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1 hour ago, Jandi said:

I think I would like to go in this direction.   I realized awhile back that one could love more than one person at the same time.  But it's really just a thought since I'm not in even one relationship, and can't see any in the future either.  

Oh well…

 

I am pretty much of the same mind.

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It would just be nice for 6 people to want to be a true friend. Oh, well the world keeps turning.

 

Finally a day off alone where I am not under pressure to get things unpacked. After a shower, I'm dressing in something comfy and maybe work on getting my hobby desk organized. May work on the custom bags for the bike. May run to the hardware store and pick up some shelving brackets to get some more storage in the garage. Maybe I'll see about picking up a ladder and putting up the new lights for the front/back door and garage.

 

Or maybe I'll just sit and drink coffee al day and veg.

 

Have a great day everyone.

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

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1 hour ago, JJ Orange said:

Coffee: made, Textbook: open, Mind: fried! 
Waiting for Pumpkin Spice to come back already. I need to get my halloween on! 💀🐛👻

Everyday is Halloween in my world!

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1 minute ago, Ryan said:

Been a while since I've been here, but I'm over 2 months on T! 

I just wanted to add, I also got all my legal documents changed! Just a few more things to get updated! 

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5 minutes ago, Ryan said:

just wanted to add, I also got all my legal documents changed! Just a few more things to get updated! 

That sounds good

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41 days till bottom surgery and I am officially freaked out.  Adding to that, I've developed a case of jock itch for the first time in 2 years. How does that work when they flip everything inside into a moist environment? Of all the things to worry about, now I'm concerned I will be constantly fighting that battle.

I saw back a few pages people were concerned about having a support person.  Check with your doctor/care manager/insurance to see if skill cared is an option for your recovery period. They might be able to arrange for a nursing assistant to be there for you for a couple of days.

Liz I don't know how you manage that many people, sounds exhausting but I am glad your life is on your terms now and you seem to be so much happier than a couple years back.  Wow, a couple years! I've been on this site now for a little over 2 years. 

My life goes into official craziness now.  in 30 days I start to isolate to avoid a positive covid test pre-op.  Between now and then I have a 5 day scuba trip, then my final trip to genital electro in Chicago, back home for 6 days then off to see my daughter in FL for a long weekend.  Somewhere in between all this I have to help a couple get their home ready for market and get that listed/sold.  Yup- officially overwhelmed.  I'm hoping I don't have to deal with any work stuff on the scuba trip, I need the break. I am doing something totally cool for this trip and going on a Blackwater Dive. Basically instead of diving on a reef, you go way out to a place with 600-1000 feet of water at night and jump off the boat. They hang some lights and reflectors off the boat for a reference but you hang out around 50 feet down and away from the lights. All the small critters like cephalopods, shrimps, baby fish/octopus and squid all come up from the deep attracted to the moon. I can't wait to see how it goes and hopefully get good macro photos of luminescent creatures!   Every so often, the open ocean sharks show up like blues, threshers, white tips etc.  If I get any good pics I will post some.

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@Bri202041 days, wow, congratulations. You're not going to forget about us afterwards are you?

 

Managing all those people isn't as hard as it might seem. It's not like I see each one of them every day. At the moment there's only 3 that I see with any regularity. The others, it's mostly we text or talk on messenger. It's the idea of having someone else in your life that cares and will listen that can make all the difference in the world. And I do care. They message me, I message back, immediately. Not hours later.

 

I got the official word on Tuesday to stop taking my HRT meds, That includes my Progesterone and sleep aids (no NSAIDs). I really need my Tylenol PM or NyQuil Z. I literally cannot sleep with out them so I'm back on the Ambien. I took that stuff every night for 15 years and was happy to get away from it at the beginning of the year. Thankfully it's only for a couple of weeks.

 

I got pulled into a meeting with the VP at work again. Something about my skirts being too short. It probably because I started wearing then up around my waist instead down at my hips. But, I found out, despite what my supervisory told me, there is no issue or policy with wearing dresses, skirts and open toed shoes.

 

 

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47 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I got pulled into a meeting with the VP at work again. Something about my skirts being too short. It probably because I started wearing then up around my waist instead down at my hips. But, I found out, despite what my supervisory told me, there is no issue or policy with wearing dresses, skirts and open toed shoes.

 

So they're harassing you in particular? Charming.

 

Sorry to hear about your HRT though, that's going to be miserable in about two weeks. Hopefully you can get back on it soon.

 

As for poly relationships... so long as you're not everybody else's rock. I've got a poly friend who likes to save people. That's great and all, but it makes her a magnet for people that really ought to be working on themselves instead of relying on my friend. I met one of her new girlfriends yesterday and I was not impressed. She can definately do better.

