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4 hours ago, Jandi said:
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To my surprise she was not surprised…

This seems to happen a lot.

 

Those close to us see something even when they can't quite put their finger on it.

Yes. I've been out to my sister for over a year so I expected her son would have been told, but no. Told him f-2-f and it went great--it made me feel great. Today I bought a new router and a new shirt but suddenly real insecure about myself—that's a surprise. Glad you're all here to accept my progress even when I can't myself.

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Davie  

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3 hours ago, CD Rachel said:

I just want to become the best possible version of me that I can be and I am glad someone noticed.

 

Love that. One of the most profound questions my therapist asked me was, "What kind of woman is Jackie." 

 

The people in my life have realized that she's a much kinder, happier person too.

 

Hugs!

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5 hours ago, CD Rachel said:

I just want to become the best possible version of me that I can be and I am glad someone noticed.

That's nice to read Rachel.  Hopefully your relationship will continue to grow ( in a modified form).

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4 hours ago, Davie said:

but suddenly real insecure about myself—that's a surprise.

@Davie  But why?  Not the surprise, but the insecurity.  You seem to be well grounded in life and what you want and need from it.  Be sure of yourself!  That's how we see you!

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11 hours ago, CD Rachel said:

So two days later my wife stopped over my house to pick up some more of her things and mentioned that our daughter told her what I did and said. So she says to me "Jae and I both agree that we like Rachel more."  she then told me she still can not understand the whole trans thing but she knows that I am becoming a better person. She then got in her Jeep and drove away. So. Kind of strange but affirming to me that she can see the positive changes occurring in me. I just want to become the best possible version of me that I can be and I am glad someone noticed.

 

Rachel

 

 

So happy for you, Rachel. 

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Good morning 

 

well Major Dickinson has gone on TDY.  And the French have taken his place. Vi Va les French.

 

Quarterly doctors appointments need to leave shortly.

 

I will join in on the kinder better person.  Although I do get frustrated and let go with some expletives.  Frustration and giving me a difficult time are my bugaboos.

 

For the most part my wife goes along with kinder better person
 

well gotta go

 

more later perhaps 

 

Willow

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Hi

 

pretty nice day today.  Drs appointment took an interesting twist.  He asked me how long I’d been on HRT then said we need to think about breast imaging soon.  Why is that special?  My endocrinologist had said we didn’t need to be concerned about that at my age.  
 

After the doctors appointment we went went to the condo and talked to our salesman.  He met me as Willow for the first time.  Anyway, he confirmed that they still expect to get the certificate of occupancy by the end of the week.  Then he said you are number one on the list to close and should be doing your walk through next Monday’s.

 

Willow

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Good morning 

 

sitting here with my coffee.  @Hannah Renee that’s great about the younger woman and the HR. 
 

@Marcie Jensen thank you.  It’s getting hard to wait.  We are very anxious to get off the boat and to be able to move with out having to step over our dog or do a dosey doe to pass.  We’ve been tryin* to spend as much time off the boat as possible lately.

 

I’m not too sure what we’ll do today.

 

I do have to get more documents to our mortgage company.

 

Willow

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11 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

 

Anyway, there were 3 other new hires there, two male, one female. When we got our first restroom break, I was out first, because I was in the front and because I'm old and take every advantage of a restroom break. The other woman - I'm guessing 20-something - was close by and already new, and as we approached the restroom, she - very politely - said, "Here they are. The men's is the next door and this is the ladies'." I responded that I would be using the ladies, but if she was uncomfortable, I would wait. She answered that she was perfectly comfortable, and we went in. Business done, we talked a bit as we walked back to the office, and for a couple more minutes after. She was very sweet, treating our interactions through the day as just normal talk between two girls. 

 

The HR manager called me Hannah when addressing me, and Hannah plus she/her when making reference to me. 'Twas a good day.

 

That's great, @Hannah Renee. Personally, I hate it when I ge4t misgendered, and to have both a co-worker and HR be both accfepting and affirming is really wonderful. Congrats on both the new job and the acceptance.

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That is fantastic news, @Willow. I know you have been waiting too long for this time. I don't envy you moving though. As we are looking to do the same. We are house hunting. Barely anything decent in our approved range. We did put in an offer on one over the weekend. Of course, didn't get it the winner put in a cash offer $20K over asking.  I cannot compete with that.

