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4 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

I'm just getting ready to buy my first wig. It will be interesting to see how my friends and family respond to this.

I need to do this myself.

 I keep thinking it would be weird to just suddenly show up with a bunch of hair.

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Considering myself as gender fluid I'm not that worried about my voice.  When I present as male my voice is louder and with more resonance.  When I present as female I speak in a softer town of voice without any change in pitch.  Since I'm not picky about pronouns that much it works for me.  I usually tell people that if I look male use my male name and pronouns and if I look female to them then use the female name and pronouns.  About the only confusion that's caused is with people in the medical industry who want to use my female name and pronouns all the time and apologize whenever they think they got it wrong.  I always tell them there is no problem and tell them how I would like it handled.

 

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2 hours ago, Jandi said:

I keep thinking it would be weird to just suddenly show up with a bunch of hair.

 

My advice? Own it. Show up with a bunch of hair and make sure it's a complimentary color not normally found in nature. If anybody asks, tell them that you just could NOT go without glamming it up one more day. There's this GORGEOUS peacock wig at the place I frequent. The only reason I'm not wearing it is that it's too long for school and would be too hot for workouts. It's still a struggle not to go rescue it and bring it home.

 

Hugs!

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

Own it. Show up with a bunch of hair and make sure it's a complimentary color not normally found in nature

Hmmm……

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23 hours ago, LindaMarie said:

Oh dear, I remember cooking down "shrooms", mixing the broth with ice and Hawian Punch, gosh,

back in the day...😁

 

Haha, this took me entirely too long to get. I was thinking "Mushrooms with Hawian Punch? Seems like an odd pairing, but I suppose if you happen to really like super sugary things maybe..." Then it hit me, "Oooh! That kind of shroom."

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I had to wear a short hair boys wig in high school. They had a dress code, and I had long hair back then.

My mom actually picked the wig out for me.

3 years of that only to enlist and have it shaved off. 

It was funny, I wasn't the only long haired one there. 

LM❤️

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7 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Welcome, @christinakristy2021 to our coffee clutch.

 

I had voice therapy. it is hard trying to remember to use my feminine voice. doubly hard since I am living two lives.

 

I stopped E for about 2 weeks. Then went back to hiding it.

 

 

Kymmie

Thanks, @KymmieL

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Internal crisis averted. I got a call and am on the schedule to meet with a new therapist next Tuesday. I’ll happily take it as my coming out day gift. 🙂

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19 hours ago, Mmindy said:

Good afternoon from a camp site in Central Illinois, Rend Lake. 

I had to look this one up. Looks like a nice place. Way south of my house.

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Just ordered a new coffee mug from Joe Bonamassa's website. I like listening to the blues. 

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2 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

Just ordered a new coffee mug from Joe Bonamassa's website. I like listening to the blues. 

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❤️❤️

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3 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

Looks like a nice place. Way south of my house.

Good morning again from Rend Lake, today is pack up and leave day. Family and friends were here last weekend, Monday and Tuesday, so my manor of dress was, black leggings or joggers,  camo pattern teeback undershirt, and plaid over shirt. One friend warned, I was very close to looking like a lesbian. I countered, well you’re safe because we both like girls. They left Wednesday morning, and since they, I have been full on lesbian, and my Suzie is starting to be more comfortable with my choices.

 

As usual the coffee was HOT, black, and strong.

 

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Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋👩🏻‍🦳

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Coffee was hot with cream, then the construction people over again. We are having the master bath remodeled.

So far so good.

Nothing else going on, just a normal Thursday.

LM❤️

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Hi all 

 

spending the night in Charleston.  Already checked in to our hotel.  I have an appointment with my throat Doc tomorrow for another Botox injection to control spasms in my larynx.  Yes, sticking a needle through the side of my throat multiple times is rather unpleasant.  But the weeks I get without spasms or choking are worth it.

 

Willow

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7 hours ago, Mmindy said:

One friend warned, I was very close to looking like a lesbian.

 

Oh no. Not that. How awful. (Sarcasm obviously, I'm gay as heck.)

 

I mean seriously though, what does a lesbian look like? I know cis/het women who work in all walks of life from automotive mechanics to blacksmiths. I mean there aren't enough gym teacher positions available for ALL of us.

 

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

 

 

I mean seriously though, what does a lesbian look like? I know cis/het women who work in all walks of life from automotive mechanics to blacksmiths.

 

Hugs!

IDK, but today when I kinda had to wear boy clothes because I went unshaved for my electro consult, I looked in the mirror with my plaid pants hanging off my hips and an oversized sleeveless tshirt tucked in and literally said, "holy crap, I look like a lesbo." 

 

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1 hour ago, stveee said:

IDK, but today when I kinda had to wear boy clothes because I went unshaved for my electro consult, I looked in the mirror with my plaid pants hanging off my hips and an oversized sleeveless tshirt tucked in and literally said, "holy crap, I look like a lesbo." 

 

 

OK, fair. I wore flannel, sleeveless shirt and jeans with my canvas shoes to work today. I mean it's a stereotype but...

 

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Hey hey hey everyone! Had a great day today. Early this morning at work, I was working on an ATM, just as I was finishing up a lady walks up. “Miss can we use that machine now?” Guess my posture and the hormones are making some great changes! Between that and the fact that I broke down and got a BIG soda today (I’ve been trying to cut out and haven’t had more than a 20oz in months) I have been running high on life and crazy hyper! 

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8 hours ago, Willow said:

Hi all 

 

spending the night in Charleston.  Already checked in to our hotel.  I have an appointment with my throat Doc tomorrow for another Botox injection to control spasms in my larynx.  Yes, sticking a needle through the side of my throat multiple times is rather unpleasant.  But the weeks I get without spasms or choking are worth it.

 

Willow

That sounds so unpleasant! I'm glad it's at least able to give you a few weeks of relief though. HUGS

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9 hours ago, JustineM said:

Hey hey hey everyone! Had a great day today. Early this morning at work, I was working on an ATM, just as I was finishing up a lady walks up. “Miss can we use that machine now?” Guess my posture and the hormones are making some great changes! Between that and the fact that I broke down and got a BIG soda today (I’ve been trying to cut out and haven’t had more than a 20oz in months) I have been running high on life and crazy hyper! 

NICE!!!

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Did (one of the two) the monthly support zooms last night. The guest was an endocronologist who was a great advocate for trans folk. I asked him about the take that it's dangerous to go on HRT. 

 

The paraphrased answer:  "NO. NO. It's not significantly dangerous when done correctly by a appropriate clinician, it's not dangerous. It's just making a person have the hormones they should have always had. No more dangerous than any other medicine. Oxygen has side effects. Water has side effects. Everything has side effects. We weigh the benefits and the risks and HRT is not significantly more dangerous than any other medication."

 

Someone asked him why he wanted to be a doctor, again the paraphrase:

 

"I'm helping people have the lives they always wanted. Selfishly, it feels so wonderful to help them go through those changes. Being able to help those people is why I went into medicine."

 

 

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3 hours ago, RhondaS said:

Did (one of the two) the monthly support zooms last night. The guest was an endocronologist who was a great advocate for trans folk. I asked him about the take that it's dangerous to go on HRT. 

ThT is such a great question! Thanks for sharing. I thought about joining one of those calls a while back but never put it in my schedule. I need to do that!

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4 hours ago, RhondaS said:

"I'm helping people have the lives they always wanted. Selfishly, it feels so wonderful to help them go through those changes. Being able to help those people is why I went into medicine."

 

That is a FANTASTIC reason to go into medicine. We need more people like that.

 

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