 

10 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

41 days till bottom surgery and I am officially freaked out.  Adding to that, I've developed a case of jock itch for the first time in 2 years. How does that work when they flip everything inside into a moist environment? Of all the things to worry about, now I'm concerned I will be constantly fighting that battle.

 

It will hurt ENTIRELY too much for you to even notice. They're also going to disinfect the heck out of that tissue before they invert. Treat the jock itch though. You don't want an active fungal infection messing up your new gear. We're prone to yeast and bladder infections as it is and dilation is enough of a chore without a yeast infection on top of it. Best advice I got from my surgeon was, "Be in the best shape of your life." You want to be as healthy as possible going in.

 

I also feel like I should make a mushroom collector joke, but I'm much too classy for that.

 

11 hours ago, Ryan said:

I just wanted to add, I also got all my legal documents changed! Just a few more things to get updated! 

 

Congratulations! That's a big milestone! I hope you're loving it as much as I did!

 

Hugs!

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Well got some stuff done yesterday. All three of the lights are up and working great. I was even able to get more of my desk in order. Today I am going to try and find a panel and fuse block for a couple projects. Wish me luck. Will be running up to wally world for some cheap brushes so I can break out the fiberglass and work on the extended bags for the bike.

 

I now know why you see so many woman wearing yoga pants. Wore some yesterday. wow are they comfy. Well check a couple more things and off to my chores.

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

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Good morning 

 

Well, today is turning out to be a good day after all.  My lawyer called yesterday and said I’d been excused from court.  They can’t get ahold of the alleged complainant.  He will apprise me of my next court date or the dismissal which ever occurs.

 

I suppose depending upon how you define it, we all could be poly.  I certainly have multiple close girlfriends.  Some here and others on Facebook but only one in a daily face to face relationship, my wife.

 

@Bri2020 night diving can be very exciting.  You will definitely see critters you don’t see during the day time.  DO NOT shine your light at a barracuda. They are attracted to anything shiny and will come towards the light.  I used to teach diving in a very low visibility quarry.  I’ve done and lead night dives as a a scuba instructor.

 

Willow
 

 

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7 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

@Bri202041 days, wow, congratulations. You're not going to forget about us afterwards are you?

 

Managing all those people isn't as hard as it might seem. It's not like I see each one of them every day. At the moment there's only 3 that I see with any regularity. The others, it's mostly we text or talk on messenger. It's the idea of having someone else in your life that cares and will listen that can make all the difference in the world. And I do care. They message me, I message back, immediately. Not hours later.

 

I got the official word on Tuesday to stop taking my HRT meds, That includes my Progesterone and sleep aids (no NSAIDs). I really need my Tylenol PM or NyQuil Z. I literally cannot sleep with out them so I'm back on the Ambien. I took that stuff every night for 15 years and was happy to get away from it at the beginning of the year. Thankfully it's only for a couple of weeks.

 

I got pulled into a meeting with the VP at work again. Something about my skirts being too short. It probably because I started wearing then up around my waist instead down at my hips. But, I found out, despite what my supervisory told me, there is no issue or policy with wearing dresses, skirts and open toed shoes.

 

 

Liz you have to stop your HRT for top surgery? OMG!

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6 hours ago, Willow said:

night diving can be very exciting…  …DO NOT shine your light at a barracuda…

LOL. I first read this as "night driving" - I used to know a girl that drove a barracuda.

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1 hour ago, Jandi said:

LOL. I first read this as "night driving" - I used to know a girl that drove a barracuda.

thats a good one

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22 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

So they're harassing you in particular? Charming.

 

Sorry to hear about your HRT though, that's going to be miserable in about two weeks. Hopefully you can get back on it soon.

 

As for poly relationships... so long as you're not everybody else's rock. I've got a poly friend who likes to save people. That's great and all, but it makes her a magnet for people that really ought to be working on themselves instead of relying on my friend. I met one of her new girlfriends yesterday and I was not impressed. She can definately do better.

 

Apparently the complaint was why I can wear them and others cannot?

*Because I know how to wear them and have the right attitude.*

And the high-neck tank I was wearing was showing too much shoulder but the sleeveless dress I wore the day before did not. It's a very fine line.  The shoulder on the high-neck tank are 2in wide but hug my neck, the dress they're 1-3/4in wide but out a lot further. So, it's not so much about the actual width as it is about the placement. this is why I was confused.

 

Ugh, I'm already miserable. I'd get back on it as soon as I get home but I don't trust myself with needles with under the influence of anesthetic.

