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On 5/28/2022 at 7:22 PM, Astrid said:

 

@Vidanjali--

 

Wait!  You're talented as an artist...and you're certainly a talented writer.  So...I've got a new career direction for you!

Drum roll...ART CRITIC!!

 

(Ducking to avoid the first object near to you that you're throwing at me when you read this 🤪)

 

Have fun as you discern what lies ahead!

 

Astrid

 

😳🤣 I'll be able to use such words as "pedantic!" "puerile!" "derivative!", or on the other hand, "scintillating!" and a particular fave, "TRANScendent!" LOL. Honestly, one thing I'll be glad to leave behind with the academic profession is the role of "judge".

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@JustineM I'm so sorry you had that upsetting experience. Such disgusting behavior. I wish you ever increasing peace of mind. 

 

@RhondaS beautiful picture! 😍

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3 hours ago, Vidanjali said:

He penned the song from which the phrase is taken, I believe. Listen from 2:20 and you'll hear the verse. 

Had to listen a couple to times to hear it but there it is!   Ha!

 

  Is this a well known reference in the community?    

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6 hours ago, Vidanjali said:

Honestly, one thing I'll be glad to leave behind with the academic profession is the role of "judge".

 

yes, Yes, YES!!!  And the stigma of being judged by department heads and committees who expect you to conform to their preferences and play by their rules of the tenure game (and/or have no intention of treating instructors and newly minted PhDs with fairness).

 

Also, it took me longer than I expected to rid myself of academic learned behaviors. In particular, it took me three years after leaving academia to be able to relearn the craft of writing with simplicity and clarity: to refrain from gratuitous buzzwords; to stop creating articles with too-long titles that contained colons 😏; and to take the time to craft something that was shorter (and therefore easier to digest and understand).

 

Pretentiousness is overrated🙂,

 

Astrid

 

 

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19 hours ago, Katie23 said:

Of all of the pronouns out there, I absolutely despise this "sir" crap. They could call me an expletive and I would be happier. Lately I have taken to just looking at them, cocking my head and saying "Really, do I look like a knight from old England with my earrings, makeup, nail polish, and female clothing, really?" Just love that bewildered look on their face. The other thing is if I am given the "sir" treatment, the tip is gone. 

Even "Hey you!" is more acceptable! 😁 

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Good morning, everyone, the coffee is strong,:coffee: because I stayed up way past my normal bedtime to watch the Tau Herculid meteor shower. One real bright streaking meteor lit up early, 15 lessor ones kept me out there looking up for another hour. Several with long duration burns, the rest were quick streaks and gone.

 

So I hope everyone out there thinking today is Monday remembered to take their Tuesday meds.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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Good morning 

 

Today is walk trough day.  Yeah!

 

if you don’t like Sir and Ma’am, don’t move to the south.  If you don’t like slow check out lines as if you are old friends having a get together, don’t move to the south.  Culture shock!

 

Kymmie, I guess I went about it the wrong way, I asked, I didn’t just do it.

 

according to my equivalent to the fence-o-meter it’s 82 going to 95.  It’s still spring but summer is definitely here.

 

Walk-through today.  Finally, the light at the end of a very long tunnel.  When she signed our letter of intent, it was to be finished October 2021, but we were told realistically expect late November.  It’s June tomorrow, one year after we put up a deposit and still not in it.

 

I’m told next week maybe for closing.  But we have to go to Virginia at the end of the week, so if they’re aren’t ready by Wednesday it will be mid June. Very aggravating for sure.

 

Willow

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5 minutes ago, Willow said:

When she signed our letter of intent, it was to be finished October 2021, but we were told realistically expect late November.  It’s June tomorrow, one year after we put up a deposit and still not in it.

I know this has been frustrating to the max.

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17 hours ago, Ticket For Epic said:

Is this a well known reference in the community?    

 

I was not familiar with it - had to look it up, but then again, I'm not engaged in the variety of vocal training tailored to transition. In grad school, one of the vocal performance profs liked to warm us up with "how high the sky". I still use it to warm up my higher range. 

