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15 hours ago, awkward-yet-sweet said:

Hopefully it gets cold again. 

Good luck with your fruit trees! Even though we've only got a couple of small vege plots here, I know the frustrating feeling of being unable to time things when the seasons decide to act all ornery. 😒

 

Every summer I look forward to winter, and every winter I look forward to summer, even though our climate is relatively mild overall.

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Another cold day here in the United Kingdom, (well my part of it anyway) fed my cat (Mia) and sammy the squirrel so all are well and fed. Had my first cup of tea and getting ready to meet friends and go for afternoon dinner. Hope you are all having a wonderfull Friday Afternoon, dream positive dreams, think positive thoughts and enjoy the rest of your day

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It's cold here this morning, too. We had sleet, freezing rain and snow yesterday. Ugly. It warmed up above freezing so everything turned to slush. I plowed it off the driveway with our ATV plow but what remained still froze over night. Our driveway is now a luge run and I'm hoping to win a medal for my run down it with our car today. :P

 

Actually, it is supposed to be partly sunny so that should heat the macadam enough to melt the ice. At least I'm hoping that happens.

 

Enjoy this beautiful day we've been given. Be safe and be proud!

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Good morning 

 

Up, dressed and ready to head to Charleston for my appointment.  My wife picked up a cplod so she won’t be going with me.

 

had my coffee, orange juice, pills, (no escape attempts) and a blueberry muffin.

 

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Finding out my legal name and gender change hearing will be on the 18th. I already did do the paperwork last month sending that in. Came in the mail today and cannot wait to see Jackie Lynn and the letter F on my birth certificate

 

This is even more confusing. Being born female, your original birth certificate would already have an F for female on it. Why would you need a gender change hearing to get a birth certificate  that states that you are  female?  That doesn't make any sense.

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I have been wondering if I am getting nervous about being my true self. I remember I think it was maybe 7 years ago. I kept having dreams were I would not be able to start walking without pushing myself off something. I could barely move. Once I finally had the epiphany that I was actually a female.  These types of dreams went away.

 

Over the last few night, these types of dreams have surfaced once again. I cannot move like I normally can, etc.

 

I just wonder if it could be the state of the nation, causing these dreams to start again. My subconscious telling me. 

 

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@KymmieL, I have no doubt that many of you over there are feeling the pressure. Are you able to take the time to go and sit on a mountain or by a lake, connect with nature and just b r e a t h e. 

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I love the great outdoors its a great way to de stress yourself, just listening to the sounds of the wind through the trees to birds singing

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or listening to the tide slowly creeping up the sea shore on a warm summers day, a great way to take your mind to a better place

 

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I’m very proud of myself I made my first Macrame Plant Hanging 

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Well, I'm sitting at the hospital tonight. :(

 

GF and I were beginning to prepare dinner this afternoon, and she started to get chest pain.  She had a heart attack back in 2021, 2 days after giving birth to her last child.  So, if she has chest pain we take it seriously.  Took her to the ER, and she had a "minor" heart attack.  IDK how any heart attack can be called "minor" but that's what the doctors said.  And she's got an obstructed artery.  So she's having surgery this evening to put a stent in. 

 

Girl just won't learn.  She is so stubborn!  She was told years ago that she eats too much junk, drinks too much, that she ought to have an anti-cholesterol medicine, etc.  She's not really overweight, but her arteries are not in good shape, and she's got heart issues.  But will she change her lifestyle? Oh, no, God forbid she actually live to age 40 :mad:

 

I love her, I'm glad she's going to be OK, but I'm also kinda mad at her. 

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@awkward-yet-sweet I’m happy you GF is going to be okay. I’ve never heard or thought I’d ever hear a “Heart Attack” being called minor. You’ve got the right to be upset with her. She should pay more attention to what she’s eating and take better care about herself. Not only could it be worse than it was, doesn’t she understand the negative impact it’ll have on you and her loved ones if it were more serious. I pray this will be an eye opener for her to take better care of herself. I’m happy she’s going to be okay she’s lucky to have you. 
 

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Just now, SilasG said:

I pray this will be an eye opener for her to take better care of herself. I’m happy she’s going to be okay she’s lucky to have you.

 

Ha.  I wish she knew that.  The last time we went through this, she tried to order pizza and beer to the hospital room.  :?  

 

ER doctor on duty this afternoon was listening to her breathing with stethoscope, and saw her bare back.  She's got crisscross scars on her back and arms from her father whipping her with a leather belt when she was a kid.  I've watched doctors' reactions to seeing that several times over the years...they can never hide the shock.   She survived a really cruel environment mostly due to stubbornness.  But what saved her back then is trying to kill her now. 

 

She still isn't out of surgery.  Over 3 hours now.  My husband is napping with one of my partners curled up in his lap.  I'm probably going to stay here with her tonight, so my husband can go home eventually.  Maybe my sister will come here later.

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@awkward-yet-sweet I know where she’s coming from with the stubbornness, I had a similar childhood only I don’t have the physical scars. Mine are mental and emotional scars and trauma. When someone survives traumatic events like that on their own the “Fight or Flight” response usually continues into adulthood because they know that it saved them before and when we’re older don’t realize that yeah we needed that before because we hod no one else around that now we do and can trust that they won’t hurt us. She’s truly lucky to have you and I pray she gets out of surgery and has a full and speedy recovery. 

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I'll be praying for a speedy recovery and lifestyle changes for the better. 

