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I'm going to the courthouse in awhile to submit my name change petition.  I already posted my "intent" 10 business days ago.  

I'm worried something will still go wrong.  

Oh well, maybe it will go through.  That would be really nice.

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I'm firmly in the camp to stop changing like most of the world. I'm very sensitive to light when sleeping, get a bit less sleep for a while each time we change.

 

It is suggested Ben Franklin originally proposed the idea of time changing to conserve candles, not sure that is still an issue

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Good morning all,

I woke up early today with great intentions of productivity. Got the coffee made and jumped right into dilating while enjoying my first cup. Got all cleaned up and finished my second. It's now 90 minutes later and my current situation: still curled up under covers dreaming of more coffee. lol

Today's project is to write a thank you speech for my Vaginabration party in 12 days. The party is a celebration of the medical journey's end but also a giant thank you to all the people who helped me along the way these last 2.5 years.  There's going to be a lot of tears while writing and I suspect a lot when giving it.  

Also, I have to get back into work mode. lol

 

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Morning has broken, the birds have all sung.  Now it’s time to get active, before the days done!

 

or something like that.  Hi, Monday day’s wash day.  
 

I’ll never understand the point of daylight savings time.  No matter when you get up and start your work day, there is only so much daylight.  And that is dictated by the tilt of the Earth on its axis and it’s orbit around the sun.  What difference does it make whether is in the morning or the evening?  It’s certainly harder on our internal clocks to adjust to changing time than not.  Saving candles?  Saving electricity?  In our modern world, farmers don’t go by a clock and never have.  Factories work multiple shifts so it’s not saving much if any electricity.  Isn’t it time we stopped fooling ourselves into believing we are saving daylight by moving our clocks ahead and back?  What is time anyway?  It is simply a division of a period measured by speed and distance.  A man made measurement like so many others.  And while we are at it, why not time based on 10s? A metric day, hour minute, second?  Nothing says it has to be based on 24 and 60, does it?  Latitude and longitude lines can be redrawn, can’t they?  If we think we can change time for some advantage, then why not change time to be based on 10?  Doesn’t the world generally count by 10s?

 

Ok, philosophical rant over.

 

have a great day and don’t dwell on metric time, it will never happen.

 

LOL

 

Willow 

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1 hour ago, Ivy said:

I don't like the changing part of it.  Since I'm retired I can make the change over a few days.  

I wonder why businesses can't just adjust their hours to follow the seasons instead of pretending we can change time twice each year.

Keeping "time" is probably necessary, but still kinda arbitrary.

I think the whole daylight savings time thing goes back to WW2. (One of those weird facts you pick up in life and can't forget.) Back then, the Brits did a thing called "Double Summer Time," essentially Daylight savings time but two hours, to save fuel for the war effort. 

 

Honestly, Ivy, I agree with you about businesses adjusting their hours. Personally, I have trouble keeping track of the time differences with my east coast living daughter, because in AZ we don't have daylight savings time.

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2 hours ago, Willow said:

I’ll never understand the point of daylight savings time.  No matter when you get up and start your work day, there is only so much daylight.  And that is dictated by the tilt of the Earth on its axis and it’s orbit around the sun.  What difference does it make whether is in the morning or the evening?  It’s certainly harder on our internal clocks to adjust to changing time than not.  Saving candles?  Saving electricity?  In our modern world, farmers don’t go by a clock and never have.  Factories work multiple shifts so it’s not saving much if any electricity.  Isn’t it time we stopped fooling ourselves into believing we are saving daylight by moving our clocks ahead and back?

 

My understanding is there's a bipartisan bill to stop the time changes that's been making it's way through congress. I guess maybe that's been attempted before, but it seems to have better support this time. It wasn't able to work its way through quick enough to help us this year, but fingers crossed for next year...

 

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I wish it would be Daylight Saving Time permanently.  It is ridiculous to have evenings be so dark in the winter.  I've heard a bunch of excuses for it, naming either farmers or school kids as the reason.  School kids rarely walk to school anymore, unless they live really close by.  Full time farmers tend to be able to work when it is light, whatever the time.  Part-time farmers who work during the day need evening light to work, and at least in my part of the nation there's still some farm cleanup stuff to do in the fields in November.  

 

My husband gets irritated in the winter...he goes to work early and leaves home in the dark.  In the evening, he returns in the dark (or very near to it.)  Having an hour of light in the evening would be nice. 

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Afternoon @Heather Nicole and @awkward-yet-sweet yes I have heard the same that there is a bipartisan bill which has been passed by the senate if I recall correctly.  And I believe the bill keeps daylight savings time year round.

