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6 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

then one of them said something about legs. Then the other adult one said, "She's got legs." The word "legs" drawn out for emphasis.

The best complements are those we weren't intended to heat!  What a lovely experience!

 

 

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Saw my Endo for 6 mo. checkup and although I am on the minimum starter dose, my E levels are really good, so that I may actually be in the danger zone if she increases it. Still waiting on the blood. It's mostly about getting my T down. But it's very possible I may stay on the starting dosage and just is a question of time to see things develop. She brought up any thoughts I had on GCS, and I might want to think more on that while I still have this job with decent insurance.

Did a photo shoot for an NB friend and their trans visibility project focusing on trans diversity. They made me feel like a supermodel! Can't share photos until the gallery show in November tho.

My current situation with my woman friend is continuing to get nicer. I went through brief times of doubt and fear. We used to hang out once a week and maybe text or talk here and there but last date we went to a nice restaurant in my neighborhood and had a great talk with great food and now when the date ends, she is suggesting we get together again on my next day off.

We are planning on doing an old fashioned July 4th with fair food and Sno Cones and fireworks after. There may even be another kind of fireworks happening, but I am ok with leaving it totally up to Goddess on where it is going.

 

 

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Good morning, dear ones. I deeply sympathize with those who suffer from loneliness or isolation. I used to believe that I was the loneliest person in the world - such is loneliness. Mercifully, my life and circumstances have changed dramatically, especially in the last 10 or so years - my deepest desire was/is always to feel loved & it became my life's mission to determine if this could be realized. Although I now have a multitude of close relationships, I think that lonely & unlovable mindset is ingrained, like a bad habit - I'm often incredulous that this person or that is fond of me or even admires me. It's something I have to actively challenge in order to enjoy greater freedom of heart and mind. At any rate, to anyone who needs to hear it, I LOVE YOU. I may not know you irl, but I know that you feel the same things I do, and that is enough common ground for me to feel that for you. 

 

 

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1 hour ago, stveee said:

Saw my Endo for 6 mo. checkup and although I am on the minimum starter dose, my E levels are really good, so that I may actually be in the danger zone if she increases it. Still waiting on the blood. It's mostly about getting my T down. But it's very possible I may stay on the starting dosage and just is a question of time to see things develop. She brought up any thoughts I had on GCS, and I might want to think more on that while I still have this job with decent insurance.

Did a photo shoot for an NB friend and their trans visibility project focusing on trans diversity. They made me feel like a supermodel! Can't share photos until the gallery show in November tho.

My current situation with my woman friend is continuing to get nicer. I went through brief times of doubt and fear. We used to hang out once a week and maybe text or talk here and there but last date we went to a nice restaurant in my neighborhood and had a great talk with great food and now when the date ends, she is suggesting we get together again on my next day off.

We are planning on doing an old fashioned July 4th with fair food and Sno Cones and fireworks after. There may even be another kind of fireworks happening, but I am ok with leaving it totally up to Goddess on where it is going.

 

 

Stveee, it sounds like you are having some great times.  I know about the E and the T battle. My E levels are finally getting up. Then I am on 3 patches. and spiro in the morn and before I hit the hay. Having any type of surgery is a BIG decision one that only you can decided. Being that the VA is in the process of writing the standards. It is a matter of time until they offer it. Maybe I could sign up to be the first Veteran who receives surgery provided by the VA.

 

Stveee the supermodel, Just don't forget your friends here. When you become rich and famous. Looking forward to seeing the pictures.

Have fun on your old fashion 4th of July.Sounds like fun.

 

Kymmie

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Good morning guys and gals, and whom ever is reading this. a cat or dog or the squirrel in the next tree. LOL.

 

Well the old fencometer is showing 70 in direct sunlight. Headed for a forecast high of 79. Been nice the last few days. Had a nice rain on Monday. We actually need some more. But I'll take the warm weather.

