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2 hours ago, LaurenA said:

I just completed my first 15 hours of electrolysis with two techs over two consecutive day.  Face is still swollen with spots and some parts are still numb from the local anesthetic.  The good part is almost all of my facial hair is gone.  The bad part, I said almost.  Back for another session in 10 weeks.  Cost so far $6k.

It will go faster the next time(maybe only one days worth) but the process is about 50%-70% regrowth occurs after each electro treatments due to growth phase and just not "killing" the follicle 100% so you're gonna have quite a few more sessions. The good news is they may only be an hour or less every couple weeks to keep grabbing those stragglers like Jani is experiencing.  

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To Jackie, I will use the term Peeps (people) for now on, as in okay you peeps out there, how about this one?

I think that will work for all of us. Gender neutral, fluid, and darn right cute for all of us!

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A friend of mine used to work with someone who married into the family that patented those. He used to say, "He married into the Peeps fortune."

Gender neutral and cute is always acceptable. I'm certain our NB pals will appreciate the effort.

 

Hugs!

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6 hours ago, Jani said:

I wasn't aware that hair could be dyed for lasering.

And rightly so. I couple of times I was complaining to my laser tech about grey hairs and what could be done about that and the only solution was still electrolysis.

Just for fun I searched about dye, and there was some offering of "carbon dye" which had to be rubbed into the follicles after you pluck or tweeze the hairs first. That instruction by itself is very questionable, as they suggest putting some substance into the injured area. But also whether you can actually force this substance far enough to get to the root of the former hair. So all in all, it definitely feels like snake oil.

Sorry to say, but there is no laser removal cure for blond/grey/very light hair but a good electrical zap.

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The dye I'm talking about and I'm only repeating what my laser tech told me. And yes at that time it was very new, and I was still turning grey, so I never ventured into the dye part as actually trying it. As far as snake oil, it has to be better than that time I Nair'd my face. Don't try that one, trust me.

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Hi y’all 

 

can’t go wrong with that!

 

squirrels, lots of squirrels.  A pair of Bald Eagles, lots and lots  of other birds, and let’s not forget the alligators.  We have most any kind of wildlife here.  Deer, fox, coyotes, wild hogs, lots more too.

 

shaving verses laser verses electrolysis, personally, I shave.  I know people who have spent thousands on electrolysis only to have it not work.  I find that a close shave and appropriate makeup and I’m good.  As for body hair, I used to have to shave arms legs chest and stomach daily if I didn’t want to be 80 grit sandpaper.  Now after 18 months of spironolactone, 15 months of progesterone and 4 months of estradiol I go days without shaving (except my face).  My skin is noticeably softer in my opinion.  So thousands on electrolysis or shave?  I’ll stick to shaving.  I found a combination of a daily scrub, followed by shaving lubricant rather than foam and a top of the line electric, in the shower gets me baby smooth.  If I switch to a blade, it’s not as good.  This lasts me 8 hours maybe a little more, but not 12.

 

hoping the IRS makes good on their claim of sending out my stimulus money on Wednesday.  I’m a bit short right now. 
 

I’ll check back tomorrow 

 

Willow

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Good Morning all, beautiful sunrise this morning here in paradise, it's a little chilly at 31f right now. Looking forward to a glorious spring like day, the cherry blossoms are a bit later this year compared to last (by at least 3 weeks). Coffee tastes great, been using a new "French press" coffee gadget I received as a gift(thanks Meg), does make a nice cup....

 

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Good morning.  No coffee this morning, but at least the tea was hot.  A good thing, because it was -10 with a windchill of -20 this morning when I got up.  It has warmed up a degree or so, but it's still too cold.

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'Morning everyone. Still on my first cup right now. Looking forward to getting the rest of this coffee in me.

 

We get tons of deer around here, especially after dark. My development is right next to a park, and they seem to view our yards as the local buffet.

 

Taking the day off work today because I have a dermatologist appointment early this afternoon. Nothing transition related, I just have something to get off my chest. Hah! :D I'm sure she'll love that one and will have never heard it before!