 

I don’t like it getting dark early either although it only lasts for 6 weeks maybe 8.  As someone who was involved in a lot of international business, I can tell you it gets very confusing when some countries change while others don’t or Southern Hemisphere countries switch opposite directions and there is a two hour change.  Honestly I think we should all just stick to the standard time system that became standard throughout the world.  What gives us the right to decide there are 6 time zones or longitudinal divisions between Greenwich England and the east cost instead of 5?  We would have to move the American continent 1/24 of the diameter of the earth further away from Europe.
 

Yes I’m in favor of getting rid of time changes biannually I just think it should be to stick to standard time, not daylight savings which doesn’t save anything.  There are still the same number of hours of daylight.

 

Let’s hope congress can actually agree on something for a change.

 

Willow

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Wow.  I'm exhausted but happy.   I have my court ordered name change!  It turned into a royal mess up, but is now a done deal.

There was a form that was never mentioned on the "official" website, that the clerk of court insisted I submit.  Everything else was in order.  And the info on this form was the same as the other ones.  It was actually the court order - which I kinda expected they had to do.

Took most of the day.  Had to fill out a "interview" online, that was a duplicate of the petition I was already filing.  This one had that form included.  So I only printed out that part.  Now it was fine.

The clerk did the paperwork while I waited.

I am now officially Ivy!

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I'm hopeless at keeping a remotely early schedule, always have been, so personally, I'd absolutely love going "daylight savings"-only. I'd end up seeing more daylight and sleeping through less of it that way. But @Willow, you makes a good point too, it would be nice to have a more consistent time system across the globe. Either way, I just want to stop changing the time twice a year.

 

@Ivy Congrats, Ivy!! 🎉🎉

 

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2 hours ago, Willow said:

I can tell you it gets very confusing when some countries change while others don’t or Southern Hemisphere countries switch opposite directions and there is a two hour change.

 

I participate regularly on a Zoom meeting which has people from Australia as well as from North America.  The majority are from the US, so it is scheduled according to the Central time zone, but the poor Aussies have to switch their times twice each season.  They started at 11:00 am all of our summer, their winter.  Now that we are off DST, they start at 12:00 noon.  In a few weeks, they will start at 1:00 pm when they go onto summer time.  They do it all in reverse on our spring, their fall.

 

I'd like to see them switch to standard time all year.  If people want more evening hours, they should work 8-4 instead of 9-5.

 

@Ivy, congratulations on your name change!

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@Ivy Big time CONGRATULATIONS! 

 

I had to fill out most of my court order, as well, except for the boxes the judge had to check and his signature line. 

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@Ivy Congratulations!  Leave it to government to take something simple and make it take forever.... Glad that you have the perseverance to get what you want.

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5 hours ago, Ivy said:

I am now officially Ivy!

 

Wonderful news, Ivy!  Nice to be able to affirm your identity in  this important way.

 

Astrid

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5 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

If people want more evening hours, they should work 8-4 instead of 9-5.

 

I work evenings. Besides, not everyone is a morning person.

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6 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

I'd like to see them switch to standard time all year.  If people want more evening hours, they should work 8-4 instead of 9-5.

@Ivy

If only it was that easy... actually, I can't recall the last time I met someone who worked 9-5, or actually had a choice of work hours unless they were management.  My husband is a senior manager at his company, and he's usually working 6am to 4pm. 

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Ivy,

Congratulations and hugs! I am happy for you! It is a great moment when they tell you that you are now the real you. I will never forget my hearing or how I wept for joy. Now the fun part changing your name on accounts! They do not make it as easy as one may think. The banks were easy if you went in person. I was amazed at how quickly some could change the name on the account and how some made it a miserable tug-of-war. 

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I talked with OPM, the office that oversees federal retirees' annuities, etc. Had to confirm that I had told them about my divorce 2 months ago. I had. I was asked about withholding for income tax. Oops. Forgot about that. Ok, so I got my divorce document to verify whom I get to claim. Instead of married, filing jointly as a family of 6, I'm down to single, as family of 3. So my monthly annuity payment will now be $600+ less. Ouch.

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7 hours ago, awkward-yet-sweet said:

My husband is a senior manager at his company, and he's usually working 6am to 4pm. 

When I worked for Public Works here, our hours changed with the seasons.  When I retired, we were working 4, 10 hour days each week.

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33 minutes ago, Hannah Renee said:

I talked with OPM, the office that oversees federal retirees' annuities, etc. Had to confirm that I had told them about my divorce 2 months ago. I had. I was asked about withholding for income tax. Oops. Forgot about that. Ok, so I got my divorce document to verify whom I get to claim. Instead of married, filing jointly as a family of 6, I'm down to single, as family of 3. So my monthly annuity payment will now be $600+ less. Ouch.

OUCH! I went through something similar a couple years ago with my DoD retirement pay. It wasn't quite as big as a $600 change, but it was bad enough. I'm sorry that OPM did this to you and I empathize. Gotta love the federal government--they're gonna squeeze every last dime they can. 

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