 

Still no word on if the current owners of the house we are looking to buy. Have found anything, they are looking to move to Alabama. Cannot wait for closing so I can tell my current gov ran landlord where to stick it. I've paid them too much over the past 22yrs. 

 

We had our youngest grandson for a few hours on Sat. It was great just having him here.

 

I recently realized that my granddaughter has never been to our house, seen where her dad grew up. I don't think she has ever been to Wyoming. I truly believe that my son is embarrassed to visit us. We live in subsidized housing. I think it is mostly my daughter in law. She is totally influencing my son. But that is all on them. As long as I can see my grandson and granddaughter they can think anything they want. 

 

Well everyone have a great day, it is my Friday.

 

Hugs to all.

Kymmie 

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Good morning, I hope all is well with everyone.

 

So my sister just called in a favor and I'm about call out of work and drive 4 hours to go pick her up, drive back with her, put her and her two dogs up (along with mine) over night and the dogs till Monday, in my 400sf apartment.  All this so that she can visit her new girlfriend AND NOT ME!  I kid, I really don't mind as life has been kicking her ass and she needs this and I'm glad to help. 

 

That said, I have like 2 hours to turn a girls home into something that isn't going to raise 11,000 eyebrows.  I've always lived in what could only be described as spartan decor and furnishings but since my egg cracked I've gone full Martha Stewart.  It looks like six Disney princesses their evil step mothers and Harley Quinn had their run or the place and I'm not sure I have the time to deal or even the space to hide things.  Real talk...  I'm panicking a little.

 

No one but me is ever in my home... ever. I just started collecting the things I used to see and think "I'd totally get that if I were a girl".  I never considered that decorating could become an issue but here we are. 

 

Okay, I'm off to frantically do...   something. 

 

Much luv

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45 minutes ago, Vidanjali said:

Good morning, dear ones. I deeply sympathize with those who suffer from loneliness or isolation. I used to believe that I was the loneliest person in the world - such is loneliness. Mercifully, my life and circumstances have changed dramatically, especially in the last 10 or so years - my deepest desire was/is always to feel loved & it became my life's mission to determine if this could be realized. Although I now have a multitude of close relationships, I think that lonely & unlovable mindset is ingrained, like a bad habit - I'm often incredulous that this person or that is fond of me or even admires me. It's something I have to actively challenge in order to enjoy greater freedom of heart and mind. At any rate, to anyone who needs to hear it, I LOVE YOU. I may not know you irl, but I know that you feel the same things I do, and that is enough common ground for me to feel that for you. 

 

 

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2 hours ago, Ticket For Epic said:

It looks like six Disney princesses their evil step mothers and Harley Quinn had their run or the place and I'm not sure I have the time to deal or even the space to hide things.

 

OK, two things: One, I want to see what that looks like in absolutely the WORST way. Two... why? Let her see it. Decorating your living space is one of the truest expressions of self there is. Let her meet her sister.

 

Hugs!

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On 6/27/2022 at 10:13 AM, Ticket For Epic said:

Yeah, my sister is my closest and dearest friend, a queer woman that married a trans man (recently separated), who could be easier to come out to?!!?

 

Well, I don't think she is the ally she thinks she is.   We have on several occasions had heated debates over the non-binary community and pronouns. Just yesterday we were talking about sexuality and she said "I think I'm a little bit bi."  to which I responded "You married a man." and the reply I got was "but...  well he's a trans man" I reiterated "yes, he's a man" then she rolled her eyes dismissively and moved on.  

 

Anyway, that's just one example, there are more.

Sorry for the copy and paste but I'm pressed for time.  But in a nutshell...  abject terror.

26 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

why? Let her see it. Decorating your living space is one of the truest expressions of self there is. Let her meet her sister.

 

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1 minute ago, Ticket For Epic said:

Sorry for the copy and paste but I'm pressed for time.  But in a nutshell...  abject terror.

