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Hello every one   well I am recovering good from my blood clots in my lungs, went in to work on wednesday took thur. off only 2 days next week. they took me off my E but when i can get things straightened out go back on a different dose o well, one thing about this journey its a never a dull moment,  I no being in the hos. for 5 days has really opened my eyes life is more clear. every one take care be well watch that cough mine turned out to be 3 blood clots.It has been a year and half  and I finely feel like I can conquer the world and it feels really good  have a awesome day be safe it is nice to be here.

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2 minutes ago, rachel w said:

 every one take care be well watch that cough mine turned out to be 3 blood clots.

It's good to hear that you're on the mend.

 

I had the same lung issue twice, but there was never any cough. For me, the only symptom was suddenly not being able to walk more than a couple of steps without sitting down. It took forever just to get to the car and drive myself to an ER. I'm on a blood thinner for life now.

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TG for this new day

 

Did you think I was going to say TGIF?

 

Well, yesterday was a wasted day.  Well sorta.  Drove 70+ miles to Charleston for a doctors appointment.  Sat around and finally a nurse came out to talk to me.  Scheduling messed up and never scheduled the swallow test.  She was expecting me to make a scene and be really upset.  Why do that?  It is t her fault.  Yes it was annoying but what is the point of getting angry?  So we left the office with a real appointment this time.

 

But the day wasn’t really a bust.  We went shopping!  We each Bought two sets of winter jammies.  Wife bought some sweaters and I got a red sweater and black slacks for a dinner we are going to tomorrow.

 

Speaking of sweaters, it was 31 degrees when we got up.  It was a perfect night for the new winter pjs.  Definitely January like temperatures in mid November.  @KymmieL please keep this weather back there.  At least we didn’t get 4’ of snow.  If we ever got 4’ of snow here nothing would move until it melted.  At least I could get out my front door, it’s well protected.  Back door? Forget it!

 

say, for everyone hacking up a lung, have you had a pneumatic vaccine?  If not I suggest you do.  I realize not everyone is a vaxer.  But they’ve done well for me.  Oh and the worst “cold” I ever had was actually a bought with bronchitis.  Another reason we moved south.  So take care of your selves and don’t be afraid to get treated.

 

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3 minutes ago, Willow said:

Did you think I was going to say TGIF?

Good morning Willow,

 

Now that I'm actually semi retired, I only keep track of what day of the week it is so I can converse with vendors. No matter the day, I wake and pray. I'm also like you in that I don't get mad at the messenger, if they're not the cause of a mix up. I don't short the wait staff, if the kitchen messed up my order or is taking a long time to prepare my meal. It took me along time to realize that my getting angry didn't help me with a problem.

 

I have had pneumonia, and without a doubt it the sickest I've ever been. I do get my vaccines.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋   

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Work yesterday was brutal. tiring and caused my right foot to hurt. Plus the cold and white crap didn't help. Zero out now.

 

I think the worse was when I got home. Wife didn't say one word to me. How was your day? anything? I think she finally said 5 words to me before I went to bed. I don't know what is going on.

 

Try and have a good Friday.

Hugs

 

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2 hours ago, Willow said:

TG for this new day

 

Did you think I was going to say TGIF?

 

Well, yesterday was a wasted day.  Well sorta.  Drove 70+ miles to Charleston for a doctors appointment.  Sat around and finally a nurse came out to talk to me.  Scheduling messed up and never scheduled the swallow test.  She was expecting me to make a scene and be really upset.  Why do that?  It is t her fault.  Yes it was annoying but what is the point of getting angry?  So we left the office with a real appointment this time.

 

But the day wasn’t really a bust.  We went shopping!  We each Bought two sets of winter jammies.  Wife bought some sweaters and I got a red sweater and black slacks for a dinner we are going to tomorrow.

 

Speaking of sweaters, it was 31 degrees when we got up.  It was a perfect night for the new winter pjs.  Definitely January like temperatures in mid November.  @KymmieL please keep this weather back there.  At least we didn’t get 4’ of snow.  If we ever got 4’ of snow here nothing would move until it melted.  At least I could get out my front door, it’s well protected.  Back door? Forget it!

