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12 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

I’m about to reach my limit on sleep deprivation. I’ve been struggling to fall and stay asleep the last few days. Freaking out a bit before my vaginoplasty Tuesday. I think I’m averaging 4 hrs of sleep per day since this last Tuesday. I’m going to take Valium tonight and Monday night. I’m trying not to compensate with more coffee during the day.  

So sorry about the sleep deprivation; that really sucks. Glad you have valium. And big hugs and congratulations on a successful vaginoplasty! Looking great as always 💖❤️💗!!

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Don't know how I pissed off the wife but she seemed that way last night and this morning. Last night she took her bath then when I went in to change and go to bed she didn't say a word. She came to the living room. did something. then came to bed. She seemed annoyed at something. then this morning. She got up. did her thing. I used the bathroom about 1/2 hour later. She opened the door enough to get into a drawer to get her breathing meds. I said morning sweetheart.. -----crickets-------


Today I need to find an electrical gremlin that keeps blowing the breaker when you turn off the dinning room light. I am going to replace the switch. then go from there.




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@KymmieL, that's just... UGH. You can't fix problems in your relationship with the silent treatment. You deserve better.



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Good morning 


Another nice day here but not so much for the people in hurricane Ian’s path.  Please raise your thoughts and prayers whom ever you believe in for those who are about to get smashed by this powerful storm.  I have a friend, Rachel, who took a brief moment to tell me that she was doing everything she could to save her home and that she was getting her important things together and packed into her car so she could evacuate.  I have other friends in Florida as well but she lives in the Tampa area.


I know we have many friends on this forum that must also be in a bad spot in the destructive zones. Please be with all of them in your hearts as they are running out of time.


praying for them!



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I am keeping watch on Hurricane Ian. As my mom lives north of Tampa. She is far enough inland to not get any storm surge. But I am still worried.



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On 9/21/2022 at 8:02 PM, Hannah Renee said:

A true friend. I should never have doubted.

That's great Hannah, I hope you find that most of your longtime friends are accepting you for who you truly are. 


On 9/22/2022 at 6:51 AM, Elizabeth Star said:

I though he was marginally better than that but oh well, his loss.

That's right Lizzy, his loss and our gain.


Good morning everyone,


I've been away on vacation at a Bluegrass Festival, camping with friends and family. It went well and no one questioned my more androgynous presentation. I also played the upright bass, in a jam session at a campsite down the hill from us. I may have found another focus for may ADHD list of hobbies. Oh look! A fire truck!


Hugs for everyone,

Coffee or Not.



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woo hoo!  I am complete!   Surgery went well. I’m in almost no pain , just some pressure pain and lots of uncomfortable gas. I haven’t need narcotics in 8 hours. I’m sure the neo V is a swollen mess and stuff but when I look down there all I can tell is there is no longer a penis or scrotum and it makes me smile!  
on the flip side my daughter had to evacuate from Ian. She’s in St. Petersburg in a low lying part so she drove up to GA to stay with a friend for a few days. 


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8 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

woo hoo!  I am complete!   Surgery went well.

That’s fantastic Bri, I’m so happy for you.

 Ow it’s time to follow your care team advice and follow ups.





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@Bri2020 Happiness and excellent healing to you sister!!


Glad your daughter has somewhere to go and be safe. 

Rest easy, right? 😊


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Fantastic to hear, Bri. That you are doing well.



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CONGRATULATIONS, @Bri2020!!!!! So happy for you!!  I hope you have a speedy and painless recovery.



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21 hours ago, Willow said:

Another nice day here but not so much for the people in hurricane Ian’s path.  

"Landfall just north of Cape Coral around 2PM EDT today, 946mb Major Hurricane. Slowly tracks NNE and just south of Deltona middle of the day Thursday 990mb and dumping a swath of over 20" of rain accumulation to this point between roughly Bradenton to Lakeland."


I live in Deltona. We're doing the last of our preparation today.

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My 88-year old former mother-in-law lives in Bradenton. Fortunately, her grandson, who lives near Orlando, took her inland a couple of days ago. 


