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Liz, like many before me my thoughts are with you as you navigate this. It's got to be hard to watch her health go down hill the last years but it's got to be even doubly hard to NOT watch while she is in isolation in an ICU. My heart breaks for you. Even if people are fighting, it doesn't mean they don't care or love each other, it just means there are things that are challenging each of you as a couple. Try not to worry about the fights, or feel guilty about them. It certainly seems like those were not at all you doing anyways. From a former kids ICU RN- call in to the nurses station for a report around 6am. The night nurses are usually just doing some last paperwork before the day shift comes in. Ask what the plan is for the day.  Then call back around 9-10am. They should have had the medical team rounds by then and the nurses typically have a little lull in the med schedule around then so you have a better chance of catching your nurse for a report on what the doctors said and planned during rounds. The RNs are used to this with Covis over the last 2 years. If possible, you can usually go to a 'meeting room" or waiting area outside of the ICU  and a nurse or doctor can fill you in there. Ask for zoom meetings, sometimes a nurse can do that so you can listen in on rounds and ask questions. 

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One of the nurses called me a few minutes ago and I have an update on my partner. She was moved a few hours ago to ICU, is sedated and still on a ventilator. Apparently her potassium levels are extremely high and her kidneys are not functioning properly so for now she's on a sodium bicarb drip. The nurse told me he will call if anything changes overnight and will give me an update again in the early morning.

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4 minutes ago, Elizabeth Star said:

One of the nurses called me a few minutes ago and I have an update on my partner. She was moved a few hours ago to ICU, is sedated and still on a ventilator. Apparently her potassium levels are extremely high and her kidneys are not functioning properly so for now she's on a sodium bicarb drip. The nurse told me he will call if anything changes overnight and will give me an update again in the early morning.

Thanks for the update. There's always hope. My son had pneumonia and was put into a coma for 11 days and came out of it. Stay safe, and try to get some rest 💜 

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4 hours ago, LindaMarie said:

Sorry to butt in again. Liz, I wish you and your partner the best.

I nearly lost my wife 2 times do to her physical being. 

 

So I did this vid on bottled lives.

I really have not much to do but practice, 

and I do plan an Asheville trip. 

LM.

 

 

 

It's all good Linda. I need the distractions.

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Liz, I hope your wife is at least resting comfortably and that they are getting her potassium under control.  One step at a time and keep in touch with the nurses.  Know that we are here for you and will continue to pray for you.

 

love 

Willow

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I saw this in a FB post. Thought you would like it. ❤️

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I hope your spouse pulls through @Elizabeth Star. It looks like I missed a lot yesterday. I'll light a candle for you.

 

Hugs!

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@Elizabeth Starbe sure to take notes on what the doctors and nurses are telling you. It helps to keep the facts in line when you’re under so much emotional stress. Please take care of yourself because she’ll need you to be 100% when she comes through this. This is all made harder since you can’t be there with her. I’m sorry your going through this but know that we all love you and believe in you.

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Hi

 

Another windy night and start to the day. 
 

Lizzy still praying for you and your wife.

 

Nothing else is worth saying today.

 

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Willow

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14 minutes ago, Willow said:

Another windy night and start to the day.

Y'all are having an adventure out there.

The wind during the storm was rough here - lots (for us) of snow and ice.

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Thought I'd share this. My cat Ginger watching my video wondering how her

human got in there.

 

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@Elizabeth Star Thank you for taking the time to update us.  We care about you and hope you are able to get through this as well as your partner.  Not being able to go visit is hard.  You are in my thoughts.  
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Jani

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FFS is a GO!!!!  Caveat was they will do it as a "same day" and discharge me in the evening.  I'm just going to spend the weekend at a hotel right next to his office in case I need anything then come home Monday. (I'm an hour away so driving home that night seems challenging)

 

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Surgery. gosh. My last hopes was in the beginning of covid.

I found my doctor for what I was after. And the fact that I wasn't after intercourse, things got really easy.