 

From what I can tell most of my partners have they're stuff together and are looking for the same in their partners. I will help but will NOT be that rock. I did that for way too long. One of the things I tell everyone up front is that they must be making a effort to better themselves in one way or another. "Cause I am NOT going through that again.

 

11 days.....

 

 

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I did a Zoom presentation last night to a group of women astrophotographers.  I was a bit nervous that my voice would out me, but if it did, no one commented on it.  It was fun.  I was well-prepared and knew what points I wanted to cover, so it went smoothly.  I had some nice feedback afterwards that I told them exactly the kind of stuff they needed to hear.

 

I am not "stealth".  Being outed by my voice is not a disaster, just annoying.  I just don't like my being trans to be a factor when the subject under discussion is something else like photography.

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1 hour ago, Elizabeth Star said:

From what I can tell most of my partners have they're stuff together and are looking for the same in their partners. I will help but will NOT be that rock. I did that for way too long. One of the things I tell everyone up front is that they must be making a effort to better themselves in one way or another. "Cause I am NOT going through that again.

 

I LOVE that for you. It's exhausting to have to drag your partner along with you while you're trying to move forward.

 

The place I worked before this had a rule that the straps had to be one hand-width. That absolutely wasn't happening so I just wore t-shirts. They also had a rule about skirts without leggings. Both made sense, but most of the time, I just wore jeans and a t-shirt with a flannel shirt on top of that for safety reasons. A tough/loose outer-layer that you can slip out of could save you from injury. I'm surprised most of my co-workers weren't so careful.

Now my uniform is plain black tights with a plain black racerback tank-top. A little boring, but functional and I can show my shoulders off.

 

Hugs!

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Morning, everyone! Friday yet again, somehow successfully survived my first week back to school. The first 3 days were frustrating! So many obstacles that limited my time to plan out the week/semester but now it is more calmed down. I hope that by this time next week, I would say that I am more in the zone. Wish me luck! 💀☕

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OK, so it happened, everything finally caught up with me. I woke up this feeling a little off. I don't if my Matrix didn't load right or maybe my surrogate's broken but something.....

 

By 10am I was little Miss Fumblelina and could barely function. My supervisor called it and told me to go home. *We had been extremely short handed for the last two weeks. I was carrying the department more-or-less by myself and It finally caught up with me*

 

Go home? Sure,  no problem...oh wait, there's no one there and I really needed me some cuddles. Thankfully, one of my 'local' partner doesn't start work until 8pm so I stopped over and cuddled with her. It was the best nap I had in a long, long time.

 

I have another friend on her way over. Sounds like she needs to get away from her family for the night. She says we're not girlfriends but..... This meme will explain.

 

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Today was a morning I got up for work and looked in the mirror and had a bit of a shock seeing myself as it seems like the upped Spiro dosage is helping. Now that my hair is long and my face countours are showing and my skin has that glow. 

As far as relationships, I have to remember I really didn't have an ability to have an authentic partnership with anyone until now and to be patient with the emotional peaks and valleys. I have become aware some of my behavior tends toward codependancy. The first time I was introduced to the idea was when my sister was in early recovery and she was reading a book called "Women Who Love Too Much" IIRC. So I know the past abandonment and trauma is playing a part in my perceptions, almost like PTSD, where you are always on guard for perceived threats.

My relationship has had some inadvertent distancing past few weeks but it has been good in practicing being OK and loving myself despite whatever circumstances. To have good self esteem I need to have a sense of self respect, too.

 

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It’s 9 o’clock on a Saturday…(yes I sometimes borrow song lyrics)

 

Hi

 

yesterday was interesting in a way.  We had prescriptions to pick up.  Our insurance has a preferred pharmacy chain, CVS.  And since we moved we have been going to a different one.  I was picking up and the pharmacist comes out from behind the work area and fumbles a little but comes out and asks me, what is my preferred name and pronouns.  Now I realize if anyone knows the pharmacist does since I get HRT medications that would not be prescribed to a cis male, I dress female, but my records all say male.  I told her my name and she/her.  She thanked me and said she would update my records.  They wanted to treat me with respect etc.  I told her the assistant always treated me with respect and I appreciate that they do.  I was really pleased about that AND they made certain no one else was within earshot!

 

@Jandi I can see how your mind would read night driving instead of night DIVING.  I’m surprised auto correct didn’t change it.  
 

@JJ Orange good luck with your studies.  Glad you are gettIng settled back into the routine.

 

well I’m hoping to get one last push today to get my boat ready for pictures. And get it up for sale.  I’ve got the tools I’ll need with me to make it happen.

 

Willow

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