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4 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

She loves me for who I am not what's in my pants.

This is my wife's way of thinking. I have slowed way down.

 

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5 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

There's been a lot of new developments on my home-front. We've been able to talk a lot more openly about pretty much everything. Seeing me in a dress or skirt doesn't bother her anymore. Out in the wild we can act like we're together. She even suggested I consider getting hair extensions since mine grows so slow. Last night I was able to finally ask the big question that had been weighing on mind for the last couple of years. Would she have stayed with me if she had not gotten sick? Yes, she said she would have. She loves me for who I am not what's in my pants. It's just taken a long time for her to get over the bomb I dropped on her when I came out. I think we are actually, finally in a good place. Just in time for me to start the next leg of journey.

 

 

I'm glad Liz! Good for both of you!

 

Hugs!

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Hi 

 

well the hotel was nice. The doctor increased my dosage. We were close the last time so hopefully this one will last the ful three months. Next appointment is in January.  
 

I hurt a bit more this time.  She was having issues penetrating the thorax.  I discovered when we left I was bleeding internally but it stopped quickly.  
 

We booked a cruise for December.  It’s been 6 years since we took our granddaughter one her final wish Disney Cruise.   I think I’m ready to go again.  No it’s not a Disney.  That I’ll never be able to do again.

 

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13 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

That is a FANTASTIC reason to go into medicine. We need more people like that.

 

Hugs!

He also said nice things about helping older trans people which struck a chord with me for some reason.  

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@Elizabeth StarI've said it before, I'll say it again, your story gives me such hope-I've seen signs of that kind of acceptance happening here, but not so advanced, and I'm so happy about those steps that I can't imagine what happiness or relief you must be feeling lately. 

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7 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

There's been a lot of new developments on my home-front...........

 

She loves me for who I am not what's in my pants. It's just taken a long time for her to get over the bomb I dropped on her when I came out. I think we are actually, finally in a good place. Just in time for me to start the next leg of journey.

 

My eyes got teary reading this... I'm so happy for you and your situation gives me some hope to hold on to. HUGS

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8 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

It's just taken a long time for her to get over the bomb I dropped on her when I came out. I think we are actually, finally in a good place. Just in time for me to start the next leg of journey.

Your spouse is an amazing person @Elizabeth Star. It does take some time to process the kind of news we present to our spouses.  The wait is worth it if and when it acceptance and affirmation happen. It is these moments that make your relationship with her so much stronger. I am so happy for you both!?

 

*Hugs*

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Good morning! 

 

Yesterday I had some time to kill away from home so swung by 'my salon' and had my eyebrows shaped on the spur of the moment. 

 

Today is the day I used to post my monthly "started HRT" update but since it's more than a year in I'm too chill to do that now.  

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19 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

There's been a lot of new developments on my home-front. We've been able to talk a lot more openly about pretty much everything. Seeing me in a dress or skirt doesn't bother her anymore. Out in the wild we can act like we're together. She even suggested I consider getting hair extensions since mine grows so slow. Last night I was able to finally ask the big question that had been weighing on mind for the last couple of years. Would she have stayed with me if she had not gotten sick? Yes, she said she would have. She loves me for who I am not what's in my pants. It's just taken a long time for her to get over the bomb I dropped on her when I came out. I think we are actually, finally in a good place. Just in time for me to start the next leg of journey.

 

I'm so happy for you and your partner. That's the way a marriage should be.❤️

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I got some great news yesterday. I finally got put on the waiting list for my bottom surgery. I'm # 204 on the list. It will be a year and a half or so before they get to my number. It's going to seem like forever. At least it gives me time to get electrolysis done.

I also found out that they require me to have a BMI of under 35 for surgery. I started out at 31.4 before transitioning. Now i'm at 30.3 Since i've been working out. It's dam hard to loose weight now. I've got another 25 pounds i'd like to lose.

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19 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

There's been a lot of new developments on my home-front. We've been able to talk a lot more openly about pretty much everything. Seeing me in a dress or skirt doesn't bother her anymore. Out in the wild we can act like we're together. She even suggested I consider getting hair extensions since mine grows so slow. Last night I was able to finally ask the big question that had been weighing on mind for the last couple of years. Would she have stayed with me if she had not gotten sick? Yes, she said she would have. She loves me for who I am not what's in my pants. It's just taken a long time for her to get over the bomb I dropped on her when I came out. I think we are actually, finally in a good place. Just in time for me to start the next leg of journey.

 

OMG, I'm so happy for you, girl! Live this!

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2 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

also found out that they require me to have a BMI of under 35 for surgery. I started out at 31.4 before transitioning. Now i'm at 30.3 Since i've been working out. It's dam hard to loose weight now. I've got another 25 pounds i'd like to lose.

 

That's pretty common even though BMI is a rubbish measurement. The absolute best advice I got from my surgical team was, "Be in the best shape of your life." I did my best. It improved my recovery time and lessened my pain even with all my other health problems. You've got a year and a half to do it. Get moving girl! I know you can do it too!