 

So I ABSOLUTELY got the wrong idea when you said "girlfriend?"

 

Even so, she likes you. You're family that she accepts. She knows that you're a good person. Eventually, you're either going to come out of the closet to her. I get that you're scared. It could be a big deal.

 

On the other hand, what if it's not? At least think about it. If now isn't the right time, that's fine, but it could also be an opportunity.

 

Hugs!

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5 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

OK, two things: One, I want to see what that looks like in absolutely the WORST way. Two... why? Let her see it. Decorating your living space is one of the truest expressions of self there is. Let her meet her sister.

 

Hugs!

Amen!

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Hi

 

Another trip to Charleston today.  My wife had two appointments.  One for DNA testing study.  The results are supposed to tell her her risk of heart problems, diabetes and cancer, and she gets ancestry like information.  Then she had an urologist appointment later in the day.  It rained, hard at times most of the day.  
 

@Ticket For Epic I know how traumatic it can be to let out your deep dark secret.  But I agree with @Jackie C.  and others.  What better time or better person to share with.  Obviously, your sister came out to you time to bite the bullet and pay it back.  I also agree with leaving your home as it is.  What better way to start the conversation.  Surely she will be curious about your decorations and that could spurs you on to tell her all about yourself.

 

I guess I missed something, Kymmie mentioned surgery.  Everyone has there own ideas and decisions to make.  My friend went all the way, and another is headed that way now.  I had minimal surgery to help with E levels and eliminate using a drug that has a reputation for causing problems with long term use.  I’m happy with my decision and I know my friends are happy with theirs.  No one should push you in any direction..  that’s a very personal decision and once done, it’s done.

 

Tomorrow I need to get some more boxes and furniture moved in and make a trip to the boat.  It needs some attention because of the rain and I need to get a few more things off the boat and bring them here.

 

Willow

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Good morning everyone

 

Coffee is hot and strong ,

wow wow wow ,, looks like i will have to endure even more lonely, the one person i did have to talk with  (my sister)

told me yesterday she has stage 4 cancer,,,god give me a break ,,, thought i would not have to relive this again so soon

lost my past wife this way a few years ago , it broke me ,,, it dose feel like my world is crumbling one chunk at a time ,,

 

how crushed can ones sole and heart be till there is just nothing left

A friend , a hug , a shoulder to cry on,,,, yes i could use that, at a moment like this

 

   sorry im a downer just trying to grasp this once again ,,,,,

spend your time wisely with your loved ones  you only have what you have till its all gone,,,,,,,,,,,,,

        Just crying

             Betty B

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@Betty_B, I am so sorry to learn of your sister's illness. Cancer is a devastating thing (Lost a grandfather and my mother to cancer. It's awful.  You will be in my prayers, as will your sister. 

 

Hugs. 

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@Betty_B, sorry to hear this.    I've lost 2 sisters and my brother to cancer and ALS.  I'm the only one left now.   It's a weird feeling, and sad.

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@Betty_B I am sorry to hear about your sister.  Cancer is a terrible thing.  I’ve lost several family members to it, father in law, mother in law, sister and the worst of all my granddaughter.  It’s never easy to loose a family member and in your case the last person you felt you had that you could freely talk to.  I’m so sorry.

 

weatherwise it is supposed to be rainy off and on today. I have moving things I need to do.  Coffee hot, black and gone.  No more today!  I do wish caffeine free drinks were more readily available.  I have discovered that caffeine can trigger headaches for me.  Leaves me with water, which is good for you but tasteless, or lemonade.  I don’t care for fountain dispensed lemonade.  And some just put way too much sugar in it.  Yes, I do realize I live in the south where they mix a little bit of tea in the sugar and call it ice tea instead of sugar.

 

we stopped at a local farmers stand yesterday.  I picked out a ready to eat cantaloupe.  Boy is it good.  Locally grown so it isn’t picked green is always the best.

