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2 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

First off, we do not snoop on our loved ones. That was a private conversation. Shame on you.

I'm sorry, (hand head in shame)

 

I just wanted to see what my wife told him after I asked him if my wife had told him I stopped. only thing I got back was "yeah, she told me."

 

It concerns my family, my life, and my happiness.

 

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After almost two months of silliness I finally got my new social security card. I just to ooo and ahhh at it all day. It also meant a trip to our main office so hr could see the physical card and get a copy for file. Just so happened I am also wearing my green, skull covered dress. I think I like that office a little better sometimes, I got 5 compliments on my dress. 

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@Elizabeth Star congrats. I'm still waiting for my new birth certificate to come so I can get my SS and Driver's licenses changed then tackle insurance, estate planning and credit cards.....

Sadly no dress makes me look good yet - I'm still in the gas to the floor and clutch in - with family and wanting surgery.

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1 hour ago, Shay said:

@Elizabeth Star congrats. I'm still waiting for my new birth certificate to come so I can get my SS and Driver's licenses changed then tackle insurance, estate planning and credit cards.....

Sadly no dress makes me look good yet - I'm still in the gas to the floor and clutch in - with family and wanting surgery.

You have to change your birth certificate first?  That’s currently last on my list. 

 

5 hours ago, Jazz-per said:

Good morning all.

 

I got to bind at school yesterday which was really good for me. I also got to hang out with some friends at a thing after school which was a bit outside of my comfort zone, but ended up being really fun anyways.

 

I have woken up anxious the past two days which I'm not a fan of. I'm thinking it might be dysphoria because yesterday when I was binding it eased quite a bit, but today it's been incredibly persistent.

 

In really good news my mother might let me get a bowl cut after senior pictures. I'm not out to my parents so I wasn't sure how asking for one would go. So hopefully that'll be in October that I get to do that. :3

 

Anywho, hope you're having a wonderful day!

-Jasper

It’s always good whenever you can be yourself. A good haircut can doing amazing things for self affirmation and easing dysphoria. At least it did for me. I agree with what Jackie said about the comfort zone. You may learn something new about yourself. 

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2 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

After almost two months of silliness I finally got my new social security card. I just to ooo and ahhh at it all day. It also meant a trip to our main office so hr could see the physical card and get a copy for file. Just so happened I am also wearing my green, skull covered dress. I think I like that office a little better sometimes, I got 5 compliments on my dress. 

Yay! It's an awesome feeling. Congrats.

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1 hour ago, Elizabeth Star said:

You have to change your birth certificate first?  That’s currently last on my list.

It was last on my list also, at least the gender change on SS card. I just got my name changed on SS card since it's a long process to get a birth cert. from Puerto Rico. It takes over a month. They sent back my application once already saying my money order was wrong amount, and also said I needed a lawyer to submit it, which is incorrect. I resubmitted about 3 weeks ago. Still waiting for response.

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It’s another slow day at work and I’m having trouble staying awake. I pray to the Goddess that this mug of unicorn blood will restore some vitality. 
 

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2 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

It’s another slow day at work and I’m having trouble staying awake. I pray to the Goddess that this mug of unicorn blood will restore some vitality. 
 

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Nice. I love it. I've never seen this before. 

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On another note, I found out today that I don't get put on the GCS list with my surgeon until my insurance approves the surgery. I really hope that it happens soon. Please wish me well ?

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2 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

On another note, I found out today that I don't get put on the GCS list with my surgeon until my insurance approves the surgery. I really hope that it happens soon. Please wish me well ?

Good luck.  I have my FFS and GAS consult Monday. Hope to get  schedules for both then. 

 

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@Bri2020 and @Jamie68? Good fortune to both of you! May you be swiftly approved and guided to the surgeons with the surest hands and the most artistic talent!

 

Best of luck to you as well @Lexa83. You never know what the future might bring. My spouse finds herself comfortable with and attracted to me after threeish years on HRT. While she still considers herself straight, she's willing to concede "Straight plus me." Unless your wife is a raging heterosexual, keep calm, keep the lines of communication open and remind each other that you're in love every, single day.

 

Hugs!

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A relaxing domestic day, which for me revolves around the kitchen. Made 6 qts of granola, then 2 loaves of honey whole wheat bread, then a French apple gallette. Then got off my feet and finished a sewing project.

