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Morning everyone,

 

I'm out of coffee and drinking hot tea again.

 

My shoulder is killing me from the vaccination this morning. I'm also having some trouble believing what I was told yesterday really happened. As of right now I don't believe she'd share a dressing room with me but who know at this point. I can only hope.

 

So what happens when a chicken can't lay anymore eggs? Is it now less of a chicken? Oh wait, that's usually when it's put down and used for food. I see where they're going with this. It's starting to sound like Logan's Run to me.

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@WillowCongrats!  How liberated you must feel.  Keep us posted on the journey.

@ElizabethStarThat's wonderful.  Once you get your wife using proper pronouns/name etc, she's gonna be on a tear when she hears others misgender you!  I can see her shifting from her resentful state in the past to full on vocal ally soon.

 

Kimmy, enjoy your time alone. I would opine that your shouldn't put the burden of explaining your actions/feelings to your family on your wife. Take control of the narrative if you want your side to be told.  

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Congratulations @Willow.  You go Girl!!

 

13 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

She had no idea that there are trans-guys too.

Elizabeth it is amazing that so many do not realize this!  From my time attending support groups I believe there are more trans-men than trans-women.  Because of our male centric society, the focus is on us.  I'm glad things are going better at home.  

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13 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

My wife and I finally had our talk. It started this morning, finally and it was calm and rational. It went really good. 

We now have a lot more understanding of each other so for now at least we're good and I really do have her support and she does understand that I am doing this for me.

OMG! she is all for it. She is really pushing to show my family how accepting and supportive she is. Kinda sucks it's not until the end of July.

 

This is wonderful news Liz. I'm really happy for you!

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4 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

It's starting to sound like Logan's Run to me.

 

Nah, they just terminated them in Logan's Run. You're thinking Soylent Green.

 

1 hour ago, Jani said:

Because of our male centric society, the focus is on us.

 

I think it has more to do with how hard they are to spot. MtF's make much easier targets. Honestly, trans-men are just short, and not always that. I know plenty of short men who aren't trans too.

 

@ElizabethStar, if you're looking for a trans-man for your wife to watch, I subscribe to Jammidodger. He's very wholesome, non-threatening and occasionally records with his partner. He could be a good place for your wife to start if she wants to learn about trans-men.

 

Hugs!

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19 hours ago, Willow said:

I just wanted you to know that starting today, I am Out, Full Time!

That's amazing, @Willow. Congratulations!

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I'm glad to hear that your talk with your wife went so well, @ElizabethStar. ?

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Hey Elizabeth, that's great news about your wife.  I'm so happy for you.

 

On a different subject: Okay, so the rain is just pounding against the side of the house.  I'm thinking I picked an ugly day to go shopping.  On the other hand, any day when I can express my inner woman is a great day.  So, with umbrella in hand, I'm going out in spite of the rain.

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Rainy here, but no tornado yet.

Got home this morning from a babysitting gig with my granddaughter.  My daughter is a teacher there and their schedules are crazy massed up with the "in person/remote learning" switch ups.  So I spent a couple of nights in the big city.

I should be getting my 2nd shot next week.  After that I hope I can get out a bit more.  I've been holed up at the house for over a year now.  It's getting old, really old.

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@ElizabethStar Great news hearing that your wife is coming around.

@Willow So glad to hear that your wife is supporting you.

 

I am so happy for the good news from you both. I have been feeling down and confused the past two weeks and this news has helped lift my spirits more then I thought it would.

 

Rachel

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19 hours ago, Willow said:

I am Out, Full Time!  I don’t no longer care who sees me.  This was done with the full support of my wife. 

That's great Willow, I'm so happy for you both.

 

 

@ElizabethStarI love this passage from your wife, I'm so happy you're working things out with her.

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"She out-right told me that I am going to wear cute dress and high heels. So she wants me to be hyper-feminine for a couple days? Try to stop me. She also told me a few things she wants to tell my mother but was using "son" when refering to me, I had to stop her and suggested she uses daughter instead. OMG! she is all for it. She is really pushing to show my family how accepting and supportive she is. Kinda sucks it's not until the end of July.

 

Good morning everyone,

 

My coffee was Hot, black, and strong. Breakfast was scrambled eggs with sausage crumbles.

Today I went to the Dentist

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2 hours ago, Jandi said:

 I've been holed up at the house for over a year now.  It's getting old, really old.

