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@Elizabeth Star

 

I am so sorry for your loss.  Loosing a loved on is very hard.  I am glad they allowed you to be there with her.

 

I know I will say a prayer for you both and I’ll keep you in my heart.  Know that you are important to all of us and let us know if there is anything you need.


sending hugs and love

 

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@Elizabeth Star I'm so sorry for your loss. RIP Alison 🙏❤️ and live in peace, Liz. I pray your grieving will be gentle and full of grace. I'm glad your brother is with you. That's amazing that Tiffany was playing. Like, of all people? One of many tributes to Alison. You'll continue to be in my thoughts, dear. 

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I'm sorry to hear of your loss Elizabeth.  You have my deepest condolences.

 

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@Bri2020 After this surgery you'll have to update your login name to Bri2022!  A new you.  

 

As to Apple face recognition, possibly it looked at your eyes and gave the go ahead.  I haven't tried that feature on my MacBook.

 

Cheers, 

Jani

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3 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

stumbled across one of our local venues and Tiffany was playing. Remember Tiffany from the 80's? Alison would have loved it so we stay for the show.

 

Oh that's really cool! My mom, a very spiritual person, would have insisted that was no coincidence!

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36 minutes ago, Roxiee said:

I'm sad

Good evening Roxiee,

I'm located in Central Indiana, fairly close to the center of the USA. It's late afternoon here, so you're surely in the evening by now. I hope you see that sadness is an up and down ride through life. I'm an old person transitioning into an old lady. Do you have any friends close to you or a family member you can trust with your feelings? I like to say that Life is not only a team event, it much like an open book test. You can always ask for help or look up the answers in a search engine.

There are so many of us here who will take the time to listen if you want to ask questions or rant about your day. I also think its possible to feel lonely when you're in a room full of people, so take the time to talk with someone you trust.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and safe,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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6 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Good morning everyone. I am holding together. My brother came down to stay with me for a few days so I'm not alone. Last night was the first time in well over a years I really felt the need for a drink. My brother did offer to go get a bottle but I felt it would have been a bad idea so we went out instead. we stared off at the bar I met my partner at so many years ago. Had a drink and left. We drove around for a little while and stumbled across one of our local venues and Tiffany was playing. Remember Tiffany from the 80's? Alison would have loved it so we stay for the show. I know I still have a lot of grieving to do but it was a nice distraction for the night.

 

Today I have to pull myself together and start making final arrangements for her. I always thought I would have more time.

Lizzy,

We're so relieved that your brother has come to support you through this toughest of times. I think it was a better idea to go out to a few places to touch those places that you and Alison frequented. I'm also feeling the same way @Heather Nicolesaid her mother was. Your finding a venue playing Tiffany was more than a coincident. Take the time you need to figure out life as you work through the grieving process.

 

Hugs, and prayers,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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8 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

I really needed coffee this morning but my lower lip has swelled to the point that I couldn't even slurp from a cup. I WILL NOT BE DETERRED!  Just needed to cool it off a little and use a straw.  

Understatement of the day "I have a headache".  I tried to go through the night with just advil for pain relief. I hate and fear narcotics.  Woke up at 4am miserable.  I think I'm probably dehydrated as well which could factor in. So- Narcs, caffeine and fluids is the order of the morning.

After rush hour I'm heading back to my apartment. I had spent the last three nights recovering in a hotel next to my doctor/hospital rather than home since that's a little over an hour away. It will be good to be home.  

Side note, I've lost all faith in the security of apple's facial recognition. It recognized my face to open my banking app this morning.

Bri,

I'm glad you're figuring out the timing of your pain meds, and hydration. As for the facial recognition on the iPhone, it's quick at adjusting to your eyes, bridge of the nose, and forehead. My iPhone even knows how many time I change sunglasses. When I change glasses, it makes me enter my pass code once and them we're good to go, until I change or take off my glasses.

 

Hope you feel better soon,

 

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17 minutes ago, Mmindy said:

Good evening Roxiee,

I'm located in Central Indiana, fairly close to the center of the USA. It's late afternoon here, so you're surely in the evening by now. I hope you see that sadness is an up and down ride through life. I'm an old person transitioning into an old lady. Do you have any friends close to you or a family member you can trust with your feelings? I like to say that Life is not only a team event, it much like an open book test. You can always ask for help or look up the answers in a search engine.

There are so many of us here who will take the time to listen if you want to ask questions or rant about your day. I also think its possible to feel lonely when you're in a room full of people, so take the time to talk with someone you trust.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and safe,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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1 hour ago, Roxiee said:

How's everyone 

 

No one welcomed me lol... on my introduction thread

Oh Roxiee,

I'm sorry I missed the introduction thread.