 

So, a day to just be me.

 

It will be nice to drift off to sleep with a relaxed smile ? ? ?

 

Astrid 

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1 hour ago, Astrid said:

A relaxing domestic day, which for me revolves around the kitchen. Made 6 qts of granola, then 2 loaves of honey whole wheat bread, then a French apple gallette. Then got off my feet and finished a sewing project.

 

So, a day to just be me.

 

It will be nice to drift off to sleep with a relaxed smile ? ? ?

 

Astrid 

A girl after my own heart. I like to cook also. I can sew too, not great but passable. My older sister taught me how to sew when i was in 9th grade.

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4 hours ago, Lexa83 said:

We have our first couples therapy session coming up, another thing I didn't think we would ever get to.

 

That's good news. Couples therapy was one of the key milestones for us, and gave us both a much better understanding of how each other felt. Communication definitely improved.

 

May it be a positive step forward for you two as well!

 

Hugs,

 

Astrid 

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4 hours ago, Lexa83 said:

Times have been trying.... After 3 years since coming out to my spouse, we were on an almost certain path to being done. After I admitted defeat in that if she couldn't stand me or my changes, whatever they may be, that I need for my future, she realized I couldn't fight it anymore and it hit her in a way that it hasn't before. We made up, she committed to being more calm when we talk so that I don't get anxietied out of opening up. I then read her a letter that I'd been writing and rewriting for the last year plus that detailed needing to at least try HRT and needing to change my name. She doesn't like or agree with it, but stayed calm. She's afraid of becoming unattracted to me. She asked when I want to start "this" I said let's work on us to begin with. We have our first couples therapy session coming up, another thing I didn't think we would ever get to..... I hate being always hopeful as it almost never pans out, but I dare say there could be a chance for us and that regardless of the outcome... I can see a little light at the end of the tunnel which I'm excited for because I know the road to happiness is what's on the other side.

? HUGS

I hope it gets better for you. Seems it's always a rough go at the beginning. It does get better though if there's love there.

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3 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

@Bri2020 and @Jamie68? Good fortune to both of you! May you be swiftly approved and guided to the surgeons with the surest hands and the most artistic talent!

Thanks, Jackie.?

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Oh great Goddess I am so freaking nervous.  Tomorrow I won’t only be presenting as Justine, I will be doing it in front of 120+ people to perform the wedding of my two best friends. 
 

Ack what the heck did I get myself into?! 

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2 hours ago, JustineM said:

Ack what the heck did I get myself into?! 

You got yourself into living life as you really are!  Embrace it - it won't be anxiety-free, but being yoursef in this world rarely is.  You got this.  Just. Do. It.

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Good morning, tea's brewed...Mrs offered to take me along to her mom's today, but working, so a long way to go to work from MIL's home so not going, but a rare invite to visit with someone on her "side" these days. 

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@Lexa83 congrats.  I wish you both luck.

I myself have stopped. There is to much stress coming from my wife and oldest. Plus I want to see all my grandkids. Not just my middle son's two (soon to be three :) ) I guess we will see at Thanksgiving. My middle son and wife are wanting the whole family over. Me, My wife and Youngest and our oldest and his family.  If our oldest declines there will be hell to pay, from his brother and sister in law.

 

My Monday today. Up early to get some things done at work.

 

Kymmie

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Woke up feeling anxious again. That's three days in a row. Not a huge fan of this trend.

 

Excited for today though. A lot of fun stuff to do :3)

I'm going to get to see and old psychiatric center tour and I'm really excited about.

 

-Jazz

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13 hours ago, JustineM said:

Oh great Goddess I am so freaking nervous.  Tomorrow I won’t only be presenting as Justine, I will be doing it in front of 120+ people to perform the wedding of my two best friends. 
 

Ack what the heck did I get myself into?! 

It sounds wonderful and maybe a little intimidating only because there may be a few that won’t know about you. You’ll be fine though. This is actually one of the things on my bucket list….Attend a wedding as true self. I have been to so many weddings over the years and it’s seems odd that I have never attended one without wearing a monkey suit. So sad?

 

Have fun @JustineM

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2 hours ago, Jazz-per said:

Excited for today though. A lot of fun stuff to do :3)

Oh but so much better than sitting home watching TV, doing housework or worse yet…paying bills. Enjoy yourself, Jazz-per! ?

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