 

Afterwords, I'm planning on doing a St. Paricks dinner tonight. Corned beef with potatoes and cabbage, and a brown soda bread recipe I got from Cook's Country that I've made before, with good results. It'll be the first time I've done corned beef though, so hoping for good results that compare with my mom's. It seems simple enough though.

 

Oops, my cup seems to have become empty now. Time for a refill.

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1 hour ago, KathyLauren said:

Good morning.  No coffee this morning, but at least the tea was hot.  A good thing, because it was -10 with a windchill of -20 this morning when I got up.  It has warmed up a degree or so, but it's still too cold.

Too cold for me. I like the different seasons here in Illinois, and enjoy winter. Anything below zero makes it hard if not impossible to go without gloves.

 

I wish there was a Jewel store close to me. They sell some awesome Irish soda bread.

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Hey, all. Had our first session with the family counselor. Everything went OK. My wife basically said that I shouldn't have had the fight with my son. I am the adult and shouldn't do that. So, I am just supposed to let my son attack me.

 

I swear she is loosing her mind. She said that I only started wearing feminine clothing to bed after my older two sons were out of the house. I was doing it before we moved down to Laramie.

 

My youngest thinks I am going to become a fashionista. And both my Son and Wife think that I am going to change, mentally. if I start blockers and HRT. I kept my mouth shut and didn't say that I have been on blockers for 18 mo. and Hormones for almost 2 months. 

 

However my wife wants to continue with the counseling. So we have an appointment next Weds.

 

Hugs,

 

Kymmie

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4 hours ago, KymmieL said:

 

My youngest thinks I am going to become a fashionista. And both my Son and Wife think that I am going to change, mentally. if I start blockers and HRT. I kept my mouth shut and didn't say that I have been on blockers for 18 mo. and Hormones for almost 2 months. 

 

However my wife wants to continue with the counseling. So we have an appointment next Weds.

What's wrong with being a bit of a fashionista? It's one of my life goals.

 

The mental changes are another one of the fantastic things that happen. They've probably been reaping the benefits of them and don't even know it.

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I know it is late, but I was wondering, is it just me or have other's felt like

they are trapped between black and white,,,hunting for color. Like the....

Twilight Zone....

LM♥️

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5 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Hey, all. Had our first session with the family counselor. Everything went OK. My wife basically said that I shouldn't have had the fight with my son. I am the adult and shouldn't do that. So, I am just supposed to let my son attack me.

 

I'm glad for you that the councelling is happening and seems to sound "so far, so good" for the most part. It's clear you've been struggling relationship-wise so I'm glad for that much, at least.

 

Another part of what you said here really resonates with me. Not identically the same, but along similar lines I think. When I was growing up, the rule between me and my siblings always was, "Whoever is older is at fault, because they should've known better." Never mattered who did what or when, of course. And guess who happened to be the oldest of three? Yup.

 

Well, long story short, for what it's worth, I'm very familiar with the whole "you should allow yourself to be attacked" and "defending yourself is wrong" spiels. So, FWIW, I'm with you. *hugs*

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2 hours ago, Linda Marie said:

I know it is late, but I was wondering, is it just me or have other's felt like

they are trapped between black and white,,,hunting for color

 

Not just you.

 

First of all, my mom complains about that when wardrobe shopping all the time!

 

On top of that, I'm still so early in my transness that my only girl time is late at night when everyone else is in bed. So being still in guy-mode mostly fulltime, I envy even the limited color palette my mom feels trapped within!

 

But then again, I am a 1980's, early 90's kid... So it'd be pretty hard for me to find any clothing in ANY gender section that compares to the loud, bold colors and designes I used to enjoy back then!

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10 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Hey, all. Had our first session with the family counselor. Everything went OK. My wife basically said that I shouldn't have had the fight with my son. I am the adult and shouldn't do that. So, I am just supposed to let my son attack me.

 

I swear she is loosing her mind. She said that I only started wearing feminine clothing to bed after my older two sons were out of the house. I was doing it before we moved down to Laramie.