 

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Good morning ☀️

 

Another week has come and gone. I didn't realize it a first, that the "guy" who came to help us reorganize a department at work seemed to avoid me for the week. Maybe our conversation we had at the beginning had an effect on him. I may have invoked some feeling. Seeing me out living my life as my authentic self while he retreated back into the closet. So now I'm a little confuse with how I should think of him. He uses he/him pronouns but can he call himself cis anymore after having a trans history? Especially since he stopped HRT due to lack of development and social pressure and not because he felt the path was wrong for himself. I suppose he can refer to himself however he wants but I feel he only put the mask back on and will always be a trans woman at heart.

 

 

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1 hour ago, Elizabeth Star said:

So now I'm a little confuse with how I should think of him.

 

If they're comfortable using he/him pronouns for now, then that's what you should use. I'd straight up ask them what pronouns they'd like you to use. It's about being comfortable after all. if they're not comfortable being out, then I wouldn't out them. If they want me to use "she/her" in private and "he/him" when other people are around, I can do that too.

 

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 @Lexa83 My eyes got teary reading this... I'm so happy for you and your situation gives me some hope to hold on to. HUGS. You have to be patient and talk.  The fact that you are going to couples therapy is really hopeful. Remember, to your wife she is losing her mate.  And depending upon just how conservative she is, that gets harder and harder to accept.

 

like you four years and still not there but I’m being as patient as possible but I keep moving.  Sometimes it takes a step or two backwards but as long as the general trend is in the right direction.

 

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3 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

 

I got some great news yesterday. I finally got put on the waiting list

 

That is awesome and so encouraging!

Five months from my initial consult.
Still have tons of electrolysis left. 
(sneaked in some six word sentences!)

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The six word sentence rhyming muse!

 

Got a flushot in the left,

and a Pfizer in the right.

Tylenol is helping out a bit.

Tossed and turned throughout the night.

 

Couldn’t get comfy on my stomach;

Hormones make that hard to do.

Could not lie on either side

Flat on my back; feeling blue!

 

Haha! Should start feeling better soon!

 

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22 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Would she have stayed with me if she had not gotten sick? Yes, she said she would have. She loves me for who I am not what's in my pants. It's just taken a long time for her to get over the bomb I dropped on her when I came out. I think we are actually, finally in a good place.

 

 

I'm so happy for you Liz. I know how hard it is to get to this point.

 

Hugs,

Mike

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Ok I’m up now and the soreness from the double shots yesterday is wearing off!

 

went for a short 3 mile walk with my dog yesterday to enjoy a sunny break in the clouds. I bumped into a momma and her 3yo daughter dancing along the path play sword fighting with little twigs on the other side of this pond, and I asked if they were celebrating Halloween. O yeah! So I told them to keep their eye out for a little painted rock on the tree stump jutting out of of the fence just around the corner!
 

what I found intriguing was the little girl evidently enjoying a stereotypical boy activity and the momma totally engaged in the moment with this expression of joy with her daughter. A couple of blocks later I ran into 3 girls twirling hula hoops and evidently enjoying that activity. One of them had an old wooden hoop that had beads inside it and she proudly declared it belonged to her grandmother. I love the way little kids feel comfortable and natural expressing their own sense of gender. It’s a real shame that this image is too frequently shattered by parental or societal expectations. 

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1 hour ago, AgnesBardsie said:

Ok I’m up now and the soreness from the double shots yesterday is wearing off!

 

went for a short 3 mile walk with my dog yesterday to enjoy a sunny break in the clouds. I bumped into a momma and her 3yo daughter dancing along the path play sword fighting with little twigs on the other side of this pond, and I asked if they were celebrating Halloween. O yeah! So I told them to keep their eye out for a little painted rock on the tree stump jutting out of of the fence just around the corner!
 

what I found intriguing was the little girl evidently enjoying a stereotypical boy activity and the momma totally engaged in the moment with this expression of joy with her daughter. A couple of blocks later I ran into 3 girls twirling hula hoops and evidently enjoying that activity. One of them had an old wooden hoop that had beads inside it and she proudly declared it belonged to her grandmother. I love the way little kids feel comfortable and natural expressing their own sense of gender. It’s a real shame that this image is too frequently shattered by parental or societal expectations. 

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Not much to report here, just a minor life changing event. 

I finished my meeting, which is now my last, I pulled out. 

 

No more people!!!! Freedom!!!!!    So now I'm focused on me. 

I've been studying my insurance, and I'm covered for srs, (I have federal blue cross)

 

I have nothing in my way to stop me now.

I know the march that is required, been through it a few times.

So now the march is finally real. 

I also have an ace in the hole. My doctor. 

 

So now my focus is real, and nothing holding me back.

All because of a meeting. I had had enough, I'm moving on.

 

Most important is my wife. She has been expecting this for over 20 years now.

So my full transition is in place.

 

That is where I'm at now. Moving closer to my final goal.

 

LM❤️ 

 

 

 

 

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