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2 hours ago, JustineM said:

From happy yesterday to the black pits of despair today. Found out my boss is hiding from me, had my pay cut, found out my biological dad and his wife are both sick and…. My brothers girlfriend of 5 years passed away today from COVID. I need a dang drink!

Oh my, Justine, I'm so sorry to hear about your heartbreaking down turn of events.

 

Hugs, and all the best positive energy,

 

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2 hours ago, Mmindy said:

Oh my, Justine, I'm so sorry to hear about your heartbreaking down turn of events.

 

Hugs, and all the best positive energy,

 

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I agree. Hang in there. Stay strong. This too shall pass.

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10 hours ago, JustineM said:

From happy yesterday to the black pits of despair today. Found out my boss is hiding from me, had my pay cut, found out my biological dad and his wife are both sick and…. My brothers girlfriend of 5 years passed away today from COVID. I need a dang drink!

So so sorry, @JustineMI send you a hug.

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OMG! I'm sorry this happened to you @JustineM. That's a huge load to carry. I hope things get better for you soon. I, too am sending you hugs.

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Sorry to read of all non those events Justine.  Sometimes the world seems to turn on us.  One of the "good" things i've found is covered in the expression; "This too will pass".   I know that as an alcoholic that drinking never helped.  For me it just made things worse.  I have been told to look at what i am grateful for.  That seems to help more than any drink ever did.

 

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Wow! @JustineM that’s a lot to deal with.  I am so sorry.  Just remember you have a lot of friends here that care and are sending good thoughts your way.

 

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Sorry to hear about the sad news.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Justin, Wow when it rains it pours. Saddening to hear about your family. prayers to you and your brother/family. It seems that your boss is scared of you. Doesn't want to face the person he cut the pay of. Chicken shite.

 

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Kymmie

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14 hours ago, JustineM said:

From happy yesterday to the black pits of despair today. Found out my boss is hiding from me, had my pay cut, found out my biological dad and his wife are both sick and…. My brothers girlfriend of 5 years passed away today from COVID. I need a dang drink!

Wow…   This sounds (and is) awful.  

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On 11/18/2021 at 7:20 AM, Mmindy said:

Good morning everyone,

 

The coffee is HOT, black, and strong. :coffee:

 

I injured my lower back last week, and was self medicating, stretching to work things back into place. Well yesterday morning I slipped in the shower and caught myself before hitting the floor. The problem with that is I re-injured my lower back even worse 8 out of 10 pain scale. This lead me to a trip to Urgent Care for professional care, and a cocktail of pain meds. They didn't seem to touch the pain up to bedtime when I took my second dose. Sleep was restless, and full of weird dreams. This morning I physically rolled out of bed, with pain at a 5. Third dose of meds, and I'm at my home office with a manageable pain level at a 2.5.

 

I do believe in better living through chemistry.

 

Mindy??️‍⚧️?

Hope you heal quickly. I go to a chiropractor, have for almost 50 yrs. They have saved me form a great deal of pain. It's hard to find one that is really good. I got lucky. Been to some of the best. 2 have passed on and my current one wants to retire. If you go to one, try to find one who is up to date on all the energy work, like the B.E.S.T. system, and laser light system, etc.

Crainialsacral and Reiki therapies are good also. My wife does both plus a bunch more. She was a Japanese Okasaki Massage Therapist. I'm lucky to have her.

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On 11/17/2021 at 6:47 PM, Bri2020 said:

I'v been bat -crap- crazy getting ready to move into my apartment in 2 weeks. Besides all the packing, having to essentially start over with all the little possessions you amass for living has had me overwhelmed.  I think I have the kitchen figured out. My sister is a big time Pampered Chef person so had a closet full of free kitchenware to help me restart from.  Did the Ikea run as well.  When I first realized I would be moving out post separation I was worried about the big things I had to get like a bed. But just getting all the little things you don't think about that you use every day is fu#*ing expensive. The next big shopping day is stocking up a pantry from nothing. That is not going to be a cheap grocery store run :(. Since I'm going to be on my own for the first time in about 30 years I've decide to really get back into cooking so I want my kitchen and pantry ready to go when I move in.  I've already scheduled a dinner party for 5 days after my move to force me to get everything done and organized.

I'm sure it sucks starting over. Well, you have the chance to make even more good memories now. Hope it goes well for you.

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20 hours ago, LindaMarie said:

I went on a trip back in time.

Sails were full of wind and off I went....

I was so young back then....

....then I came home....

I try not to look back too much. Made a lot of mistakes that I regret.

You're only as old as you feel. ❤️

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19 hours ago, Davie said:

QAnon Supporters Wait for Return of John Kennedy Jr in Downtown Dallas


https://www.yahoo.com/news/qanon-supporters-wait-return-john-195220791.html

 

A woman in our LGBTQ zoom group today mentioned the group of folks who are now gathered at Dealey Plaza where JFK was assassinated. They’re expecting that JFK, Jr. will appear, coming back from the dead, and re-incarnating for them to celebrate.

“A bit crazy to expect that,” she said.

Another woman said: “But how will they know it’s him? Being dead can really change how someone looks.”

And I said: “And what if JFK, Jr. has transitioned into a super feminine woman? How WILL they recognize her?”

Such a disappointment.

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1 hour ago, KymmieL said:

. It seems that your boss is scared of you. Doesn't want to face the person he cut the pay of. Chicken shite.

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

My wife said the exact same thing. 

Thank you everyone for the well wishes.

