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Same here Liz I am just another woman.

I know some trans feel the need to force themselves on people.

Dress in rainbow clothing, wear pins etc.

I am not sure what they expect to achieve being loud and obnoxious.

 

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21 minutes ago, Teri Anne said:

Thats what is great about being retired get up when the body says and not the alarm clock!

Agreed.

 

12 minutes ago, Teri Anne said:

Same here Liz I am just another woman.

I know some trans feel the need to force themselves on people.

I would like to get here, but I know I will always be clocked as trans.  I don't flout it, but…

I am kinda stuck with this body, so dysphoria holds me back.

This is a depressing post.

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4 hours ago, Mattie Anne said:

Good morning! I introduced myself a month ago, and haven't been on here since. I came on to check out the HRT forum and I thought I'd say hi. I'm going back to the endocrinologist tomorrow and hopefully starting HRT. I saw her last month, and that's the tentative plan, but I'm nervous that there's going to be some kind of problem. I'm also super excited and curious!

 

Salutations! Depending on where you live, we might have the same endo. 😉

 

Anyway, I'll share some wisdom my first endo shared with me, "Don't worry, we can almost always find a plan that will give you the results you want." At the time I was nearly 300 pounds and shaped roughly like a potato. She was right. Trust in the process.

 

Hugs!

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I used to look slim and fit. Now I look like a mutated potato.

 

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Lots of good topics going on here today. 

Labels. Yes they are needed for those who need them.

For us it is just a term as to where we are at, those outside of our life

want to badger us about where we are at. 

We here are all Transgendered!!

 

Next, where was I ?....till, next time

LM❤️

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I also feel that outsiders do not understand the pain we

go through when asked those questions.

Take me for example. I'm out as me, Linda Marie. I'm having my dream come true for the day,

and then someone asks the question....

 

So many times that question, so many nights taken away from me.

 

Moving on.....remember, we are not only what we are,

we are also who we are.

 

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On the subject of pronouns, I’m seeing more cis-gendered people use them as a show of support and awareness. If I’m on a zoom call with a group of people and one of them obviously a male or female has listed their pronouns it’s a cue to me that they are potential Allies. It also will discourage negative comments if a sensitive subject comes up. I personally don’t feel the need to apply them to myself but it can be encouraging to see them used in a supporting way.

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Other people's awareness is not my problem and I don't feel its my job to demand they are aware.

I have found if I just be me over time they will either like me or not like me.

Last night I spoke with a trans person MtF CD mainly but still trans and she ranted on spouting I will not be erased and all that activist rainbow warrior stuff.

I finally had to stop her and say stop no one is trying to erase anyone.

Understand she has just started her journey and knows very little and hasn't seen a therapist yet so I fear she has gone off the deep end.

She sent a pic and asked for my opinion so I had to be honest and tell her she looked like a hooker.

I didn't want to say that but I felt I had to because she was too over the top.

I explained that she is confused right now and needs to sit back and use some common sense.

Hopefully she doesn't hate me for being honest.

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15 minutes ago, Teri Anne said:

Other people's awareness is not my problem and I don't feel its my job to demand they are aware.

I have found if I just be me over time they will either like me or not like me.

Last night I spoke with a trans person MtF CD mainly but still trans and she ranted on spouting I will not be erased and all that activist rainbow warrior stuff.

I finally had to stop her and say stop no one is trying to erase anyone.

Understand she has just started her journey and knows very little and hasn't seen a therapist yet so I fear she has gone off the deep end.

She sent a pic and asked for my opinion so I had to be honest and tell her she looked like a hooker.

I didn't want to say that but I felt I had to because she was too over the top.

I explained that she is confused right now and needs to sit back and use some common sense.

Hopefully she doesn't hate me for being honest.

that was a tough conversation to have. that must have been hard. tough love, maybe? but you're right. I see Jeopardy Amy as a role model for the path into the future. There may have been a time when it was necessary to storm the castle, but the culture is on the right side of history these days, at least in the US. There are still some battles to be fought, but there a way more allies out there today than outright enemies. We have shows like the Golden Girls which has come to the forefront with the passing of Betty White, and many other pioneers to thank for paving the way. I think we would be better served by holding these folks up to the spotlight to get the point across.

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I was certainly an "angry young man" in my 20s, but as I got older I mellowed out. I eventually learned that getting angry over every little thing (or being overly obstinate about it) can do your cause more harm than good. I've also learned the ability to take a step back from my own life and look at it from a different perspective, which is part of how I ended up here.

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Sitting here on vacation just waiting for the phone to ring telling me my FFS is cancelled due to hospitals overcrowded :(. Maryland is just being hammered with admissions. I'm 90% confident I'm not getting my surgery in less than 2 weeks from now.

Maybe I should go hit the bar ;)

 

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25 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

I'm 90% confident I'm not getting my surgery in less than 2 weeks from now.

This must be frustrating.  Maybe it will still work out somehow.

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1 hour ago, Teri Anne said:

Last night I spoke with a trans person MtF CD mainly but still trans and she ranted on spouting I will not be erased and all that activist rainbow warrior stuff.

I finally had to stop her and say stop no one is trying to erase anyone.

Understand she has just started her journey and knows very little and hasn't seen a therapist yet so I fear she has gone off the deep end.

It is fully possible her parents practiced erasure, or other people she knows personally. I have had the unfortunate experience of none of my female or male family members supporting me in any way being trans. This could be her very, very tragic lived experience.

