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@Willow& @KymmieL 

 

I’m sorry you had such negative experiences with family. 

 

Like everyone else I can’t wait for this pandemic to be over and in our past. My Suzie got to visit with our daughter and two youngest grandchildren yesterday evening. That’s a break through because our daughter has been deep underground hiding from COVID.

 

 I’m on a road trip to teach for Hilton Head Fire Department this week. 

 

Hugs (masked) 

 

Mindy🐛🌈🦋

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@QuestioningAmber I applaud your efforts and recognizing your own self so well and knowing and DOING - to move beyond your fears and issues and taking control of your own destiny. HUGS.

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Delcina B

We humans are surely social creatures. I agree with Vicky, this COVID isolation affects us all. I see it in my family, sometimes just getting them out for a walk seems to help a bit.

 

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Delcina

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Jamie68

Wow, there must be a full moon. I'm sorry to hear about all the pain recently. I hope it gets better. I've been going through horrible experiences yesterday and the night before myself. Hopefully the nightmare has subsided now. I have an abusive 45 yr old son and his wife and 3 adult children living with us. The night before last my wife was upset with me and called our daughter in law for support. I was on computer in other room. I heard a bunch of noise in the hallway. I went to see. There my wife was almost hysterical and crying. Almost fainting. My son had boxed up a bunch of sex toys that I had hidden above bathroom ceiling and threw it in front of my wife to show her how bad I am. I have been abusive to myself in the past, but since coming out I've stopped all that. I would have beaten the crap out of my son for doing that to my wife, but she blocked me from doing it. My wife had known about a little of what I had but mostly not. I was already going to get rid of that stuff, so I Bagged up everything and threw it away just before garbage truck came the next morning. Later in the morning I had to take my wife to the hospital because of a pancreas flareup brought on by stress I believe. She was already battling this but now it's worse. Later in the day after I got my wife back home and settled into bed, I went to talk to my son and his wife about this. I calmly said to them that we need to talk about what happened the night before. My son immediately blew up and said a lot of vile and hurtful things to me. I told him he owed my wife an apology and yeah, I had problems and I'm getting help. He jumped up and stood right up next to me goading me to hit him so he could call the cops. He said a bunch more vile things to me while his wife was yelling at him to stop. She also said to him, "That's not how it's done." I really hope she wasn't referring to a sinister plan against me. I told them they should move out. My wife came downstairs and pleaded with me to come upstairs with her, which I did. It was a long night with little sleep. When we woke up she asked me to stay away from them for a few days and she will talk to our son then. I reluctantly agreed. I am really concerned about this. My son is a recovering alcoholic who always got violent at a certain stage. When he was younger he threatened to kill my wife and tried to stab me with a knife. I slept with our bedroom door locked and a gun under my pillow for a year. The last time he got violent here, he tried to choke his wife to death. My 24 yr old grandson pulled him off of her and I helped hold him down for a couple hours till he settled down. Later he tried to attack my grandson. My grandson punched him knocking him out, and left him laying on our kitchen floor for about 4 hours. This was a couple years ago. He's been sober since. My son and his wife are both disabled, and cannot afford to live on their own. I actually have to give them $200 a week for their methadone treatments because they got hooked on heroin and spent 2 years in prison because of it. I'm in a tough spot. I know something needs to be done, but my wife won't let it happen. 

 

Sorry about this being so long. I had to tell someone.

 

I will be off the comp. till later. Pray for the nightmare to end please.

 

Jamie

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1 hour ago, Jamie68 said:

Pray for the nightmare to end please.

I'm so sorry.

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Jackie C.
3 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

Pray for the nightmare to end please.

 

Wow. I have no words sweetie. Is there somebody you can call for help? You and your wife shouldn't have to deal with that... at all really, but you especially shouldn't have to deal with that alone.

 

Blessings of the Goddess upon you and your house.

 

Hugs!

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Tasha Marie

@jamie68 So sorry for what you are going through. What we deal with everyday is hard enough, let alone all of this stuff. Be strong I hope things calm down for you. Hugs!

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Tasha Marie

I guess I should proof read what I send I can’t spell anyway, missing words. Opps

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Jackie C.
1 hour ago, Tasha Marie said:

I guess I should proof read what I send I can’t spell anyway, missing words. Opps

 

Really? It looks fine to me.

 

Hugs!

