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I'm hopeless at keeping a remotely early schedule, always have been, so personally, I'd absolutely love going "daylight savings"-only. I'd end up seeing more daylight and sleeping through less of it that way. But @Willow, you makes a good point too, it would be nice to have a more consistent time system across the globe. Either way, I just want to stop changing the time twice a year.

 

@Ivy Congrats, Ivy!! 🎉🎉

 

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2 hours ago, Willow said:

I can tell you it gets very confusing when some countries change while others don’t or Southern Hemisphere countries switch opposite directions and there is a two hour change.

 

I participate regularly on a Zoom meeting which has people from Australia as well as from North America.  The majority are from the US, so it is scheduled according to the Central time zone, but the poor Aussies have to switch their times twice each season.  They started at 11:00 am all of our summer, their winter.  Now that we are off DST, they start at 12:00 noon.  In a few weeks, they will start at 1:00 pm when they go onto summer time.  They do it all in reverse on our spring, their fall.

 

I'd like to see them switch to standard time all year.  If people want more evening hours, they should work 8-4 instead of 9-5.

 

@Ivy, congratulations on your name change!

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@Ivy Congratulations!  Leave it to government to take something simple and make it take forever.... Glad that you have the perseverance to get what you want.

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5 hours ago, Ivy said:

I am now officially Ivy!

 

Wonderful news, Ivy!  Nice to be able to affirm your identity in  this important way.

 

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5 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

If people want more evening hours, they should work 8-4 instead of 9-5.

 

I work evenings. Besides, not everyone is a morning person.

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6 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

I'd like to see them switch to standard time all year.  If people want more evening hours, they should work 8-4 instead of 9-5.

@Ivy

If only it was that easy... actually, I can't recall the last time I met someone who worked 9-5, or actually had a choice of work hours unless they were management.  My husband is a senior manager at his company, and he's usually working 6am to 4pm. 

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7 hours ago, awkward-yet-sweet said:

My husband is a senior manager at his company, and he's usually working 6am to 4pm. 

When I worked for Public Works here, our hours changed with the seasons.  When I retired, we were working 4, 10 hour days each week.

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33 minutes ago, Hannah Renee said:

I talked with OPM, the office that oversees federal retirees' annuities, etc. Had to confirm that I had told them about my divorce 2 months ago. I had. I was asked about withholding for income tax. Oops. Forgot about that. Ok, so I got my divorce document to verify whom I get to claim. Instead of married, filing jointly as a family of 6, I'm down to single, as family of 3. So my monthly annuity payment will now be $600+ less. Ouch.

OUCH! I went through something similar a couple years ago with my DoD retirement pay. It wasn't quite as big as a $600 change, but it was bad enough. I'm sorry that OPM did this to you and I empathize. Gotta love the federal government--they're gonna squeeze every last dime they can. 

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A lot of years ago I worked for the federal government, they allowed for closing your schedule as long as it was 80 hours every two weeks.  Most chose a 5-4 schedule with 9 hour days. You got a three day weekend every other week, worked 8 9 hour days and 1 8 hour day and you could chose your start time.  I took public transit so I had to depend on the bus schedule as to my hours.  But I still got off as early as possible.

 

Election Day!  Not a lot of choice here.  Bad choice or worse choice, or no choice!

 

 

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1 hour ago, Hannah Renee said:

In better news, I got to vote for the very first time as Hannah.

Now that's something special! 

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3 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

In better news, I got to vote for the very first time as Hannah.

That’s fantastic Hannah, I’m so happy you’re reaching these mile markers.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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Wife shown me something and was a video of couples like us.Her mom seen it first and knew it was Reminding of us

 

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Good morning brought to you by  Costco coffee dark and bold.

 

yes it is good to see young people who stay together.  Unfortunately I have two young friends who are going through difficult times including divorce with kids involved.  It’s to the point in one case where birth mom has become violent and aggressive because mommy caught her cheating then recorded the “violence” clearly showing mommy only tried to get away, while mom chased, pulled hair and demanded that a phone be given to her.  Then after mom was arrested she went to a different county and filed charges against mommy.  Mean time 3 year old wants mommy and has started having accidents again.  Particularly difficult situation.  Charges were dismissed on mommy but mom keeps asking that dcs postpone hearings on custody.

 

 

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good morning, and many cups of warm soothing coffee to you. 

 

ngl, i havent slept well at all the last few days. since coming out, ive been staying with a dear friend, and going through an intense divorce. here end of Nov, ill have to communicate with the ex again to get my things moved into my new place, and finalize divorce paperwork. im very ready to get this behind me. excited for the new place and some closure. very nervous about having to interact with him again. we'll get through this night. 

 

wishing all the best. to better days ahead. 

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Sorry I haven't been to talkative lately. I've been diagnosed with influenza A. Haven't worked since Sunday, off till next Tues.  Just have been sleeping and drinking water.  I think our youngest has it too.

 

My wife has had a worry also. He father was diagnosed with back, lung and liver cancer in April.  He is currently in the hospital with covid and he has pretty much given up. Last she told me not doing to good.  So, our life has been all peachy.

 

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Kymmie

 

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1 hour ago, KymmieL said:

So, our life has been all peachy.

Sorry to hear things are so hard for you.   

I wish there was a way to fix things.  

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Hello everyone 

 

@KymmieL sorry to hear you have the flu, and sorry to hear your father-in-law is doing so poorly.

 

l’ e been having a terrible time lately with my GERD.  I’m taking my pills as prescribed but if I don’t watch very carefully I’ll end up eating something that triggers it.  
 

our dog had her annual visit with the vet. $250 and four shots later she was pronounced fit as a fiddle.  
 

We are dodging Nichol right now.  We are getting rain from the outer bands and high surf and tide warnings.  Wind no greater than 40 unless we have a tornado.  The center of whatever is left of Nichol is supposed to be west of us tonight.

 

so spending a quiet day at home, keeping dry.

 

Willow

 

 

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