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Gooooooodd Eeeevvveeennning  Well last couple days have been totally exhausting for me. Kind of a debacle, did our walk through. then went to closing. after we closed we came back to our new house. to make a long story short, we had to sign the papers twice. Finally getting to moving. I burnt myself out, tried to sleep at the new house. I went back to the apartment and got a shower and a slightly decent nights sleep. Work up to the wife packing. Came back to the house, got breakfast. Our middle son saved the day and helped get a majority of the heave stuff loaded, and moved. 

 

So right now my wife is grabbing the groceries from the apartment. I have gotten a shower at our new house. and relaxing. Our bed isn't here but our mattress is.

 

I am still fried out. but still have to do more moving tomorrow.

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@CD Rachel

Happy you were called Rachel.  And that your dysphoria was acknowledged.

 

a little respect goes a long way with me.

 

 

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I'm struggling bad today. I knew I was going to have to quit vaping for surgery but what I didn't know was how soon or fast. I quit cold-turkey on Wednesday. No patches, no gum, nothing. I'm going for my pre-op physical this Friday, I was told they will be testing for nicotine. Just thought I'd have a little more time, oh well.

 

 

 

 

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23 hours ago, CD Rachel said:

 

Be safe everyone, I pray that we all find love and acceptance.

Rachel,

 

Those little things that show we're being accepted for who we are. Are so important to our progress forward in transition. HUGS💖

 

Today's coffee is HOT, black and strong.:coffee: The weather is tolerable low 80s with a low humidity level.

 

Adding onto Rachel's closing, Best wishes, stay motivated, and safe.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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44 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I'm struggling bad today. I knew I was going to have to quit vaping for surgery but what I didn't know was how soon or fast. I quit cold-turkey on Wednesday.

Good luck with this.  It will be worth it in the long run.

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44 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

Just thought I'd have a little more time, oh well.

Lizzy,

 

I never smoked nicotine, so understanding the addiction is anecdotal for me. My wife quit smoking cigarettes two different times. Her thoughts on quitting is: You have to want to do it for yourself, and no one else. Once you've quit, you'll still enjoy being around others who smoke. Kind of a second hand or contact high type of thing. Even if you've quite for years, picking up that next cigarette will start the addiction all over again. That's why she says she quit cold turkey two time.

 

So I wish you the best as you move through your next procedure.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋 

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9 minutes ago, Mmindy said:

Even if you've quite for years, picking up that next cigarette will start the addiction all over again.

I've heard this.  But it is not that way for me.  I quit years ago, but have tried one on occasion.  Now days they only make me feel sick.

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Word of the day “Folgersfobia”

 

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Had a blast today. I decided to push myself and head into DC for a gay coffee meetup at a queer coffee shop and bar in SE DC.

I was getting a little pissy when I got close to the destination because I HATE driving into the city but once I found a parking space about 4 blocks away and started the walk to my meetup I got so joyful. That who area is queer central and I had no idea. Shop after shop after shop was LGBTQ+ focused.  When I got to the coffee shop I was a little worried because there were only older white gay men in the group. I decided to stick it out though.  As I sat there more women showed up but as I looked around I realized I haven't been around this many queer folk except for pride events.  The place was pack! I went out to the sidewalk patio and just about everyone walking around the city was queer.  I felt so home!  I would never want to live in the city but man, I wish we could have a scene like this closer to where I lived.    As I walked down the street on the way out I noticed people were checking me out periodically.  If I were anywhere else I would have been a little self conscious but I realized it was because I looked good lol.  I had on a beautiful sundress with a big wide brim hat and had done my makeup and hair. Most people were dressed much more casually. There was even a small bookstore that only sold queer authors!  If you are ever in DC be sure to drop by As You Are on 8th St SE

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My dreadlocks being 6 years old now,had them done for a new chapter in my life.I love them and not parting ways with them at all

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Made some new friends a birthday party yesterday. I was a little apprehensive about going at first but happy I went. I kinda knew the host from his job but also met his husband. They're both really nice. Met yet another witch, seem like they're everywhere. And also met one of our elected officials, we were inseparable by the end of the night.