 

say, for everyone hacking up a lung, have you had a pneumatic vaccine?  If not I suggest you do.  I realize not everyone is a vaxer.  But they’ve done well for me.  Oh and the worst “cold” I ever had was actually a bought with bronchitis.  Another reason we moved south.  So take care of your selves and don’t be afraid to get treated.

 

Willow

 

 

Totally agree with the pneumonia vaccine, @Willow. I got an awful case once, but not since vccination. I feel safer now. AND my back's taken a turn for the better--no pain at all when I lie down. Now I'm addicted to laziness--I don't want to move at all. Oh well, maybe I just need rest. I can do that. Patience heals a lot of things.

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Hope you liked that .  Yes my coffee is good but we’ll on it’s way to activating.  We had a very interactive teen meeting last night.  The moderator was late getting the reminder out so it was pretty a small group.  One raised the topic off blockers or maybe getting to start T since blockers are expensive.  He is seeing a different counselor so that he can get a letter for the prescribing doctor.

 

another is only 11 and can’t do either yet.  In his case he is upset because of breast growth and confusion with other kids over his gender.  There is also a 12 y o girl who was able to start young.  There is no mistaking her gender.  
 

well, I need to get baking.

 

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Good morning all. 

@Willow, I loved the snoopy picture! I needed to see something happy after the excitement here this morning. RIght now, I'm on my second pot of coffee as I've been ups since shortly after two AM. 

 

I was awakened by the police helicopter hovering over the apartment complex, and the shouted commands through a bull horn. THat went on for about half an hour and triggered my PTSD. Then, about four o'clock, some knucklehead fired off about 15 rounds from what sounded like a 9mm pistol. This was followed by sirens, shouted commands and (I hope) an arrest. More PTSD triggers... I could tell what type of pistol was used by the sound of the reports; sharp, flat cracks in rapid succession that were not deep enough for a .45 nor loud enough for something like a .357.  I'm not sure it's a good thing that I can still tell the difference since I left the military in 2003. Still, it was enough to make me start searching for a new place to live this morning.

 

Where I live is a so-called bedroom community, so this was unexpected. In al, this was a heck of a way to begin the weekend.

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Come to find out that my wife may have been upset about a piece of mail from the VA. Were my first and middle name was whited out and someone wrote Kymmie in its place. How petty can she get. She knows that I am Kymmie at the VA.

 

slowly feeling better.

 

Hugs

Kymmie

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1 hour ago, Marcie Jensen said:

this was a heck of a way to begin the weekend.

Guess it started off with a bang.

I'm kinda out in the country here, and we hear frequent gunfire.  But it doesn't trigger me per se. Sometimes I wonder though.  Sometimes it sounds like they're shooting full auto.  I don't see how they can afford the ammo, or why they would even need that.

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@Marcie Jensen@Ivy  I think there's a big difference between gunfire in an urban area vs rural.  Urban...definitely scary.  Rural gunfire is normal, at least where I live.  Especially on Saturdays, there's a lot of practicing going on.  GF was out making some noise of her own this morning.  Even at night, you'll hear it when somebody dispatches a possum or armadillo in the yard.  There's full auto, big cannons, pretty much anything you can think of.  I can't really tell the difference between the smaller kinds like y'all can, but the biggest ones stand out.

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Thank you for your words, @awkward-yet-sweetand @Ivy. Yes, there is a difference between urban and rural gunfire. I was raised in a rural locale and know the difference between hunting, target practice, etc. Where I live is pretty much suburban and I admit I prefer rural areas. That said, gunshots at 4 in the morning are not typical for my area.

 

As to the differences, well, courtesy of a number of combat zones through the years, I've been shot at with small arms, machine guns and grenaded. I've also been mortared, shelled and had RPGs fired at me. Being mortared is the worst. Luckily, I always remembered to duck. What triggered me at first was the chopper. It has to do stuff from years ago that I don't like to think about. The pistol fire was just icing on the cake, so to speak. I never know what will trigger my PTSD; it just happens. My therapist and I are working on it.

