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You may be right :( 

But sometimes it takes  long time for people to get it.  
If it’s truly important there will be a better time.

 

btw congrats on your surgery🌈🌈

You look great!  
Your ability to make friends and relationships is greater..

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Good morning 

 

You know, I really don’t know why I ever started drinking coffee, I guess I saw it as a right of passage.  Why not tea?  Well I did drink tea for a while but never got it right, except for iced tea.  My mother drank coffee and my father tea.  
 

I closed down my Facebook and other connections to my friends when I figure out I was a sheep in wolves clothing.  Then I opened a new Facebook account and slowly and carefully started asking old friends to be friends again.  Some have, some haven’t but I now know who my good friends were.  Some surprised me.  Never give up, you just don’t know.  My closest old friends have made their journey to the other side.  
 

I am having trouble finding someone in my plan that will take insurance to cover breast implants and without insurance coverage it can’t ever happen.  Out of state is a possibility but it can’t be too far away, I still have to get there and back multiple times.

 

@Confused1 now for the big debate, Coke verses Pepsi and diet verses regular.  I am a “Real Sugar Pepsi” fan but that isn’t easy to get.  Coke was developed about 6 hours south of here and Pepsi four hours north. These days Everyone uses corn syrup and that’s worse for you.  I’ve never found a diet drink that I could drink.  And yes I can absolutely tell the difference. Yet I know a lot of people swear by diet drinks often for the same reasons I swear by regular.  There will never but an agreement on this question.

 

i have someone interested in my boat coming to see it today and another Saturday.  I’m going to miss it but that’s the way it goes.

 

Willow

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3 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I tried connecting with an old friend a few weeks ago. He asked me what was up with me changing my name. O got as far as telling him I'm legally a woman now and that was the last I heard from him. I though he was marginally better than that but oh well, his loss.

I came out to (Who I thought) was a best friend from the service. A few years ago. While we are still facebook friends that is about it. I haven't came out to any other people I know from the past. To most I am the kid that had the white car. From the autoshop. I believe that is the way my classmates remember me.

 

@Willow I also don't remember why I started drinking coffee. Both my parents did. I think it was my wife, a coffeehalic. I cannot remember a time were she ordered anything but a coffee and an ice water at a sit down restaurant.

 

Fall has started here in the northern Rockies. Yesterday and today are in the mid 60s.

 

Kymmie

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Evening all. Long day - could sure use a Mountain Dew, with real sugar, or Cherry Coke right now. In "dew" time. (Sorry)

 

Took my daughter to a medical appointment today, filling in all the parental blanks. She'll be 18 in a couple of months, so I had her fill some of other stuff herself, as the patient. In the blank requesting who brought her, she wrote, "Mom." Pitter patter.

 

 

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50 minutes ago, Hannah Renee said:

In the blank requesting who brought her, she wrote, "Mom." Pitter patter.

 

 

❤️

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Good evening

 

Hannah Renee how great.  Nothing better than some affirmation from your daughter.  
 

@KymmieL it’s been a long time but I think it as my time in the Air Force that got me started.  Just because it was there.  Hey beer call tomorrow?

 

I never expected selling my boat to be easy and quick but I’m glad fall is arriving tomorrow it was upper 90s today 70s tomorrow.  Even though the hurricane is about to hit Bermuda it is causing havoc with our beaches with rip currents and high surf 

 

next on just might cause some rain here.
 

Willow

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Just finished packing for a long weekend in Sacramento, CA.  My wife and I are attending a trans formal (River City Sparkle) on Saturday evening.  I love events where evening gowns are the preferred attire.  Additionally, I'm really looking forward to rubbing elbows with some California girls.  Brian Wilson and David Lee Roth, eat your hearts out! 

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@Willow When I was in the Air Force, I always figured the Russians would attack when everyone was having their morning coffee.

 

And my daughter is a real treat. I am very fortunate the she decided to move with me when my ex and I separated.

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Can two people on opposite sides of the political spectrum make it work? asking for a friend... ok I am asking for me. I am very right leaning, she is extreme left. I think she was shocked and hurt. I don't know if she will want to see me again... don't know if I can go through loosing someone again.. 

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57 minutes ago, CD Rachel said:

Can two people on opposite sides of the political spectrum make it work? asking for a friend... ok I am asking for me. I am very right leaning, she is extreme left. I think she was shocked and hurt. I don't know if she will want to see me again... don't know if I can go through loosing someone again.. 

check out an organization called Braver Angels. They conduct classes on how to have difficult conversations.

 

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16 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

. In the blank requesting who brought her, she wrote, "Mom." Pitter patter.

 

 

How wonderful!