 

Monday was finally able to get to one of our other stores to do inventory. It was great during lunch break. A group of us were talking. On guy from another store mentioned something about how the oil rack was placed. Our district manager told him that most of the converted Checker stores had that. Mentioning that her store was like that. in turn pointing at me. It felt so great.

 

I still need to figure out a way to politely advise customers that I am a Ma'am/miss not a sir. The flashing neon lights or lapel pin has potential. But to make it obvious it would have to be an impractical size. Then having to lug around a power supply, would stink. LOL.

 

Have a great day.

 

Kymmie 

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2 hours ago, KymmieL said:

I still need to figure out a way to politely advise customers that I am a Ma'am/miss not a sir. The flashing neon lights or lapel pin has potential. But to make it obvious it would have to be an impractical size. Then having to lug around a power supply, would stink. LOL.

 

I work at a library, and we've learned from experience that even the most avid readers still won't read a big honking sign! Your flashing neon idea might be worth a try though!

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8 hours ago, Heather Nicole said:

 

I work at a library, and we've learned from experience that even the most avid readers still won't read a big honking sign! Your flashing neon idea might be worth a try though!

Yeah, we get people all the time pushing on the pull doors.  We had one customer think we were closed. since he could push the door open. Here's your sign.

 

Kymmie

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My son doing great with the changes and has become supportive.I loved his comment lately,said my skin is getting like mom's called softer.My wife is doing great with the changes,says I am a much happier person since I went on the feminizing hormones.

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10 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Yeah, we get people all the time pushing on the pull doors.  We had one customer think we were closed. since he could push the door open. Here's your sign.

 

Kymmie

I get it! Several years ago i was working for Lowe's part time for some extra cash. I had just sold a lady a lockset and she asked if she could install it herself. I told yes, and the only tool she needed was a screwdriver. She act6ually replied "Great! I've got vodka and orange jui8ce at home already." Sadly, she was serious.

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I wake up this morning with an email from Precision Hair removal/Cirene saying they are charging me $500 for having to reschedule my appointment because I got covid.  What the actual -expletive-!

The claim it falls under their 14 day notice rule of any changes.  I told them you can't have it both ways, your require a negative covid test to get the appointment so you can't charge me if it comes up positive. That is utter crap. 

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55 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

I wake up this morning with an email from Precision Hair removal/Cirene saying they are charging me $500 for having to reschedule my appointment because I got covid.  What the actual -expletive-!

The claim it falls under their 14 day notice rule of any changes.  I told them you can't have it both ways, your require a negative covid test to get the appointment so you can't charge me if it comes up positive. That is utter crap. 

"Utter crap" is n understatement! The greed of some folks is mind boggling. Frankly, @Bri2020in your shoes I would not only refuse to pay, but would find a new provider. Jesus Christ on a pogo stick, this is outrageous.

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Has anyone used Electrolysis 100 over in Arlington Heights IL for large volume clearing?

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1 hour ago, Marcie Jensen said:

the only tool she needed was a screwdriver. She act6ually replied "Great! I've got vodka and orange jui8ce at home already."

Ya gotta go with what works for you.

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1 hour ago, Bri2020 said:

I wake up this morning with an email from Precision Hair removal/Cirene saying they are charging me $500 for having to reschedule my appointment because I got covid.  What the actual -expletive-!

The claim it falls under their 14 day notice rule of any changes.  I told them you can't have it both ways, your require a negative covid test to get the appointment so you can't charge me if it comes up positive. That is utter crap. 

That's F___ing brutal. I suppose they can get away with it. They literally have you by the short hairs. I had a hell of a time finding anyone who would do genital clearing electrolysis. I go to the Chicago branch. It's 110 miles from my house. Thank goodness I'm almost done.

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Hello everyone, I hope that everything is going well.

 

So I have been having a difficult time making a decision about going down to New Hope PA for the Pride Fest. Today I booked my room for Friday and Saturday nights. I plan on going to the parade on Saturday morning and then attending the Pride Fair from 1 to 4PM. This will include live music and vendors. I then plan on grabbing some dinner.... not sure where then back to my hotel to shower and head out to a dance party at the New Hope Clarion because THIS girl loves to PARTY!!! I plan on driving down and back as Rachel as well so I am just hyper excited!!!

 

I was teetering back and forth on going because I really did not want to go alone. But I decided that I can either be alone at home or be alone there in New Hope. The only place that I had a chance of meeting people and maybe making new friends was to go to New Hope. So here is to a new hope of making friends! (See what I did there?)