Be smart, be safe down there.

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1 hour ago, Colleen Henderson said:

I live in Deltona. We're doing the last of our preparation today.


Stay safe, everyone in Florida!

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I am being poisoned this morning. The hospital brought me a single cup of FRENCH VANILLA flavored coffee. What an abomination!  I almost can't drink it and visiting hours don't start till 11am. I am such a coffee snob and I didn't even think about this element as far as being prepared for post surgical stay.  I'm going to have to bribe a care team member to find me real coffee in the mornings for sure.

Other than that: I am basically pain free post op day one. The only narcotics that I've had were right after surgery but since then just NSAID meds like toradol.  My biggest challenge was lots of gas and I had leftover liquids in the GI tract from bowel prep. Yes @Jackie C., I did have to do that but I missed it in the instructions. Thank the goddess the RN called the day before to make sure I did all my pre-op stuff.  So every time I passed gas, I made a mess that needed cleaning.  That issue has resolved.  A note for people who will be going through this: You will have to lay flat on your back for a few days. Right now, this is the hardest part for me.  I have back issues left over from a few prior surgeries and can't lay flat like that for long before I'm miserable.  Today is just a lay around day with nothing on the schedule except netflix and reading.

Thank you all for the love and support. This community seriously helped me to get here.

Love to you all


PS: My new favorite person is Agnes who went and brewed a pot of regular coffee at the RN station and brought me a cup while I was writing this!!!!

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2 hours ago, Colleen Henderson said:

I live in Deltona. We're doing the last of our preparation today.

Good morning Colleen, you know everyone here on the TransPulseForums are sending you positive energy, and prayers that you and your remain safe during the passing of IAN.


2 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

Fortunately, her grandson, who lives near Orlando, took her inland a couple of days ago. 

Good morning Hannah, that's good news. There are those people on the In-Law side of the family that you never give up even after a divorce. I'm glad she'll be safe.


32 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

My new favorite person is Agnes who went and brewed a pot of regular coffee at the RN station and brought me a cup while I was writing this!!!!

Good morning Bri, I'm glad you found Agnes, and she took the responsibility to brew the real nectar of the morning, Coffee. :coffee:


My morning is starting off with a shop temperature of 42° F. I haven't reinstalled the combination propane & wood stove yet, so it's a very cool start to the day.





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Good morning 


@Bri2020 congratulations!  Glad you aren’t needing stronger pain meds.  

Again I am concerned for the Floridians.  And it seems a lot of you have friends and relatives that are in the path.  Unfortunately the hurricane appears to be stronger, hitting the Florida sooner and crossing the state only to turn north along the east coast. Not too far south of me the have now issued tropical storm warnings.  I expect by late today we will also included in that.


I am not worried, I didn’t evacuate for a cat 3 so this is not something to worry about here.



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@MmindyMy former MIL is a tiny - 4'9" - German sweetheart, lives on her own alongside good neighbors, and still gets around quite well. She was up here a few weeks ago, visiting her 3 daughters in various parts of the Chicagoland area. Her trailer is just a couple of blocks north of Sarasota Harbor, and appears to be the bullseye, so I commend my former nephew for being so proactive in evacuating her days ahead of the storm.

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@Bri2020Congrats on the successful surgery and it looks like you are doing great. I am so happy for you.




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God morning two


Well, they added us to the tropical storm warning earlier than I expected. I suppose some of this is to allow state and federal aide should it be necessary.


I’m in good shape as far as storms are concerned. Anything outside is not my responsibility, only inside or my vehicles.


I’ll be videotaping what’s here.  I haven’t done that yet.  


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6 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

Yes @Jackie C., I did have to do that but I missed it in the instructions.


My greatest condolences. Honestly, my GI tract starting back up hurt worse than the actual surgery.


On the plus side, it at least sounds like you can swallow. I gave EVERYTHING back those first couple of days because my GI tract doesn't work at that level of "recline."


Big hugs sweetie! You'll be up and around before you know it!

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