 

13 hours ago, Astrid said:

Also, it took me longer than I expected to rid myself of academic learned behaviors.

 

Pretentiousness is overrated🙂

 

Lol, I hear ya! And yes, it most certainly is - turns out the intellect is not where it's at...

 

2 hours ago, Willow said:

if you don’t like Sir and Ma’am, don’t move to the south.

 

Sooo much "ma'am-ing" even in South Florida which is south of the "South of the South" (i.e. North/Central Florida). It grates on me, but what can you do. I have no plans to relocate any time soon. 

 

So, dear friends. I hope you're all well today. I was about to write to say I have a re-evaluation with the physical therapist doctor today. I had written a few months ago (maybe in a different thread) that I had a meltdown last time I worked with her (have been working in the interim with a different PT on her staff) because of her (from my perspective) excessive use of gendered language. The meltdown culminated in her directing me to use "grown up girl posture" last time I worked with her. As I was about to write to y'all to share that I plan to come out to her today for my own sanity, she called me to ask me something. I took the opportunity to tell her I'm enby over the phone. She was totally cool about it. She asked for my pronouns and assured me that she wants me to correct her if she unwittingly says the wrong thing. Then, she said something like, "I'm here for you, girl!" I told her that's an example of something I'd like her not to say, and she was true to her word & thanked me for the correction. She changed my gender to X, and pronouns to they/them in my chart. So! Feeling a lot of relief. Now, I can arrive at my appt ready to work without worrying about addressing this. She is a brilliant PT doc who specializes in EDS (she herself has EDS and rehabbed herself out of a wheelchair). So, I really need to work with her - ppl actually travel from out of state to see her. Lucky for me, she's one town away & super lucky she is an ally. 

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55 minutes ago, Vidanjali said:

Lucky for me, she's one town away & super lucky she is an ally. 

 

Super happy for you @Vidanjali! Most of my NB friends say, "any pronouns," but I think it's absolutely important to get it right. I'm glad your PT feels the same way.

 

Hugs!

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afternoon everyone

 

i guess my nails are my girl strength ,,,, had a problem with cracking  had to cut them off, now im depressed and dont want to go out till i can grow them back , truth is i feel ugly now ,, 

 going to back to hiding now, dont want any one to see me ,,

 

                     so low

                          Betty

 

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1 hour ago, Betty_B said:

my nails are my girl strength ,,,, had a problem with cracking 

Good afternoon Betty_B,

My wife had no idea what a monster she created when she set us up for mani/pedi appointments back in January. I started off with Jell Coats, and they did wonderfully until I started back in the shop building things. On my next visit to the nail salon, I asked about getting stronger coatings? They recommended having them dipped. I'm here to tell you that dipped nail coatings are shop tested, and shop approved. I still have jell coats put on my toes, but my nails are dipped. Regular drugstore cardboard nail files, won't touch these babies. You need to have salon quality files to trim them back and shape them.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋💅🏻

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28 minutes ago, Mmindy said:

Good afternoon Betty_B,

My wife had no idea what a monster she created when she set us up for mani/pedi appointments back in January. I started off with Jell Coats, and they did wonderfully until I started back in the shop building things. On my next visit to the nail salon, I asked about getting stronger coatings? They recommended having them dipped. I'm here to tell you that dipped nail coatings are shop tested, and shop approved. I still have jell coats put on my toes, but my nails are dipped. Regular drugstore cardboard nail files, won't touch these babies. You need to have salon quality files to trim them back and shape them.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋💅🏻

 

Oh! I wonder if those will hold up to the gym. I don't like my nails looking ratty either.

 

Hugs!

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@Jackie C.and @Betty_B I promise you, no one is harder on nails than me in the metal shop. These dipped nails 💅🏻 hold up to wrenches, pipe threaders, and grinding wheels. 

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On 5/29/2022 at 3:47 PM, Heather Nicole said:

As a teen, I saw Spock and the Vulcans as big role models!