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1 hour ago, Tasha Marie said:

I can’t spell anyway,

You're not alone with this- LOL

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Jackie C.
1 hour ago, Jandi said:

You're not alone with this- LOL

 

That's why we have spell-check. Spell-check is your friend. Also dictionary.com if I'm stumped.

 

Hugs!

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

That's why we have spell-check. Spell-check is your friend.

Sometimes spell-check can't even figure out what I'm saying.  I end up using a thesaurus to look for the word I want… sheesh.

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Jackie C.
1 hour ago, Jandi said:

I end up using a thesaurus to look for the word I want… sheesh.

 

My favorite dinosaur!

 

I own a thesaurus that's older than some of my friends.

 

Hugs!

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Tasha Marie

Heck Most of the time I don’t know what I’m saying anyway LOL

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I've seen some suggestions that this might be a form of dyslexia, which is somewhat common in certain groups.

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Linda Marie

I hate to butt in but it was tax day for me. Have you ever noticed that when they smile at you

and push that dreaded package towards your trembling hands.....YOUR SCREWED......

Well I really wasn't screwed, but I thought a jump scare was in order. 

So my coffee day was actually a pleasant one so far, but gosh the day is not over.

 

 

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2 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

That's why we have spell-check. Spell-check is your friend. Also dictionary.com if I'm stumped.

Jackie, when someone looks at my Google Search History, it's all words I need to spell correctly. I know in many programs just pushing F7 will spell check, but my iPhone and iPad don't have F7.

 

Auto-correct is another issue for me. I sent my wife a text from one of my business trips that read:

 

"Having a great time, wish you were here"

 

She got: "Having a great time, wish you were her"

 

Joking it really didn't happen...

 

@Jamie68 I'm praying for you and wishing for you to see your way through this troubled time.

 

@Linda Marie I own my business, and Taxes are never a good thing for me. Even in retirement I'm still going to be taxed on some income streams.

 

Hugs for y'all,

 

Mindy🐛🌈🦋

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Jackie C.

Oh, autocorrect is my bane. I was talking to my placement agent today for a new job while dilating. We were texting back and forth. I'm texting one handed because, well, I'm dilating. I don't have another hand right now. I'm lucky she didn't think I was having a stroke.

 

Hugs!

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

I'm lucky she didn't think I was having a stroke.

I do okay texting with my right thumb, however with I text with my left thumb, I have a text impediment... I st stt sttutter.

 

Ha! I'll be here all night, Try the meatloaf.

 

Big hook pulls me from the stage.

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Bri2020
1 hour ago, Mmindy said:

 

 

@Linda Marie I own my business, and Taxes are never a good thing for me. Even in retirement I'm still going to be taxed on some income streams.

 

Hugs for y'all,

 

Mindy🐛🌈🦋

Normally I'm in the same boat but with covid shutdowns I lost $174K this year at my clinic- I won't be paying taxes for about 5 years carrying that loss. lol

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1 hour ago, Bri2020 said:

I won't be paying taxes for about 5 years carrying that loss. lol

Wow Bri, that would be a business closing event for us. I’m glad you are staying afloat, and can carry the loss forward. 

 

Hugs,

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Jamie68

Thank you all for your support. My wife just wants me to talk to her only. She has always been a big enabler when it comes to our son. I talked a little bit with my oldest grandson of 27 yrs old who lives in town. That helped some. I've always been quick to temper, but I learned to control it years ago. A person can only stuff so much though. Eventually you have to let it out and deal with it.

 

Jamie

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KathyLauren

Coffee this morning came from one of those pod thingies.  I’ve never used one before; it made decent coffee.  Lest you think I have gone over to the dark side, the machine is in my hotel room.

 

I am in Montreal for a revision consultation with Dr. Brassard, later today.  I hope he can give me some hope for dealing with the ongoing pain and pressure, either an appointment for surgery or at least a diagnosis and assurance that it will heal on its own.  What I am afraid will happen is that he will give me the assurance without a diagnosis.  No diagnosis would mean that he had no idea what is going on.  I will find out later today.

 

It would be bad enough to have spent over $1000 and travelled from nice, relatively COVID-safe Nova Scotia to the Canadian epicentre of the virus for nothing.  But I really can’t imagine carrying on indefinitely with a clitoris that feels like a penis wrapped in duct tape.  Fingers crossed!

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Best of luck @KathyLauren.  I have a friend who is overseas that has a similar issue that she is hoping to have resolved when she can travel to the US.  I hope the doctor can give you a good diagnosis and prognosis.  

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