Yeah Jandi,

 

My wife and I bought a small camper so we could take the Grandchildren around to experience National Parks and simple camping life. None of it has taken place because of the COVID Pandemic, our older grandkids are in their middle to late teens and will be to busy with college and new jobs to spend a couple of weeks with us. Our younger grandsons are not able to leave their house until my daughter is comfortable with the national vaccine levels. I really do miss getting out of town and teaching my grandchildren about the wonders of our National Parks.

 

Stay positive, and safe,

 

Mindy???

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Hi,  basically waiting for the severe storms to get here. The longer it takes the worse it may be.  Warm, windy and humid now.  All things that contribute to bad storms around here.

 

@ElizabethStar that’s really good news about your talk with your wife and how it went.  Have fun this summer at the family get together.

 

Willow

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Thank you to everyone for the well wishes.  I am looking forward to all the freedom.  I’ve been packing clothes into vacuum bags in between working on bathroom tiles.

 

Willow

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3 hours ago, Willow said:

basically waiting for the severe storms to get here

It's starting here.  Just lots of rain so far.

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Hi Willow, I wish you and yours the very best.

LM♥️

 

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Great to hear, Liz. Cute dress and heels.

 

Why can't my wife ask that. Oh, that is right she doesn't understand my need to be female.

 

Finally let my therapist know about the issue I had with the family lately. She called and we talked a little about it. Had my video appointment with my GYN. Everything is going good. Will be doing labs when I go over to my speech appointment tomorrow. She wants to check my E and T levels. Hopefully E is up and T is way down.

Well actually feeling good right now. Even though I haven't heard anything from my wife or son in 24 hours.

Tracker in my new truck has them at our oldest sons.

 

Jackie, just remember, "Soylent  Green is people"

 

LOL.

 

Kymmie

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9 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Why can't my wife ask that. Oh, that is right she doesn't understand my need to be female.

 

Well, need to present as female. You're already a woman. Always have been. There was just a mix-up at the factory while you were being assembled.

 

9 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Jackie, just remember, "Soylent  Green is people"

 

I understand people taste like pork. I like pork. So, yummy, yummy people.

 

Hugs!

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On 3/17/2021 at 3:01 PM, Willow said:

Hi everyone 

 

I just wanted you to know that starting today, I am Out, Full Time!  I don’t no longer care who sees me.  This was done with the full support of my wife. 
 

Willow

 

 

That's awesome! I'm happy for you.

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On 3/17/2021 at 7:47 PM, ElizabethStar said:

My wife and I finally had our talk. It started this morning, finally and it was calm and rational. It went really good. Apparently the root cause of our conflict is that I didn't trust her enough to tell her what I was going through. She paralleled my inner struggle to her life-long fight with her weight. We now have a lot more understanding of each other so for now at least we're good and I really do have her support and she does understand that I am doing this for me.

 

We also got our first round of covid shots today. While we we were there the staff used she/her with me without any prompting and my wife didn't argue with them although she used he/him. On the way home she asked me if I had used the ladies or men's room while getting our shots. I replied honestly that I had. I think maybe she didn't understand why until I asked how she thought things would have gone for me if I used the men's room. This lead into me trying to explain all the different genders and what they mean. She had no idea that there are trans-guys too. I'm going to direct her to Jackie's YouTube videos so she can learn more.

 

A couple days ago I told my wife about a conversation I had with my mother. I had asked my mother if I was going to have any problems with her family when I go up there this summer. She said if I tone down my clothing I "should be" OK. Just jeans and a t-shirt like the other girls. I had to explain that I wasn't going to show up in a pair of booty shorts and bikini top. Today my wife decided to give me her opinion on it. She out-right told me that I am going to wear cute dress and high heels. So she wants me to be hyper-feminine for a couple days? Try to stop me. She also told me a few things she wants to tell my mother but was using "son" when refering to me, I had to stop her and suggested she uses daughter instead. OMG! she is all for it. She is really pushing to show my family how accepting and supportive she is. Kinda sucks it's not until the end of July.

 

 

I think that was the biggest problem with my wife. I didn't let her know what I was going through. I'm glad that it's going well for you now.

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Hi,

 

just wanted to let you know we didn’t get any severe weather.  A little bit of rain and higher winds but the storms went out over the ocean about 10 miles south of us.  Jandi, I hope all is well there.  Out weather showed it went over you then drifted east.

 

lots to do today.  
 

Willow

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1 hour ago, Tasha Marie said:

Good morning all.

Good morning Tasha,

 

I echo the good morning to everyone. I'm in the office today waiting for a UPS delivery, then It's off for the weekend. #TGIF

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