I'll drop by and see it soon. I'm doing well for an old lady working from home, and trying to get use to the daily grind.

 

Smiles,

 

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No more coffee, no more what are you listening to. No more what are you wearing. 

I'm done here. 

I was warned before I even came here from those outside of this group. 

I had them over to review my whole time here, I get I told you so, they ain't no one here ready for you.

Same reply from all, get out of there.

So I'm gone from here.

I do want to leave with this.

Thank you for allowing someone like me into your neighborhood.

 

I hope the best to all here.

LindaMarie.

 

 

 

 

 

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1 minute ago, LindaMarie said:

No more coffee, no more what are you listening to. No more what are you wearing. 

I'm done here. 

I was warned before I even came here from those outside of this group. 

I had them over to review my whole time here, I get I told you so, they ain't no one here ready for you.

Same reply from all, get out of there.

So I'm gone from here.

I do want to leave with this.

Thank you for allowing someone like me into your neighborhood.

 

I hope the best to all here.

LindaMarie.

 

 

 

 

 

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Linda,

While I wasn't as engaging as I could have been with your posts. I was never offended by anything you shared.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and safe

 

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No more coffee, no more what are you listening to. No more what are you wearing. 

I'm done here. 

I was warned before I even came here from those outside of this group. 

I had them over to review my whole time here, I get I told you so, they ain't no one here ready for you.

Same reply from all, get out of there.

So I'm gone from here.

 

LindaMarie was recently given a 3 day posting suspension for posting images that were in direct violation of Community Rule #8. She wasn't asked to leave. She evidently is leaving of her own volition. We have members here as young as 13. The images she posted were not suitable for them to be viewing. Especially, since many of them had parents looking over their shoulder. 

 

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Thank you for keep watch and protecting the people of all ages here.

I love that TransPulse is all inclusive, including young teens.

 

Read and follow the Rules,

 

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1 hour ago, MaryEllen said:

 

LindaMarie was recently given a 3 day posting suspension for posting images that were in direct violation of Community Rule #8. She wasn't asked to leave. She evidently is leaving of her own volition. We have members here as young as 13. The images she posted were not suitable for them to be viewing. Especially, since many of them had parents looking over their shoulder. 

 

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Thank you. With out elaborating, I’m relieved.

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@Roxiee I’m sorry you got swallowed up.  That’s not really like the vast majority of us.  
 

Hi Roxiee, welcome to TP.  This thread is where you can talk or just read.  It’s just like sitting around the kitchen table enjoy a cup of your favorite coffee,tea or whatever you like.  We share relationships, goals met, anything within the site rules you want to share.  
 

join us for coffee every day at whatever time works best for you.

 

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3 hours ago, Willow said:

@Roxiee I’m sorry you got swallowed up.  That’s not really like the vast majority of us.  
 

Hi Roxiee, welcome to TP.  This thread is where you can talk or just read.  It’s just like sitting around the kitchen table enjoy a cup of your favorite coffee,tea or whatever you like.  We share relationships, goals met, anything within the site rules you want to share.  
 

join us for coffee every day at whatever time works best for you.

 

Willow

That is why I started this thread over 550 pages ago. A place that we can just talk about anything. With in the rules. Of course. It is open to all members from 1-100yrs. @Roxiee Don't get discouraged about your intro post. I myself don't get to the intro section that often. you are welcome, to post here. As are anyone.

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

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I've been feeling bad about @LindaMarie. Maybe it's my imagination, but for awhile lately I've been getting the impression she's been privately dealing with some difficult things, not quite sure what.

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20 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Good morning everyone. I am holding together. My brother came down to stay with me for a few days so I'm not alone. Last night was the first time in well over a years I really felt the need for a drink. My brother did offer to go get a bottle but I felt it would have been a bad idea so we went out instead. we stared off at the bar I met my partner at so many years ago. Had a drink and left. We drove around for a little while and stumbled across one of our local venues and Tiffany was playing. Remember Tiffany from the 80's? Alison would have loved it so we stay for the show. I know I still have a lot of grieving to do but it was a nice distraction for the night.

 

Today I have to pull myself together and start making final arrangements for her. I always thought I would have more time.

Liz, I'm glad you have someone close to be with you in these difficult times. I agree that the concert wasn't an accident. I believe your wife is telling you that she's ok now, and to remember her in a good way, remembering the best times with her. The ones who love us the most, I think always find a way to come back at least once to console us. Hang in there. You have friends that care. 💜

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14 hours ago, Roxiee said:

How's everyone 

 

No one welcomed me lol... on my introduction thread

I'm sorry I missed your arriving here. Welcome to the group. There are plenty of good people here to talk to. Most of us have similar experiences in life. It's nice to be able to talk to someone who understands what we're going through.

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