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Life in the married lane.

Wife: what's taking so long in there?

Me: adjusting an under garment.

Wife: hurry up.

Me: why, use the other bathroom.

Wife: I like this one.

Me: okay.

 

Wife asking me about my day start, "are you Debbie Downer today or maybe Cathy Catty"?

Me: no, not sure yet.

 

Wife: I know you're back in groups again, is that why the monitor is all scratched up?

Me: no, cat tv.

 

Wife: what are you doing now?

Me: answering questions.

 

Wife: when you coming up?

Me: you got those blue pills?

Wife: (sorry folks, she is still on the floor laughing) I will get back to that

at a later date,

hugs to all,

LM❤️

 

 

 

 

 

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Some very pod posts today.  @LindaMarie I love that exchange.

 

I am ready to Mount my new instrument panel on my binnacle.  The chart plotter a fuel gauge some light switches and room to add either gauges or idiot lights for temperature, voltage and oil pressure.  I suppose I should have left room to move the entire engine panel to this but there is just so much room without making it too big.  I’ll take a picture once it’s in place.

 

my wife and I have been discussing gender dysphoria verses the rest of the alphabet of Pride.  She doesn’t get a lot of it and can’t reconcile any part with the Bible.  I am trying to point out that the only time the Bible berates people is in the Old Testament.  Once we move on to the New Testament we get the new covenant and acceptance.  I believe she is coming around but we aren’t there yet.

 

great day today we hit 70 again but rain then dropping temperatures.  Took the dog for a walk on he beach.  we should have taken the boat out.  But that would have meant leaving the dock at 3am.  I’m not into that.

 

until tomorrow 

 

Willow

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4 minutes ago, Willow said:

 

my wife and I have been discussing gender dysphoria verses the rest of the alphabet of Pride.  She doesn’t get a lot of it and can’t reconcile any part with the Bible.  I am trying to point out that the only time the Bible berates people is in the Old Testament.  Once we move on to the New Testament we get the new covenant and acceptance.  I believe she is coming around but we aren’t there yet.

My understanding is that the Old Testament Hebrew is a lot more nuanced than how it's translated into English. Jesus summary is pretty clear: Love God and Love your Neighbor. Interesting how many times the word Love appears.

 

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Bible, religions, all the same. Someone's version of their beliefs.   

Let us take a look at religions. In parts of the middle east it is a crime to be homosexual,

but legal if you have a sex change. 

 

Here in the states we have all kinds of crap with religions.

But! Wait!  We have bars!!!!

LM....gosh I love this life.

❤️

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7 hours ago, Artpetal said:

It is fully possible her parents practiced erasure, or other people she knows personally. I have had the unfortunate experience of none of my female or male family members supporting me in any way being trans. This could be her very, very tragic lived experience.

But sit down and really think sensibly no body can erase anyone and why in the world would anyone think that.

You have the same rights as anyone else. Sure her parents don't have to accept her but she can move out on her own too.

I am sure neither of my parents would have accepted me being trans but I lost both mine when I was in my teens and 20s.

To this date not one single friend of mine from years past tried to "erase" me for being trans 99% have gotten used to it.

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1 hour ago, Willow said:

 She doesn’t get a lot of it and can’t reconcile any part with the Bible.  I am trying to point out that the only time the Bible berates people is in the Old Testament.  Once we move on to the New Testament we get the new covenant and acceptance.

Speaking only for myself, the Bible had a lot to do with my internal transphobia.  As for the new testament, Paul seemed to write a bit negatively about LGBT people.  I personally think trying to reconcile being transgender with the Bible is a bit of a stretch.  But that's just my opinion.  And we all know what opinions are like - everybody has one.

I mean no offense to the Christians here.  But it was only when I was able to let some things go that I could accept who I am.

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Wife and I went clothes shopping for me.Did have a couple stares when I was checking out a couple tunics.Also got a couple positive reactions about me.Wife was told she has a beautiful husband and told me I looked beautiful dressed as female.Came out with a few new tunics,skirts,dresses and halter tops that I bought.

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1 hour ago, Teri Anne said:

But sit down and really think sensibly no body can erase anyone and why in the world would anyone think that.

You have the same rights as anyone else. Sure her parents don't have to accept her but she can move out on her own too.

I am sure neither of my parents would have accepted me being trans but I lost both mine when I was in my teens and 20s.

To this date not one single friend of mine from years past tried to "erase" me for being trans 99% have gotten used to it.

That's great for you, but many of us don't have that experience, and are continually faced with erasure. Just please try to be empathetic with those that don't have that. Also, many of us will never look like a "woman". Pronouns and such are important. I do understand where you're coming from, but please don't take your experience as that of all of us. If I'm reading you wrong, please accept my apologies in advance. Big hugs to all ❤

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My wife is my rock and my whole world.  We’ve just had an emotional and beautiful conversation about my fears for the future. I have been afraid that I would lose her eventually as I slowly transition into becoming Diana full time.

She told me I’m the love of her life and she can’t see herself being with anyone else. She is in this for the long haul and whatever comes we will face it together.  We have been married 16 and a half years and we do have an uncommon love.

I don’t know what I did to deserve such an amazing woman. I feel blessed and incredibly lucky. I love her with all my heart and I’m feeling more hopeful that we can take this journey together.

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2 hours ago, Becoming Diana said:

She is in this for the long haul and whatever comes we will face it together. 

What a beautiful sentiment!

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