 

I remember after the first Gulf War, I'd come home on leave and was talking to my late father. He was a veteran of both WW2 and Korea. He'd been in some pretty heavy stuff, especially in Korea. He told me then, and this was the only time he ever discussed combat with me, that you never get rid of the ghosts--you can only make friends with them. I guess I haven't made friends with them yet.

 

Frankly, I didn't expect to be awakened the way I was. That may have been the triggering moment. It's also the reason I feel the need to relocate to a rural setting. Generally speaking, folks there save their shooting for more civilized hours. 

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@Marcie Jensen I get that the military experience adds a whole new level to it.  My husband and GF grew up together in a very unpleasant urban location.  He was also in the National Guard, although he never talks about it.  GF told me that before I joined the family, there was an incident in a Walmart parking lot.  Somebody set off really loud firecrackers, and it wasn't the 4th of July.  Like the fireworks stands had just opened in June, and people weren't used to the noise yet.  When they went off, my husband dragged GF down to the asphalt, using a vehicle for cover until he figured out what was going on.  Not sure if that's a PTSD-related instinct, or he's just really alert.  Its a shame that people do foolish, alarming things in crowded areas 🙄

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Hi,

 

yes it’s late.  We went to bed early as my wife was already asleep in the chair, and I was tired too.  Unfortunately, I woke up and now I’m wide awake.

 

@Marcie Jensen and @awkward-yet-sweet while I was in the Air Force and stationed in Thailand during 1970 & 1971, I was never in combat.  I thank you Marcie for what you endured and I’m sorry it left you with PTSD.  I’ve been to Phoenix a few times. My bosses from the 90s and early 2k owned real estate in several places and I would go check on it and check on the management companies that were keeping them rented and in good repair.  Unfortunately, they had hired a company in Raleigh that took the position of rent them high, and do no maintenance.  I had to fire him and find a new manager, then get the properties repaired.  The Phoenix properties were north of Camelback.  
 

Around here, we’ll where I used to live near here, there were a lot of old rice paddies across the river.  I think wild boar hunters must be crazy.  They were allowed to hunt after sundown with spotlights.  Anyway, all of a sudden you’d think toy were in a war zone.  They’d see one (maybe more) and open up with everything they had.  If they were good enough to be hitting the poor animal, there could be much good meat left.  Sounded like fully auto m16s were shooting at them.  
 

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Changing the subject, we had a community thanksgiving potluck tonight.  I made yeast bread dinner rolls.  My wife had made a few different types of breads.

 

my rolls were pretty good.  Even our friend Franky who has been to baking school thought they were good.  He is getting ready to start a sourdough to make breads of some sort.

 

Here is how I was dressed, with black slacks and heels to complete the look.

 

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@willow i love the necklace! It sounds like you had a wonderful time.

 

Well, my big weekend is behind me. I am almost recovered from my Vaginabration party.  It was physically demanding which I knew it would be. It's only been 7 weeks since my vaginaplasty. The coochy is still rather sensitive and swollen so I wondered how I would get through the party. Plus, I'm just plain out of shape from post op rest requirements.  My trick was to use numbing cream on the girl parts (externally) and plenty of advil.  It worked pretty well for the first 4 hours. I was able to dance and socialize for most of the night but when it wore off around 10pm I was so swollen and miserable I needed help just to get things into the car and get home. When I went to dilate I was shocked at how badly the lady parts had swollen. I spent Sunday basically horizontal and resting to recover. It was totally worth it though.  

Being a business woman, I have a very large social circle. I invited around 80 people to the party. I only wanted women there that had an impact on me during my transition. It may have been just a one time statement or action that had an outsized effect or someone who was there every step of the way. 50 or so showed up. 95% were cisgendered straight women. I've mentioned this before on this forum but I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to go out and find and surround yourself with non queer girlfriends. (or male friends if you are transmasculine)  I know a fair number of queer women, and a number were invited but honestly, it's the straight cis women who have been the most supportive. 

What was also fun about this event was that my circle of friends is actually a number of different circles that intersect with my life so almost everyone at the party were unfamiliar with at least a third of the other guests.  Some didn't know anyone else.  But here was the cool thing.  A lot of them came up to me and thanked me for creating a space for them to meet new people and everyone commented on how there were so many amazing people that they got to meet and make new connections/friendships with.  