 

Im doing a little better today, one of my supervisors is trying to fight and get me back on my old route, which would restore my pay. 
 

My brother, I didn’t really know his girlfriend, but it’s hard seeing him go through all this. He’s also facing a fight for custody of her kids that he’s raised like his own.  But they weren’t married so I don’t know if he can win that battle.

 

He’s actually the first stepping stone on my discovery path. He told me about 6 years ago that he was transgender. I had never really looked or researched into what that all meant, so I started so I could have a better understanding of what he was facing. It turned into one of those “Holy Crap! This is me” moments. And here I am now. 

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14 hours ago, JustineM said:

From happy yesterday to the black pits of despair today. Found out my boss is hiding from me, had my pay cut, found out my biological dad and his wife are both sick and…. My brothers girlfriend of 5 years passed away today from COVID. I need a dang drink!

WOW! So sorry. Hope it gets better for you.

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Thank you @Jamie68, right now I'm just taking it real easy:coffee:. The Urgent Care Doctor, who was a back injury victim himself recognized my tender situation and reluctance to have anyone help me move about. After hearing about my injuring activities, he prescribed three meds,?? two are pain management, and? one is a muscle relaxer. Then he referred me to the spine and back specialist he went to, along with two others. I have an appointment with them next Wednesday. 

 

As for chiropractors, I've never been to one and will be selective on which one I choose. I did print out the recommendations you made, so I can ask informed questions as I move forward.

 

Gentle Hugs,

 

Mindy??️‍⚧️?

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I have had muscle relaxers in the past. Take one and I am blotto so out of it.

 

Made myself a mani/pedi appointment for an early birthday present for me. Dec 17. gonna wear my polish with pride.

 

Kymmie

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On ‎11‎/‎13‎/‎2021 at 11:53 AM, KymmieL said:

I have been thinking am I truly transgender.  Then I  look back just a few year ago.  And wonder why I started self medication to grow breasts if I was just a crossdresser. 

 

Kymmie 

Kymmie

OMG that was me to back in arounf 2005 or 06 I did that to and it still didn't click with me why I was doing it. Now it all makes since.

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Hey there @KymmieL, two of these meds to have drowsiness warnings on them, the muscle relaxer does not. I was self medicating last week after the initial injury with a large amount of ibuprofen, and it seemed to be working, until I had a near fall in the shower and caught myself on the top of the shower door. That really jerked me out of wack and amplified my injury. I'm in a situation where I don't have to worry about operating equipment or machines, so drowsy is okay.

 

Happy early Birthday, and once you have the mani/pedi we expect pictures.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy??️‍⚧️?

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@Mmindy geez, I somehow missed your initial post about the injuries. I am very glad the pain is much reduced by now. Take it easy and be gentle with yourself.

 

Speaking of pain, I had a productive appointment with the Ehlers-Danlos physical therapist on Tuesday. I have a much better understanding of the goals of my therapy. I've incorporated my new understanding into what I've been practicing at home, and so far have had less pain. So, I am feeling much better (pain was 8/10 last couple weeks, and amazingly 5/10 yesterday) & am hopeful I can learn to manage better. I also reached out to the wellness person at work to see if she could evaluate the ergonomics of my work stations.

 

Additionally, I had my first appointment with a gender therapist yesterday!! I've been waiting since June, so this was much anticipated. My impression of her so far is good. She was nice, easy to talk to, and she said she wants to help me achieve my goals. She commended me on giving her a good overview about me on our first visit and said I thereby made it much easier for her to determine how to proceed. So far, it certainly seems like the beginning of a good relationship. And! It was very cool to be able to talk completely openly about my experience of gender and sexuality without feeling like I had to explain or justify or tiptoe around anything. Lol, she even said I was welcome to bring my dogs to therapy. I think I could bring my husky, but my Australian would want to herd every single item in her office.

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Thank you @Vidanjali

I'm glad you're finding ways to manage your pain as well. Job related ergonomics is so important, and should give you options. I've found that there are two professions you should never feel bad about telling the truth. Your Healthcare Team, and your Lawyer, you're paying them to be on your side, so honesty and frankness is the best way to communicate.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy??️‍⚧️?

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On 11/17/2021 at 4:21 AM, Jamie68 said:

I have a question for you ladies who have had bottom surgery. Do you find it easier to keep your knees together without the extra junk in the way? I'm trying to get into the habit of keeping them together. It seems difficult for me. 

 

 I am similar to Kathy. Seem like I have about as much junk in the way as before. Not sure what to do about it.

 

On 11/17/2021 at 5:16 PM, Willow said:

Hi,

 

it’s official surgery is on for next Wednesday 

 

Congratulations Willow!

 

@MmindyHoping your pain settles down quickly!

 

Hugs,

Mike

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Thanks Mike aka @Confused1 I'm fortunate to have a slowed work schedule right now so I can let thing be. I am looking forward to the back and spine doctor's finding. As mentioned earlier, I'll also see about chiropractic help too.

 

Best wishes, as we approach Thanksgiving and the Winter Holiday Seasons.

 

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7 hours ago, KymmieL said:

It seems that your boss is scared of you. Doesn't want to face the person he cut the pay of. Chicken shite.

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

@JustineM This is terrible.  Doesn't your boss understand the economy is booming and businesses everywhere are looking for employees?  Not suggesting you look elsewhere but I'm sure its crossed your mind.   I hope it works out well for you.  

 

Sorry to read about your family.

 

Jani

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