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46 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

Kymmie I just have to ask the question about the elephant in the room: You have had serious struggles with your marriage for quite a while, why did you decide to buy a house together when you have been on the fence about staying in the relationship?

The Elephant is large and pink. Seems to be talking Klingon no it is Vulcan. No  that is not it, C3P0 please translate. LOL

 

I really don't know? Maybe it is to own our home. Maybe check off a bucket list item. Maybe after multiple attempts we are finally able too. Just might be the mystery like why I joined the service. I may finally figure it out in 30 yrs.

 

I know that I really should know the why's of what I do. But it has been one of the stories of my life.

 

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1 minute ago, KymmieL said:

The Elephant is large and pink. Seems to be talking Klingon no it is Vulcan. No  that is not it, C3P0 please translate. LOL

 

I really don't know? Maybe it is to own our home. Maybe check off a bucket list item. Maybe after multiple attempts we are finally able too. Just might be the mystery like why I joined the service. I may finally figure it out in 30 yrs.

 

I know that I really should know the why's of what I do. But it has been one of the stories of my life.

 

Hugs

Kymmie 

 

You mean:

 

"chenchoH 'ej quntaHvIS je. HeghlaHbe' tlhIngan.ghojmoHwI', Dujvetlh DaleghlaHbe'nIS. MATLH.

 

vISovbe''a'? juHmaj yIqawbej.duDlIj rurchoH ghu'. matlhongqangchu'taHvIS, maQuchqu'chugh.vIghoSchoHlu' 'e' vI'ang.

 

chay' jIjangnIS 'e' vISovbe'.chenpa' yIghoS."

 

Fun fact: There are free English to Klingon translators on the interwebs!

 

Anyway, I think what Bri is getting at is, "Why are you staying with let alone buying a house with this woman when she's clearly abusing you?"

 

Or: qatlh QIch yIra' 'e' vIHar, qatlh QIchvam DajatlhtaHvIS?

 

Hugs!

 

 

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Glad we all have each other's backs here ❤️. Just wanted to share that I always thought coming out would be the scariest part, or wearing dresses in public, usw. So far, however, the scariest thing was shaving off my mutton chops the other night! There isn't any rational reason, perhaps. Certainly I can grow them back if I ever feel the need. I guess it's just because it's a definite step towards actually trying to pass for cis-gendered. Anyway, love to you all, and thanks for everyone being here for everyone else 💖💓💗!!

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5 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

You mean:

 

"chenchoH 'ej quntaHvIS je. HeghlaHbe' tlhIngan.ghojmoHwI', Dujvetlh DaleghlaHbe'nIS. MATLH.

 

vISovbe''a'? juHmaj yIqawbej.duDlIj rurchoH ghu'. matlhongqangchu'taHvIS, maQuchqu'chugh.vIghoSchoHlu' 'e' vI'ang.

 

chay' jIjangnIS 'e' vISovbe'.chenpa' yIghoS."

 

Fun fact: There are free English to Klingon translators on the interwebs!

 

Anyway, I think what Bri is getting at is, "Why are you staying with let alone buying a house with this woman when she's clearly abusing you?"

 

Or: qatlh QIch yIra' 'e' vIHar, qatlh QIchvam DajatlhtaHvIS?

 

Hugs!

 

 

 

Okay, I had to:Screenshot_20220725-155351_Chrome.thumb.jpg.95934360b89eca3f89c412bcf924641a.jpg

 

Well said, large pink Klingon elephant. Maltz, indeed. 

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Oh nice, fellow sci-fi nerds in the room 😁

 

 

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8 hours ago, awkward-yet-sweet said:

Oh nice, fellow sci-fi nerds in the room 😁

 

 

I resemble that. LOL

 

Kymmie

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16 hours ago, Vidanjali said:

@NashySlashy I'm sorry your belly isn't feeling too good today. I hope it passes soon. 

Thank you! It's feeling alright at the moment, but you never know if that will stay lol.