 

My youngest thinks I am going to become a fashionista. And both my Son and Wife think that I am going to change, mentally. if I start blockers and HRT. I kept my mouth shut and didn't say that I have been on blockers for 18 mo. and Hormones for almost 2 months. 

 

However my wife wants to continue with the counseling. So we have an appointment next Weds.

 

Hugs,

 

Kymmie

Good news about the counselling. Family counselling helped me when We had problems years ago. I haven't had any negative changes from transitioning. I'm a better person now. And what's wrong about being a fashionista? I could definitely use some help with women's fashion, LOL.

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6 hours ago, Heather Nicole said:

 

I'm glad for you that the councelling is happening and seems to sound "so far, so good" for the most part. It's clear you've been struggling relationship-wise so I'm glad for that much, at least.

 

Another part of what you said here really resonates with me. Not identically the same, but along similar lines I think. When I was growing up, the rule between me and my siblings always was, "Whoever is older is at fault, because they should've known better." Never mattered who did what or when, of course. And guess who happened to be the oldest of three? Yup.

 

Well, long story short, for what it's worth, I'm very familiar with the whole "you should allow yourself to be attacked" and "defending yourself is wrong" spiels. So, FWIW, I'm with you. *hugs*

I'm a 50s kid with 2 older sisters. I don't remember them ever getting into trouble. It was always me. Had ADHD. Back then nobody knew anything about that stuff. 

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On to a different subject.

Do I need to get electrolysis down below for bottom surgery? There seems to be different answers for this. I'm trying to get as prepared as possible ahead of time to speed up the process. Also, has anyone used Dr. Loren Schechter in Chicago for this? If so, are you happy with your results?

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1 hour ago, Jamie68 said:

Do I need to get electrolysis down below for bottom surgery?

I certainly wouldn't want hair growing down in my new parts if I got GCS! So my answer is generally, yes you do but there may be surgical techniques that don't require it. This is probably something you should ask either your primary care giver or a GCS specialist.

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7 hours ago, Heather Nicole said:

I am a 1980's, early 90's kid

As an 80s teen, I can relate. Gawd I dressed so gay back then! How da -don't dodge the filter- did I not know?!

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1 hour ago, Drayse said:

How da -don't dodge the filter- did I not know?!

I love how the forum watches my language for me. XD Thank you for making sure I don't run afoul of the filter. Sincerely.

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8 hours ago, Linda Marie said:

have other's felt like

they are trapped between black and white,,,hunting for color.

Yup. I live for colour! Even my boy clothes I'd be looking for colour all the time, but black and white must be the most economical colours for manufacturers, and probably the safest, so they seem to be the most prevalent. Consequently, most of my clothing (boy or girl) tends to be drab with a bright relief of colour here or there.

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Last night a close trans friend of mine called me.  It was nice catching up with her and we made a tentative date to get together for dinner.  Before the pandemic she and I got together two or three times a month and we both admitted to each other how much we missed that.  The last time we met was in October, just before the cold weather put a damper on outside dining. 

 

Tomorrow, I am taking the afternoon off so I can get in some Sally time.  I'm looking for a new blouse, and I need a watch battery replaced, so I am planning to go a the local mall where I've had watch batteries changed before.  I'm looking forward to the outing.

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3 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

On to a different subject.

Do I need to get electrolysis down below for bottom surgery? There seems to be different answers for this. I'm trying to get as prepared as possible ahead of time to speed up the process. Also, has anyone used Dr. Loren Schechter in Chicago for this? If so, are you happy with your results?

 

Depends on the surgeon. Some doctors want you to have electrolysis on the area for at least a year. Others do a scrape that removes the hair from the skin they're going to use. This is usually, but not always effective.

 

3 hours ago, Drayse said:

As an 80s teen, I can relate. Gawd I dressed so gay back then! How da -don't dodge the filter- did I not know?!

 

Some 80s fashions were kind of flamboyant for straight guys. Bright colors and outrageous hair. Personally, I was wearing black t-shirts and jeans. I was going for invisibility.

 

Hugs!

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