 

OMG Heather I did the same thing! I wonder how many of us Vulcans are out there?

 

Rachel

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2 hours ago, CD Rachel said:

OMG Heather I did the same thing! I wonder how many of us Vulcans are out there?

At least one more!  Throughout my childhood and now that I'm a student of Stoic philosophy, he will always have a special place in my heart...  Even though he is based on a tragic misunderstanding of Stoicism.

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Good morning!

 

I joke that I used to emote like Spock and on HRT I emote like Shatner. 

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Good morning 

 

I’ve already had my coffee.  I need to shower and dress.  I have my therapy appointment at 10.

 

-penis--pit o meter is reading 81 already.  It’s supposed to be mid 90s every day this week.  It’s the beginning of meteorological summertime and it knows it.  It’s also the beginning of the hurricane season.  Let’s hope it avoids the east coast this year.  Maybe avoids land period this year.  Wouldn’t that be nice.  At least they aren’t predicting a record breaking number of storms.

 

well I guess I’d better get moving.

 

hope you have a great day today 

 

Willow

 

 

 

 

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Good morning from the Ford Service Center, their Coffee is actually very good.

 

2014 F-250 with 240 thousand miles on the Diesel engine isn’t bad. It’s the components that hang on to the engine that wear out. I hope I’m not jinxing myself, but if I can make it to November 12, 2022. My road trips around the lower 48 will end, and my business relying on the truck will end. From that date on, the only time I’ll need the truck is to pull Ms Suzie’s camper around. 
 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
 

 

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12 hours ago, Ticket For Epic said:

At least one more!  Throughout my childhood and now that I'm a student of Stoic philosophy, he will always have a special place in my heart...  Even though he is based on a tragic misunderstanding of Stoicism.

@Ticket For Epic, interesting point, and so true. Have you read the writings of Marcus Aurelius? He's probably the most famous of the stoic philosophers.

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@Mmindy Thanks for the tip on the nails. I need a stronger coating on mine. Just need to find a place that does it.

 

30s on the Fenceometer looking at high of 57. It was so nice when we were in Lincoln. As it was in the low 80s the whole weekend.

 

Feeling pretty good these last few days. Shortly both my wife and youngest will be going to the day shift. So, Kymmie will be able to come out an play a lot more. Summer skirts and dresses here we come.

 

Kymmie

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38 minutes ago, Marcie Jensen said:

Have you read the writings of Marcus Aurelius?

Indeed I have!  My introduction was Seneca the younger, Moral Letters to Lucilius...changed my life.  Followed by Meditations, which is great for a quick maxim.  Why don't they teach philosophy in school?

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@Ticket For Epic, I have no idea why philosophy isn't taught any more. Same goes for History, Grammar and cursive writing. Both my kids graduated high school over 10 years ago and there were some things that struck me as really odd. For example, my youngest daughter came home from an advanced placement American History class that had just finished a module on the Civil War and did not know who Jefferson Davis was. Similarly, my oldest came back from a civics class not knowing the difference between the constitution and the declaration. Neither got anything regarding philosophy, the classics or similar studies. And, it's getting worse, according to my youngest who is now a high school English teacher.

 

It's a bit scary, actually.

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23 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

Super happy for you @Vidanjali! Most of my NB friends say, "any pronouns," but I think it's absolutely important to get it right. I'm glad your PT feels the same way.

 

Hugs!

 

Thanks, darlin! I had another appointment today and apparently this has opened up a deeper line of communication as she has shared that she's recently become interested in educating herself on social justice issues. I love having those conversations & being around people who are committed to personal growth not only for their own sake, but for the benefit of society and culture. 

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4 hours ago, RhondaS said:

I joke that I used to emote like Spock and on HRT I emote like Shatner. 

 

I love that!

 

4 hours ago, Willow said:

-penis--pit o meter is reading 81 already.

 

[snort!!] Sometimes the word filter here has quite the sense of humor! I'm glad my coffee was still brewing when I read that, otherwise I might have done a spit take!

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