 

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21 hours ago, Jandi said:

I've heard this.  But it is not that way for me.

Good morning Jandi,

 

I'm glad you shared your experience with this. I can only go on what my wife has shared.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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Good morning everyone,

 

It's another road trip travel training week. I'll be driving from Indy, to Zachery, LA to teach at the LSP Officers Development Facility. Leaving home with a 20 oz mug of Folgers Black Silk, to be followed up with truck-stop, and hotel coffee until I return home on Saturday.

 

@Elizabeth StarI'm so glad you're expanding your circle of friends, and now an elected official too.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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Good morning everyone.

 

A bit stressed out right now because the electric bill is due on the 10th...and I get paid after the 10th. Most of my last paycheck went toward groceries and the mortgage, so I'm hoping my husband will ever so kindly pay what's left over of the electric bill. We can't really afford to have the power be cut off...as he's diabetic and needs to keep his insulin refrigerated.

 

Before anyone asks, I pay more on bills because I get paid more at my job than he does. But alas, I'm not made of money. The bills are getting higher each month. I need some help. I just hope he's willing to pitch in.

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It's now August...u know what I'm thinking, soon we will be hearing about Back To School then when that happens...it's the end of summer. Which means getting a fall/winter wardrobe together, just as I got a summer one assembled.

Last fall I was still dysphoric and boyish, just beginning my journey and had no girl clothes. This year I will finally have long hair and girl clothes even though I have to wear coats and boots I can feel like myself. I actually put off electrolysis since it was my first summer out and I wanted to feel free at last and not worry about growing facial hair for awhile. 

All this line of thinking is still in the vibe of "making up for lost time" that I assume could be common with transing mid-life and since I've been out, I have been really out of the house, I guess I will balance eventually. These first-year experiences of getting through social and legal transition, and being occupied with that. Now I can think about other life stuff I want to do. 

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Well I am not doing much moving today. I am doing stuff at the house. Getting the dryer cord changed. plan on spraying the lawns with weed and feed.

 

Still it is so surreal its not funny.  still cannot believe that finally after all these years, and a few tries. We are finally in our own home.

 

Kymmie

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🤩OMG SUICIDE SOUNDS SO GREAT EE😜

I wish I were legally allowed to drink alcohol. 😎
…or commit mass genocide. 🥰
Either of those things would help me a ton right now! 😊

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@WillowA113 Hey, if you need a someone to talk to let one of us know. We will help out when we can.

 

Hugs,

 

Kymmie

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Well I hope the defecation doesn't hit the rotary oscillator today. With my son and wife finishing off packing a moving the last of the crap at our old apartment. I wasn't able to get my boobs moved. plus a couple personal items. OH, well I can take it. I am a big girl.

 

Thankfully I was able to get my wig moved. I have it up on ebay, at over half of what it cost.

 

Kymmie

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10 minutes ago, KymmieL said:

@WillowA113 Hey, if you need a someone to talk to let one of us know. We will help out when we can.

 

Hugs,

 

Kymmie

Thanks, I dont suppose you’re okay with texting? 

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3 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Well I am not doing much moving today. I am doing stuff at the house. Getting the dryer cord changed. plan on spraying the lawns with weed and feed.

 

Still it is so surreal its not funny.  still cannot believe that finally after all these years, and a few tries. We are finally in our own home.

 

Kymmie

reality will truly hit when you write your first mortgage check to the bank and you realize you are paying off YOUR mortgage instead of someone else's! Congrats

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1 hour ago, WillowA113 said:

Someone who’s pagan could be easier to talk to but anyone’s nice 

dial 988 please. 

Hugs

You are loved, you may not see it but it's true

 

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10 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

dial 988 please. 

Hugs

You are loved, you may not see it but it's true

 

They wont understand 

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