 

except that it is 4th of July weekend and boating will be ridiculous I wouldn’t mind taking the boat off shore for some sailing.  The predicted weather is for moderate wind and 5 foot waves.  My boat handles 5 foot waves like a Cadillac. When they are on open water.  But I’m not going out on the river to get to the ocean with all the revollers and drunks that will be ignoring the rules for of the water.  Coast Guard and SCDNR will be out to try to stop them but someone will get killed.

 

well I guess I should get ready for my day.  
 

until later

 

Willow

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3 hours ago, Betty_B said:

Good morning everyone

 

Coffee is hot and strong ,

wow wow wow ,, looks like i will have to endure even more lonely, the one person i did have to talk with  (my sister)

told me yesterday she has stage 4 cancer,,,god give me a break ,,, thought i would not have to relive this again so soon

lost my past wife this way a few years ago , it broke me ,,, it dose feel like my world is crumbling one chunk at a time ,,

 

how crushed can ones sole and heart be till there is just nothing left

A friend , a hug , a shoulder to cry on,,,, yes i could use that, at a moment like this

 

   sorry im a downer just trying to grasp this once again ,,,,,

spend your time wisely with your loved ones  you only have what you have till its all gone,,,,,,,,,,,,,

        Just crying

             Betty B

🤗lost my mom to cancer and just had prostate cancer myself.

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28 minutes ago, Willow said:

But I’m not going out on the river to get to the ocean with all the revollers and drunks that will be ignoring the rules for of the water.

I try to get off the lake when the jet-skis come out.

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Good morning!

 

I'm currently at work and freezing my tail off LOL. AC is maxed out in the office building. Thankfully I have a blanket with me. :)

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23 hours ago, Vidanjali said:

At any rate, to anyone who needs to hear it, I LOVE YOU. I may not know you irl, but I know that you feel the same things I do, and that is enough common ground for me to feel that for you. 

Vidanjali,

 

It is real love of like people, that is so important. I have an empathetic heart/soul that allows me to love people of all walks of life. I do have a close feeling with people who I've only known through correspondence, such as this wonderful place we know as TransgenderPulse.com 

 

I believe when someone takes the time to write or video respond to your specific situation, there is a connection of compassion. We don't have to meet in real life to develop a bond. The problem with an open empathetic heart is that hateful words and messages hurt deeply too.

 

Many of us share digital hugs on this forum, and I contend digital HUGS are still from the heart.

 

You are valued, worthy, and loved,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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23 hours ago, Ticket For Epic said:

I have like 2 hours to turn a girls home into something that isn't going to raise 11,000 eyebrows.  I've always lived in what could only be described as spartan decor and furnishings but since my egg cracked I've gone full Martha Stewart. 

I wouldn't purge or hide to much, this may be the opening of more than your egg. This could be the beginning of your new sisterhood. Martha Stewart Living was always projected to me as gender neutral.

 

Since I'm 23 hours late in responding to this, I hope you're doing well.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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@Betty_B sorry to hear about your sisters diagnosis. Cancer is a hard thing. My father in law has lung, kidney and spine cancer.  I know that it is weighing on my wife. She hasn't said it but I can tell. With my wife's denial of getting common tests done. She could have it too. I guess I'll never know until it is too late.

 

About 58 on the fencometer. overcast and gloomy. I hope it clears up. I need to get the driver window fixed on our 2 door crown vic.

 

I guess it is going to be a coffee and relax day. May even do some work on a model project I haven't touched in a month.

 

Hugs

 

Kymmie

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5 hours ago, Betty_B said:

spend your time wisely with your loved ones  you only have what you have till its all gone,,,,,,,,,,,,,

        Just crying

             Betty B

Betty B,

 

I so sorry to here about your sister, and know you will be there for her as she battles cancer.

Having a physical shoulder to hug and cry on, is so important. You will be that shoulder for her. Although we are in the digital world here, you will always have a place to vent, cry, and be loved.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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