 

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On 11/20/2022 at 12:05 AM, Willow said:

Here is how I was dressed, with black slacks and heels to complete the look

Good morning everyone,:coffee:

 

@Willow, I love the happy vibes this picture gives off. I also agree with @Bri2020that necklace is amazing.

2 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

But here was the cool thing.  A lot of them came up to me and thanked me for creating a space for them to meet new people and everyone commented on how there were so many amazing people that they got to meet and make new connections/friendships with.  

@Bri2020That is cool, and I'm glad you're taking time to recuperate.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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@Bri2020Sounds like an absolutely wonderful time. I agree with the idea of having non-queer women friends. My very best friend, who unfortunately lives in New England, and I are like sisters. I have a brunch date upcoming this weekend with a woman I met a couple of months ago. While not friends in the go-out-and-do-stuff-together variety, there are a number of women where I work who simply accept me as a woman. Some know my story, others might, some don't. It's all good, and it's important to feel that kind of acceptance. 

 

I've only met two trans women, both from here. I would love to meet more. That, too, is a very important part of the journey and my growth.

 

 That said, I don't think I even know 80 people.

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Hi

 

i have friends that are cis women, transgender women and transgender men. I am closest to one transgender woman and one transgender man other than my wife of course.

 

Bri it dos sound like you over did it just a bit.

 

that’s for the compliments on the necklace.  A sales girl did a good job of convincing me.  I was trying on a number of things and she added it to the pile.  It went really well with what I was interested in and I have found other times that it looked good too.  Yes I too had a good time and came home happy, all 150 feet.  Not everything is perfect here, but I’m glad we moved here.

 

our daughter and one granddaughter will be here for thanksgiving.  They will be arriving about midnight tomorrow.

 

we are excited for them to come.  Now if we could just get our son and his wife to come.  Holidays are out for our son, he always ends up having to work. 
 

Willow

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It would be nice to have friends period, other than my wife. Yet, she doesn't support me. OH, well. Life goes on. just as we went to bed. She tells me, I don't understand but I love you.

 

@Bri2020 , girl you over did it. Did your hang over move south from your head?

 

Kymmie

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Good Wednesday morning.  Our family got here about 12:30 last night.  An extra family member came too.  Teddy!  Our daughters Teddy bear dog.  That’s fine, it gives our dog Sweetie company.  Teddy is maybe 15 lbs Sweeties is 57 lbs. but since they are used to each other Sweetie doesn’t get all over excited and rough with him and he doesn’t run away.

 

looking forward to doing some baking this afternoon.  And making my stuffing.

 

Happy Thanksgiving to all.

 

Hugs

 

Willow

 

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Hi everyone 

 

You can never know when this could be come true.  We know about all the shootings in the last week or so.

 

Well, I honestly thought I was a goner tonight.  I’ve been having serious issues swallowing for a while now.  My ENT specialist is trying to figure it out. Usually, it’s like swallowing a sip of water and it “going down the wrong way.  Well, tonight I was eating a roll I’d made and it got stuck.  Really stuck!  I couldn’t breath, I couldn’t swallow and I couldn’t hack it up. I was getting quite concerned.  Tried taking a drink, had to spit that out.  Obviously, I got it unstuck but it took some work.

 

My point is live your life to the fullest.  Live how you want and need to be.  Don’t think about tomorrow, it may not come.  Love your friends and.family and don’t hold grudges.  
 

 

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2 hours ago, Willow said:

You can never know when this could be come true. 

 

Indeed.  I was nearly murdered in August.  I'm still recovering, as my brain injury has made me have to relearn a lot of how to work with my hands.  It hasn't exactly been a transformative experience, but I've done some thinking about my life. 

 

This Thanksgiving, I'm extra thankful for my family and friends.  We'll have a big feast tomorrow, but I'd be thankful even if I was homeless and hungry.  Life is about people, and our relationships are the only thing of true value.  With family and friends, life is full.  Those relationships are the only thing that we retain in the afterlife, after all possessions pass away. 

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