3 hours ago, awkward-yet-sweet said:

She's got crisscross scars on her back and arms from her father whipping her with a leather belt when she was a kid

 

I have my scars across my thighs and buttocks. I have carried them for almost 50 years. I remember one beating lasted from 10 pm till dawn. Then I had to clean up all the blood. My stepmother said, "don't let the school find out or I will get out of jail and kill you."

 

It's a tough life, and it takes lots of strength to survive it without permanent damage. 

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Good morning, everyone!!  Sending good thoughts for all of you @awkward-yet-sweet!

 

Cold and gray here this morning. We had a few inches of snow overnight with a light rain at the end that pit a hard coating on it. That will make it fun to shovel and plow when I go out in an hour or so. It's 27F and breezy right now.

 

I think I need more coffee, first.

 

Be safe and enjoy this day we've been given!!!

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Speedy recovery and lots of positive thoughts going forward, your partner should be aware that she is hurting you too.

another cold none discript day apart from preparing my sunday roast, feeding my cat and sammy the squirrel. I was thinking back to last year on a 30 mile walk and i was half way the journey the push to go on but knowing going back was the same as going forward, but forward and onward we went, some times life can seem like that until we pause and think, well look at what i have achieved and the beauty about to unfold along my journey.

 

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Good Afternoon (or evening)

 

my editor has been messed up so I logged out.  When I logged in my saved login wasn’t right so it took a bit to figure it out.  
 

But I’m back now.

 

Wow the beatings and flogging mentioned!  I don’t even recall being spanked.  But I had a different king of abuse, no love or caring about me.  But I never recognized nor appreciated my freedom.  These days parents get arrested for allowing their children to free range like I was. From a young age I could go anywhere I wanted.  What I never knew was if they knew anything about me like did I have adhd or another thing like that/. Did they know about my dysphoria symptoms?

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7 hours ago, Birdie said:

I have my scars across my thighs and buttocks....

 

Dang, Birdie, I know life could be rough but I had no idea it was so common.  GF is pretty self-conscious about her scars, since she's got so many.  Beating marks on her back and arms, some scars on arms and chest from fighting, and a big one down the middle of her chest from her 2021 surgery.  She gets irritable if I look closely at them...

 

Just now, Willow said:

Wow the beatings and flogging mentioned!  I don’t even recall being spanked.  But I had a different king of abuse, no love or caring about me. 

 

That was my experience... just never had love from my parents even as a kid.  And my older siblings weren't caring toward me either.  So it was just me and my sister always together.  She's less than a year younger than me.  With the exception of a brief relationship she had after high school where she lived with a girl, my sister and I have always lived together.  Partly why GF chose both of us, we're kind of a "package deal." 

 

I've been at the hospital with GF all day, although she has slept for most of it.  She barely woke up after surgery last night, and was her usual "sweet" self.  Nurses wanted her to eat and drink something, and she refused.  I anticipated that, and I had some lemonade from home ready for her.  Her first comment, "You couldn't have put some vodka in it?" :blink:  And I warned the staff not to even consider approaching her with typical hospital stuff like Jello.  She'd likely try to make it stick to the wall. 

 

But mostly she's been quiet.  She woke up to start watching the Superbowl on TV, and I think once that's over she'll go back to sleep.  Anytime she's hurt, she hibernates.  Its likely that she can come home tomorrow, since she's doing well.  The surgery didn't require a big incision, and mostly she's being monitored for blood clots and overall condition.  She's insisting that she can go back to work this week!  Crazy girl.  Possums will sprout wings and fly Transatlantic before I allow that. 

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Good morning

 

well i already know I’m walking into an issue when I go to work soon. Sigh

 

perhaps Mahomes will not boast so much since he lost to a rookie.  Otherwise I would have preferred the Chiefs.

 

@awkward-yet-sweet you mention your sister a lot but I always figured she was another person at the compound, I did not realize she was really your sister.  Wow!  My sister was 5 years older than me and we did not get along as kids.  Later we did right up until she passed away.15 years ago of cancer.  I never gave out living all my family much thought until it happened.  My only full sister, two half sisters and a half brother as well as Aunts, uncles, nephews and nieces and first cousins.

 

well, got to go.  The problem isn’t going to fix itself.

 

 

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Just now, Willow said:

I never gave out living all my family much thought until it happened.

That has happened to me also.  And I was the oldest sibling.

I do still have a few cousins in other states that I haven't seen in years.

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Good morning from another ccccold day here on planet UK home of the English Language, How is your day progressing,

thought i would show the church and the castle, Religion and War

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Good morning from another ccccold day here on planet UK home of the English Language, How is your day progressing,

thought i would show the church and the castle, Religion and War

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Good morning @kat2 be grateful it’s just cold, and you didn’t get 8 inches of snow like I got here in NH. I love the pictures is that a castle? You really have an eye for photography. I feel lucky and grateful that I get to experience your talent.

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Good morning all it’s very cold and we got about 8 inches of snow here in NH this weekend. I have today and tomorrow to myself. The rest of the week is booked with appointments and the continue right through March with the exception of a day here and there. This year is going to be a positive and productive year “ Physically, Mentally, Emotionally and Personally”

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Just now, SilasG said:

I love the pictures is that a castle?

Yes, re the castle we have plenty in Wales and Scotland, the above was a trip last year to Caernarfon Castle in wales, and the abby is Bolton abby 

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