First no need for bottom part electrolysis, no vaginal canal for the hair to grow in....

Second, no stints, etc.. long follow ups, 

Third I have a maintenance free  vagina.

Sadly, when things were looking good, my health was the big issue.

My wife wasn't against me having the surgery, just the doctors.

 

 

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2 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

FFS is a GO!!!!  Caveat was they will do it as a "same day" and discharge me in the evening.  I'm just going to spend the weekend at a hotel right next to his office in case I need anything then come home Monday. (I'm an hour away so driving home that night seems challenging)

 

 

Congratulations! That's how my revision surgery went too. They didn't want to keep me overnight, but my doctor knows that I'll do what I'm told so she didn't feel bad about turning me out into the world. May you have a swift recovery with results so sublime that the bards will sing songs about you for generations to come!

 

Hugs!

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17 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

One of the nurses called me a few minutes ago and I have an update on my partner. She was moved a few hours ago to ICU, is sedated and still on a ventilator. Apparently her potassium levels are extremely high and her kidneys are not functioning properly so for now she's on a sodium bicarb drip. The nurse told me he will call if anything changes overnight and will give me an update again in the early morning.

You can do this. Stay strong!

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I really don't have anything, but another video.

I've been practicing presentation, Going back out to the clubs.

Coffee shop clubs!!

I mean if I have to sit there on stage with all looking at me, why not say something?

30 minutes on stage, 3 tunes will take 1.5 minutes each, that's 4.5 of guitar, and 25.5 minutes of banter.

The clubs are cooking in Asheville, and coffee is always to your liking, along with some neat stuff going

on at the griddle. 

 

 

 

 

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After being windy all day, it has died down to 10 from 19.  Now the weather models are confused for next weekend .  One is calling for rain here and the other says the Grand Strand Coast is going to get snow.  Now this area does occasionally get snow, we had three inches the first year I was here.  But it is extremely rare.  Either way they are calling for a colder than average week and weekend.


@LindaMarie your areas weather made the Myrtle Beach news.  Showed the roads are still snow covered.

 

good night

 

Willow

 

 

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Liz my prayers are with you and your partner.

Got more snow mid afternoon on Sunday. Oh joy.

All in all not bad just really cold.

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Morning. No significant updates on my partner since yesterday.  I'm at a point where I don't want to think about things going one way or another so I'm sitting here feeling numb. It's hard because I know the world won't stop turning and I still have to get things done. Work was a good distraction yesterday although my heart's not in it.

 

I did notice that the health care field doesn't seem to fully understand/accept lesbian/gay relationships. When I called for an update I had to identify myself, give the password and my relationship to her. I tell them I'm her wife but they feel it's necessary to ask if we're legally married. I feel that since we have the same last name that should even be a question. Just a fluke? It's happened every time I called. It still really sucks That I can't see her.

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I think it's due to HIPPA regulations. It's still frustrating and disrespectful.

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Good morning 

 

got really cold last night. We had a partially frozen water line.  I let the water run this morning and it opened up.  I forgot to drain them last night.  I’ll have to fill the internal tank and disconnect and drain the outside lines tonight for certain today.  At least they are standard hoses so the only real concern would be the water heater. If that freezes it would likely pop an internal pip and that would be the end of it.  I am supplementing our electric heater with the gas this morning.  I can’t run the gas full time, I am afraid it could catch something on fire.

 

Liz, while I agree with Erica about HIPPA, I understand how frustrating it can be.  Since your wife was unresponsive they probably don’t have a signed release allowing them to tell you everything.

 

The odd thing about that here, SC is a pretty negative place for transgender people.  Yet, all the health care I’ve had has been very accommodating and uses my chosen name, except LabCorp.  Of course the billing people have to continue to use my legal name.  The best I can get out of LabCorp is to call me by my last name.

 

Well the wind finally died completely over night.  No banging and rocking and rolling. 
 

Willow

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