next week and would she start using my new name? She's going to legitimately try. I think it would really help with my wife's reluctance to accept change. We talked about the complete 180 in my attitude and outlook on life. I didn't talk to her to complain about my wife or try to institute change but I'm sure she'll mention a few things the next time they talk.
 

There was a lot more things we talked about regarding me but lucky for everyone here, I have to get ready for work?

My wife would probably divorce me if I talked to her friend about me or her. I hope it doesn't backfire on you.

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On 6/14/2021 at 9:57 AM, Erica Gabriel said:

Name change filed with the County Court!!!!! Now just the long wait for my certified copy via mail. 
 

Great pic, Torrance. Have fun this Summer. PE takes up only a tiny fraction of the incredible life that’s in front of you.

I hope it goes as well for you as it did for me. I was the only one there besides the judge and guard. In and out in 10 minutes. Went right downstairs to the clerks office and got 4 certified copies and left. ( $5.00 each )

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I was the shop foreman in  my best friends sheet metal shop for 18 years before I retired. I just came out to him yesterday. It went great. He is very supportive. I'm thrilled. I really didn't want to lose him as a friend. I have been fortunate. I haven't had any negative response from anyone outside of family. The woman at Humana insurance that I talked to yesterday was absolutely awesome. Same with the woman from Silver Sneakers. She even told me all about her lesbian mother and the trials she went through before they could get married. I guess the world really is becoming a better place for us. I wish my wife could be as supportive as strangers are.

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Going to the drivers license place today to get name change on license. Downloaded form for gender change to give them too. It will be nice to actually have a card showing my correct name and gender.

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Name change. I'm so deep into financial institutes, not dept, just 3 pensions plus SSN coming in.

I'm very well known and respected as David in the financial institutes. I'm also known to be trans, but going through all the hoops to change my name

to Linda, well at my age I see no point in it. I also see no need for surgery at my age, after all, only I know what is beneath my skirt.

I do dream of finishing my transition, that I cannot deny, but I really see no point going any further than I have.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that my life is already complicated as it is and not wanting to add more complications.

I do envy those that going for their dream and wish the best for them, and all of you.

LM♥️

 

 

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1 hour ago, Jamie68 said:

I guess the world really is becoming a better place for us. I wish my wife could be as supportive as strangers are.

Yeah, the world is slowly changing, there is the 80/10/10 "rule" that I have been taught that I think is holding true. Honestly 80% of the people who you meet don't really care that you are trans, 10% will love you no matter what, and 10% will not like you no matter what you did. It also is easy for someone that isn't involved in your life outside of a transaction to not care. The barista that I get my coffee from, how much does me being trans effect her day/life? However, it is different for those people we are closer to. It is going to take time for your wife to meet you where you are at. You've had a lifetime of dealing with dysphoria, which gives you a motivator to change. For your wife, it impacts her life more so than the barista, so she needs time to grieve the loss of the person who she knew and come to meet the new person that has replaced them.

 

My journey has been slightly different, I have slowly pushed increasingly towards living as a woman, and my wife who I have known for 20 years has known about some of my quirks for the better part of 15 or 16 years at least. It takes time is my only point I guess.

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@Jamie68 Sounds like it's easier in Illinois. In Ohio you need a sign off from Therapist to change gender on driver's license and then there is the name change......

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1 hour ago, Linda Marie said:

my life is already complicated as it is and not wanting to add more complications.

This is me at this time also.   But I am hoping to work on the changes once I get some stuff settled.

The surgery would be nice I suppose.  But between my age and the cost, I think I'll have to live with what I've got.

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1 hour ago, AmberM said:

Yeah, the world is slowly changing, there is the 80/10/10 "rule" that I have been taught that I think is holding true. Honestly 80% of the people who you meet don't really care that you are trans, 10% will love you no matter what, and 10% will not like you no matter what you did. It also is easy for someone that isn't involved in your life outside of a transaction to not care. The barista that I get my coffee from, how much does me being trans effect her day/life? However, it is different for those people we are closer to. It is going to take time for your wife to meet you where you are at. You've had a lifetime of dealing with dysphoria, which gives you a motivator to change. For your wife, it impacts her life more so than the barista, so she needs time to grieve the loss of the person who she knew and come to meet the new person that has replaced them.

 

My journey has been slightly different, I have slowly pushed increasingly towards living as a woman, and my wife who I have known for 20 years has known about some of my quirks for the better part of 15 or 16 years at least. It takes time is my only point I guess.

I think I would agree with this rule. My wife and I have been married for 50 yrs now. It was almost a total surprise to her. She knew something was off but didn't know what. We did hit a milestone last week. She told me she didn't feel like I was dying to her anymore. We are still going through rough times though. 

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@Jamie68 can relate - 28 years of marriage and my wife is coming around (THANK GOD) but it is slow and I understand and am willing to wait as long as she is willing to stay and try.

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What a day, I posted in what you are wearing stating I had company coming over.

Well she came. My grand daughter. She is only seven and my wife told her this is your grandfather, he was a boy but wants to be a girl, then she asked do you know about these things?

Little Ollie said yes, and we had a good time. 

I'm in happy tears now.

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@Linda Marie That is such an amzing thing. I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO happy for you.

 

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Linda Marie, that is great.  Jamie68 I agree I wish my wife also was more supportive. I think she would flip her lid if I told her I was changing my name. I have always hated my birth name anyway.

 

Shay, Wyoming is the same way. having to have a Dr or Therapist sign off on the gender change for your license. Thankful I have a great med team at the VA. My GYN had no problems signing saying that she believes I will be female for the foreseeable future.

 

Well spent the morning getting greasy and grimy helping my youngest work on getting the motor pulled from his project car. I enjoyed it. And I didn't even break a nail. Did scuff my nail polish so later I will be repainting them. Of course the Trans flag colors, again.

 

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On 6/14/2021 at 10:17 AM, Linda Marie said:

My handy cap on this course is 12, yes 12 golf balls I usually lose on this course.?

I'm not a good golfer at all, but still enjoy it.  

Linda,

 

I have always played customer??‍♀️ golf. I pay for the round, cart, meal, and drinks. Oh and the customer always out scores me. I'm such a bad golfer that I come back with more balls than I start with, because I find them looking for mine.

 

Good luck and always remember that your golf score depends on your lie.

 

Mindy???

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I only golf where I can bring my shotgun. Isn't that how you play? Shoot them on the rise?

 

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