 

As for today, I once again had to play peacekeeper for my spouse and our housemate. He made a comment that hurt our housemate's feelings and she was feeling very insecure from it. I had to talk her down from her spiral of self-loathing...again. For those of you that remember my thread about my roommate...this is her. It's so tiring having to play peacekeeper all the time. I know the easiest solution to this issue is "just don't play peacekeeper"...but that's easier said than done.

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1 hour ago, NashySlashy said:

It's so tiring having to play peacekeeper all the time.

I used to have to do this constantly between my ex, and one of our daughters.  It gets old quickly.

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Good morning everyone 

 

well, yesterday was a long day.  We had to be up before 5am to be in Charleston by 8am. That’s about 2 hours from here.  I had an ophthalmologist appointment, first time I’d seen one in many years.  I was concerned about cataracts. I got a clean exam.  Minimal grade cataracts, no surgery at this time.  And a new prescription for glasses.  
 

then we went to the Apple Store with issues with our IPhones. They couldn’t see us until the afternoon.  Next we had lunch. And my wife also had an ophthalmologist appointment.  We weren’t able to make our Apple Genius appointment so I will schedule one for 5he next time we are in Charleston.  we both have cellular internet issues and she has an Apple  ID problem.

 

finally made some progress on the kitchen.  The old cabinets were removed.  The dry wall removed, the area was heavily sprayed for residual mold.  Insulation replaced, drywall replaced, new cabinets installed.  Now we are awaiting the granite countertops to complete the job.  Finally some light at the  end of the tunnel.

 

I understand about being the peacekeeper.  I tried for years to do that between my wife and daughter. 
 

Willow

 

 

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Update:

 

Things are going pretty well this morning. I submitted my Patreon page for my writing (hopefully it gets accepted) and I signed up for a sculpting course at the art school that's about five minutes from my house. I also got the okay to call off work tomorrow so I could pay some bills.

 

Productive day, despite having to play peacekeeper. :)

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Good afternoon everyone,

 

Suzie and I took our two youngest grandsons to Peru, IN Circus week, last week.

We had a real blast watching them look in wonder as the performers put on the greatest show on earth.

Then we let them ride every ride on the fairground midway. Oh, we also filled them up with snow cones, cotton candy, popcorn, and whole strength Coke. Adrenaline and Sugar Highs for everyone. They were real troopers at the campground as well, graduating from their tiny spider man and iron man fishing poles, to the traditional "Zebco 202" starter fishing rods and reels. Then there was time at the swimming area, which was nothing like the ocean beach they're use to. This was a mud bank with a rope swing.

 

I'm glad to see that most of you are doing well, and coping with the real life tests we face.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋🎣

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Had a disputed purchase through my Paypal account for a $500 iPhone, it was red flagged and got an invoice saying to notify within 24hrs to cancel transaction. Which I did, but I would have let the mail sit unread since it's not from Paypal, but some rando's gmail. Which I think is weird. Unless it's subcontracted?

Anyway, the fact that the transaction was flagged due to location anyway reassured me. Apparently the buyer bought in bitcoin and the helpdesk person was asking me if I ever used BC.

Been hanging out at home with the cat on my two days off which I haven't done in a long time and couch surfing. My name changes are almost all done except a few utilities and I said a few months ago when I got it approved I'd start researching education or career options but RN I just don't have the motivation. I think the upping Spiro knocked down my T just a bit more cause it feels like the first couple weeks on HRT until my body adapted I guess.

Also the BFF I am trying not to love too much is out of town on business this week and Im trying to be mature but feeling pretty emo and codependant. 

 

Hope everyone stays healthy and positive

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I've been tapped to teach a fitness class at the gym! In typical, well, ME fashion I went completely overboard and purchased a MASSIVE speaker that connects to my phone via Bluetooth. Completely shook the rafters, it was glorious. I also discovered that the other trainer just plays random music off his phone during class. I mean, what the actual duck? I sometimes worry that I'm the only professional in the whole darn company. Who blasts uncensored Chris Rock (and others) in a gym full of random people?

On the plus side, my first class went swimmingly and was a ton of fun to teach.

 

Talking to my endo next week. My E levels remain stable so nothing new to report there. She's probably going to stay the course and I'm fine with that.