 

So have a great weekend everyone and I will check in this weekend from New Hope...

 

Rachel

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Good Afternoon 

 

@KymmieL Sorry you got beat out for the house.  I know it happens frequently.  Actually I’ve had two homes go to bidding wars.  Thanks For the comment about getting into our condo finally.  

Its nice to find people that respect us.  Things are going pretty good for me right now.

 

@Bri2020 that’s ridiculous.  Do you pay $500 for the session?

 

@CD Rachel I hope you meet lots of good people in New Hope.  And if not its a very quaint place to visit.  Lots of very old restored homes.  I almost always drive trips fully dressed.  I haven’t had any issues.  It is just right and normal.

 

I answered a friends post in our secret group and now she wants to talk to me after our next meeting.  Bit of a surprise.

 

we did laundry today. I wound up having a conversation with another woman that was at the laundry.  nothing but nice conversation.

 

Well dinner is getting cold.

 

Until I drink my coffee

 

Willow

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Hey everyone. I don't even know how long it's been since I was here last. Might only have been a couple days but feels like weeks.

 

Today I was able to get my second letter for top surgery so I think that gets me on the surgery list but they may want to wait until after I have a mammogram. I do have one scheduled but it's not until the middle of July so that would potentially put surgery somewhere at the beginning of next year. Whatever, it'll happen when it's supposed to happen. I do find it interesting that neither my GF or the rest of my queer family really care what size I'm going with. None of them have even asked BTW. They love me no matter what and just want me to be happy with myself. GF did however make a statement. She said if go big I will probably have back problems but instead of making it a warning about size and why NOT to do it, she said she'd get me a back brace and if I ever wanted to go bigger she would pay for them.

 

I've also started to come to terms with some deeply rooted abandonment issues that were apparently pushed over the edge with the passing of my wife. Again my new "family" all said they are here and will fight for me. Part of me wants to be skeptical but overall I don't really have anything to lose by trusting them. I also have my therapist working with me on it.

 

House cleaning is starting to pick up. I have a lot of stuff I just don't need or want, so much stuff, so many painful memories. My garbage was picked up this morning and I've already filled it again. I'm starting to stage stuff in the garage so I can make some real headway in the house. I'm giving myself until the end of July to at least get everything I don't want in the garage. In the end I'll probably need a dumpster and a crew of people to help unload the house. Thankfully I know a group and they're very accepting and totally non judgemental.

 

At this point, I've pretty much stopped going to my Pride meetings. I don't get a good vibe from the group. A couple of them..yes but honestly, I don't have a whole lot in common with the guys there not even the transguy. I even had the host of the group get upset with me for not RSVPing. If I can't make it I'm not going to RSVP but he feels I should so other people will think there will be more people going then really are.

 

Have a great night everyone ❤️

 

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Ugh!  It’s 1am.  I woke up hot at midnight.  Came out to the salon and turned the ac on.  That lasted about 15 minutes then it tripped the circuit breaker.  Very bad time to have AC issues.  It was 94 yesterday and is expected to hit 98 today.  I know exactly what happened, but I n Ed daylight to fix it.  The water intake for the condenser clogs up and the ac over heats.  I also know the breaker is 15 amp but it needs a 20. It’s not like you can run to Home Depot and get a new one.  These are very unique.  I have to shut it down and blow out the waterline.  It’s caused by algae growth on the strainer under the boat. I may try to scrub it off but I really don’t think I can get to it.  If I can’t get it to work, I’ll have to take the dog with us everywhere we go tomorrow including to teen group.

 

@Elizabeth Star I am so happy for you that you have found a loving, non-judge mental “family”.  As for your pride group leader wanting you to rsvp to inflate the attendance, that’s just wrong.  RSVP simply means “please reply” it doesn’t mean you are going, you could rsvp you aren’t going.  Lots of Americans miss use the French because they don’t really understand French.

 

good luck with the top surgery appointment.  And really, don’t get carried away.  My wife has complained for years that they strain her back.  She is a natural DD to an E.  Go with what looks good to you.

 

Willow

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well its 48 here  and got up at 3 am.   have the wood stove going little cool.

I have good news i met my daughter last sat . i have not seen in a very time and i told her about me being  transgender she is ok  with me and coming over to my house and have lunch. so awesome granddaughter and son in law are coming over to.it is so nice to have the ones you love accept you for who you are.

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