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Good morning all, The coffee is hot and strong this morning. So today is a big day for me as I officially come out at my company. I had a pre-meeting with the president of our division yesterday and he was totally accepting and told me he had my back. So starting Monday Billy will no longer work here as he will be replaced by Riley, free at last.

 

Hugs 

Riley

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30 minutes ago, Billie75B said:

Good morning all, The coffee is hot and strong this morning. So today is a big day for me as I officially come out at my company. I had a pre-meeting with the president of our division yesterday and he was totally accepting and told me he had my back. So starting Monday Billy will no longer work here as he will be replaced by Riley, free at last.

 

Hugs 

Riley

Truly awesome! Good for you.

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9 hours ago, Billie75B said:

Good morning all, The coffee is hot and strong this morning. So today is a big day for me as I officially come out at my company. I had a pre-meeting with the president of our division yesterday and he was totally accepting and told me he had my back. So starting Monday Billy will no longer work here as he will be replaced by Riley, free at last.

 

Hugs 

Riley

Very cool, Riley!

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12 hours ago, Billie75B said:

Good morning all, The coffee is hot and strong this morning. So today is a big day for me as I officially come out at my company. I had a pre-meeting with the president of our division yesterday and he was totally accepting and told me he had my back. So starting Monday Billy will no longer work here as he will be replaced by Riley, free at last.

 

Hugs 

Riley

way to go

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Good morning 


I guess I’m in a rush, software update.  
 

I’m having Mountain Grown coffee this morning. Black please.  I’ll check.back when they are done with the up date

 

bye for now

 

Willow

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On 9/23/2022 at 11:29 AM, Billie75B said:

Good morning all, The coffee is hot and strong this morning. So today is a big day for me as I officially come out at my company. I had a pre-meeting with the president of our division yesterday and he was totally accepting and told me he had my back. So starting Monday Billy will no longer work here as he will be replaced by Riley, free at last.

 

Hugs 

Riley

Congratulations Riley.

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Good morning all, coffee’s ready

 

We went to the mall yesterday and I got some long tops to wear over leggings.  Wife got one also.  
 

I would normally love for Ian to come visit (that’s our son’s name) but not this time. Hurricane Ian is getting stronger and the cone of likely direction is pointing this way.  It would have to be greater than the category three before I’d leave.  But it does give me concern.  I’ll have to increase the number of dock lines on my boat and get my dinghy out of the water.  It’s in a relatively safe place but you never know.

 

Our condo association had a party last night. We had a band and potluck, and byob.  Our next door neighbor was looking for a table and we invited them to sit with us.  We had a fun time.

 

our plan for today is to go see as the crawdads sing.  
 

I am very happy for each and everyone of you who are coming out at work, getting name changes and getting your surgeries accomplished.  Congratulations!  There have been so many recently that I can’t keep up.  Just know I congratulate each and everyone of you.

 

Hugs

 

Willow

 

 

 

 

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1 hour ago, Willow said:

Hurricane Ian is getting stronger and the cone of likely direction is pointing this way.

 

 

 

 

We're keeping a close watch on it, too.

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We got off lightly with Fiona, compared to some other areas.  I hope that those in the path of Ian fare equally well.

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35 minutes ago, KathyLauren said:

We got off lightly with Fiona, compared to some other areas. 

 

Glad to see you doing ok and posting Kathy this morning after the tempest 🙂

 

Hugs

 

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I’m about to reach my limit on sleep deprivation. I’ve been struggling to fall and stay asleep the last few days. Freaking out a bit before my vaginoplasty Tuesday. I think I’m averaging 4 hrs of sleep per day since this last Tuesday. I’m going to take Valium tonight and Monday night. I’m trying not to compensate with more coffee during the day.  

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31 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

I’m about to reach my limit on sleep deprivation. I’ve been struggling to fall and stay asleep the last few days. Freaking out a bit before my vaginoplasty Tuesday. I think I’m averaging 4 hrs of sleep per day since this last Tuesday. I’m going to take Valium tonight and Monday night. I’m trying not to compensate with more coffee during the day.  

I would like to wish you the very best, and i know how it is worrying about having something done i am the same way ,hang in there,you can do it.

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Good Afternoon 

 

Gee I’m such a girl.  I cried over several parts.  
 

@Bri2020 I can understand the lack of sleep I’m sure a lot of us are just like that or would’ve.  I’m sure you’ll be fine and soon you will be everything you want.

 

we were referred to as ladies and ma’amed all afternoon sure makes a girl feel good.

 

hugs

 

Willow

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Just got home from visiting our oldest son and family. It was great seeing them, especially my grand kids. Oldest grandson is getting so big. Our granddaughter is so cute. Finally getting potty trained, she just turned 4.

 

Our new wagon got awesome mileage. only used about 2 1/8 tanks of fuel. got 43mpg on the trip there. 

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

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