 

I also tried a new recipe with my protien powder: I added a cup of yogurt! Now it tastes like strawberry-flavored chalk!

 

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8 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

 Who blasts uncensored Chris Rock (and others) in a gym full of random people?

 

Men

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7 minutes ago, stveee said:

Men

 

OK, point. Still, you can get sued for that.

 

Hugs!

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8 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

I've been tapped to teach a fitness class at the gym!

I'm sorry I miss the class. I took a right turn at Albuquerque. Sounds like a fun time.

 

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16 hours ago, stveee said:

Had a disputed purchase through my Paypal account for a $500 iPhone, it was red flagged and got an invoice saying to notify within 24hrs to cancel transaction. Which I did, but I would have let the mail sit unread since it's not from Paypal, but some rando's gmail. Which I think is weird. Unless it's subcontracted?

Anyway, the fact that the transaction was flagged due to location anyway reassured me. Apparently the buyer bought in bitcoin and the helpdesk person was asking me if I ever used BC.

Hey Stveee, this looks like a phishing attempt. I used to work in fraud prevention for a major bank, and we saw this sort of thing all the time. You should, if you haven't already, contact PayPal directly. PayPal doesn't use contractors--no financial institution does as it's against federal law. Additionally, the Bitcoin question looks like an attempt to gain access to your financial information. I hope you didn't provide any information to this person, including things like bank account numbers and routing numbers, credit and/or debit card information and so on. You should also contact your bank and report this.

Hugs.

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22 hours ago, NashySlashy said:

Update:

 

Things are going pretty well this morning. I submitted my Patreon page for my writing (hopefully it gets accepted) and I signed up for a sculpting course at the art school that's about five minutes from my house. I also got the okay to call off work tomorrow so I could pay some bills.

 

Productive day, despite having to play peacekeeper. :)

 

That's great! Have you ever sculpted before, or is this a new interest? Sounds super fun. 

 

I'm getting assessed for pelvic floor disorder today via manometry test. Fun stuff! (That's sarcasm, in case anyone wasn't sure, lol.) The bright side is that if they determine disorderliness, the treatment is therapy which I'm motivated to do. 

 

Hope everyone is having a good morning so far. ❤️

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Hi, ummm, I've been away for a bit.

 

This is the update...

 

Top Surg completed

Bottom Surg completed

 

Waiting for FFS date as we type. More than likely be in Late Aug or early Sept.

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2 hours ago, Vidanjali said:

 

That's great! Have you ever sculpted before, or is this a new interest? Sounds super fun. 

 

I'm getting assessed for pelvic floor disorder today via manometry test. Fun stuff! (That's sarcasm, in case anyone wasn't sure, lol.) The bright side is that if they determine disorderliness, the treatment is therapy which I'm motivated to do. 

 

Hope everyone is having a good morning so far. ❤️

A new interest. I'm excited!

 

Good luck with your screening! Hope you get some answers!

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2 hours ago, Marcie Jensen said:

Hey Stveee, this looks like a phishing attempt. I used to work in fraud prevention for a major bank, and we saw this sort of thing all the time. You should, if you haven't already, contact PayPal directly. PayPal doesn't use contractors--no financial institution does as it's against federal law. Additionally, the Bitcoin question looks like an attempt to gain access to your financial information. I hope you didn't provide any information to this person, including things like bank account numbers and routing numbers, credit and/or debit card information and so on. You should also contact your bank and report this.

Hugs.

Ok thanks.

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I was getting frequent email about my PayPal saying it was locked etc.   But it always worked anyway.  I phigured it was some kind of scam.

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1 hour ago, Michelle F said:

Top Surg completed

Bottom Surg completed

 

Waiting for FFS date as we type. More than likely be in Late Aug or early Sept.

 

Congrats on the completions, and an early congrats on the FFS!

 

This makes me wonder though, and perhaps this is merely a sign I'm still under-caffeinated right now, but why do we call it "Facial Feminization Surgery" when we could be calling it something like "Above The Top Surgery", or "Tippy-Top Surgery"? 🤔

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